TIPS UNTUK BERJAYA DALAM HIDUP / TIPS FOR SUCCESS IN LIFE05.06.10

TIPS UNTUK BERJAYA


Kata-kata mereka ini mungkin mampu memberikan inspirasi kepada anda untuk melakukan perkara-perkara yang anda impikan. Mungkin juga  boleh membantu anda berjaya dan juga mungkin juga boleh membuatkan anda bahagia.

1. “Semua impian kita boleh menjadi kenyataan – jika kita mempunyai keberanian untuk melaksanakannya.” - Walt Disney

2. “Masa anda adalah terhad, jangan membazir hidup memikirkan orang lain. Jangan terperangkap dengan  hasil pemikiran orang lain. Jangan biarkan bunyi pendapat orang lain sehingga melemaskan suara hati anda sendiri. Dan yang paling penting, anda mempunyai keberanian untuk mengikuti gerak hati anda. ” – Steve Jobs

3. “Hidup itu pendek, hidup. Cinta jarang berlaku, rebut. Kemarahan adalah tidak baik, buangkannya. Ketakutan adalah besar, hadapinya. Kenangan yang manis, hargai ia. ” - Peribahasa

4. “Jangan katakan yang anda tidak mempunyai masa yang cukup. Anda juga mempunyai  masa yang sama seperti orang lain iaitu 24 jam sehari . Begitu juga dengan  Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Ibu Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, dan Albert Einstein.” - H. Jackson Brown Jr

5. “Kurang takut, harap lebih, kurang mengeluh, bernafas lebih, kurang bercakap, bekerja lebih, kurang benci, suka lebih, dan perkara-perkara yang baik akan menjadi milik anda.” - Peribahasa Sweden

6. “Terima tanggungjawab untuk hidup anda. Semuaanya di tangan anda. Bukan di tangan orang lain.”- Les Brown

7. “Apabila salah satu pintu kebahagiaan ditutup, yang lain terbuka, tetapi sering kita melihat begitu lama pada pintu yang tertutup sehingga kita tidak melihat satu yang telah dibuka untuk kita.” - Helen Keller

8. “Kebahagiaan bukan sesuatu yang anda tangguhkan untuk masa depan, ia adalah sesuatu yang anda reka bentuk untuk masa kini.”- Jim Rohn

9. “Perbezaan antara orang yang berjaya dengan orang yang gagal adalah dari segi kekurangan kekuatan, bukan kekurangan pengetahuan. ” - Vince Lombardi

10. “Memang pahit apabila gagal, tetapi itu adalah lebih baik dari langsung tidak pernah cuba untuk berjaya.” - Theodore Roosevelt

11. “Saya telah terlepas lebih daripada 9000 gambar dalam kerjaya saya. Saya telah kehilangan hampir 300 permainan. 26 kali, saya cuba ditembak dan terlepas. Saya telah gagal berulang-ulang kali dalam hidup saya. Dan itulah sebabnya saya berjaya. ” - Michael Jordan

12. “Dalam usaha untuk berjaya, keinginan anda untuk berjaya harus lebih besar daripada ketakutan anda kepada kegagalan.” - Rang Undang-Undang Cosby

13. “Ia bukan kerana perkara-perkara yang sukar, ia adalah kerana kita tidak berani melakukan perkara-perkara yang sukar.”- Seneca

14. “Hanya yang paling bijak dan sangat bodoh yang tidak boleh berubah.” - Confucius

15. “Mengetahui sahaja tidak mencukupi, kita perlu lakukan .” - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

16. “Kita adalah apa yang kita lakukan berkali-kali. Kecemerlangan, bukan merupakan satu tindakan tetapi satu tabiat.” - Aristotle

17. “Wawasan tanpa tindakan adalah angan-angan. Tindakan tanpa wawasan adalah mimpi.” - Peribahasa Jepun

18. “Matlamat adalah impian dengan tarikh akhir.” - Napoleon Hill

19. “Tiba di satu matlamat merupakan titik permulaan kepada yang lain.” - John Dewey

20. “Bina impian anda sendiri, atau orang lain akan mengambil anda untuk membina impian mereka.” - Farrah Gray

21. “Perkara-perkara yang baik datang kepada mereka yang menunggu … perkara-perkara yang lebih besar pula datang kepada orang-orang yang sanggup melakukan apa sahaja untuk menjadikan ianya berlaku.” - Peribahasa

22. “Perjalanan seribu batu bermula dengan satu langkah.” - Lao Tzu

23. “Ketika kita melakukan kebaikan pada seseorang, kita sebenarnya telah berbuat baik pada diri kita sendiri. – Peribahasa

24. “Orang yg berjaya dalam hidup adalah orang yang nampak tujuannya dengan jelas & menjurus kepadanya tanpa menyimpang. – Peribahasa

25. “Bermimpilah yang sebesar-besarnya, tapi segeralah untuk melakukan sekecil-kecil kebaikan yang terdekat.” -Mario Teguh

Adakah petikan ini memberikan anda sedikit inspirasi? Mari kita senaraikan lagi. Sila tambah dan kongsikan petikan dan kata-kata motivasi yang telah memberi inspirasi kepada anda di ruangan komen dibawah ini. Sama ada dari anda sendiri mahu pun dari orang lain. Manalah tahu ianya mampu memberi manfaat kepada orang lain juga.

8 Tips Berjaya Dan Bahagia

Untuk kebanyakan manusia, agak sukar untuk mendapat kejayaan dan kebahagiaan sekaligus. Ada orang bahagia sekalipun mungkin kehidupannya sederhana, dan ada orang berjaya dalam hidup dari sudut karier tapi tidak bahagia. Tetapi tak mustahil untuk dapatkan kedua-duanya sekali. Mungkin sedikit pengorbanan yang ikhlas akan membuahkan kejayaan dan kebahagiaan yang indah untuk anda.
Tip 1: Mula kembali
Andai berusaha tetapi tidak berjaya, jangan berhenti di situ. Mula kembali. Kalau orang Barat cakap “When things are not going right or you get knocked down, bounce right back again.” Selidik punca kegagalan. Dan kemudiannya mulakan langkah baru. Lekuk yang berlaku kerana disebabkan air, bukan kerana setitik air yang meniti itu terus membentuk lekukan tersebut. Malahan titisan tersebut jatuh berulang dan berulang sehingga membentuk lekuk tersebut. Anda juga boleh!
Tip 2: Komitmen 100%
Bagaikan tidak ada rasanya dalam kisah kejayaan mereka yang berusaha dan berkomitmen 60% tetapi mendapat hasil 100%. Mustahil melainkan tuah yang Allah SWT berikan. Bermakna nak berjaya dan bahagia anda perlu setiap hari memberikan komitmen kepada misi dan visi hidup anda. Berikan sepenuh tumpuan untuk mencapai apa yang anda inginkan. Bukan melepaskan batuk di tangga atau hangat-hangat tahi ayam. Tetapi buat betul-betul.
Tip 3: Cari penyelesaian bukan alasan
Semestinya dalam karier dan kehidupan akan hadapi banyak sekali cabaran dan masalah. Tetapi kita kadang-kadang terkeliru adakah apa yang kita lakukan itu adalah jalan penyelesaian atau alasan yang akan memburukkan lagi keadaan tersebut. Orang yang dilanda masalah dengan negatif akan mencari alasan. Dan orang yang menghadapi masalah dengan positif akan berusaha untuk mencari jalan penyelesaian sebaik mungkin walau apa pun caranya.
Tip 4: Bina hubungan dengan orang lain
Nak berjaya dalam karier memang kena banyak kenalan. Lagi ramai lagi bagus. Bak kata pepatah Melayu “Berkawan biar seribu”. Tak kiralah apa jua pekerjaan yang anda ceburi. Part-time atau profesional semuanya memerlukan ramai hubungan untuk berjaya. Begitulah juga jika ingin bahagia. Bina hubungan dengan orang lain sekurang-kurangnya kita dapat mempelajari kehidupan orang lain untuk memperbaiki perhubungan dalam keluarga kita. Ataupun jika kita dilanda masalah kita mempunyai ramai sahabat untuk kita minta doakan kita agar berjaya dan bahagia.
Tip 5: Jaga diri anda
Paling penting sebelum kita jaga orang lain, jaga diri sendiri. Jaga diri anda melalui tiga cara: kesihatan anda, perhubungan anda dengan orang lain dan kerjaya anda. Hilang imbangan ketiga-tiga perkara ini akan memberikan anda tekanan-tekanan yang lain pula. Jangan lupa jaga DIRI ANDA! Apabila kesihatan terganggu anda akan tidak dapat melakukan kerja dan juga tidak dapat membina hubungan dengan orang lain. Begitulah apabila anda hilang kerjaya, sudah pasti tidak ada sesiapa yang ingin membina hubungan dengan anda.
Tip 6: Keluarlah dari kegelapan
Wah! Keluar dari kegelapan bermakna anda mencari cahaya bukan? Memang benar. Nak berjaya, nak bahagia jangan terlalu terikat dengan pemikiran yang lama. Cubalah sesuatu yang baru, lebih kreatif dan dapat meransang diri untuk terus membina kejayaan diri, keluarga dan kerjaya.
Tip 7: Jadilah tangan yang di atas
Jadilah insan pemurah. Mereka yang pemurah akan diberkati Allah. Allah SWT akan mempermudahkan urusannya kerana banyak membantu orang lain dan manusia pula akan terus mendoakannya agar berada dalam kebahagiaan di dunia dan akhirat. Bayangkan bila semua orang doakan kita. Perasaan tenang dan bahagia mula hadir dalam diri kita.
Menjadi insan pemurah bukan mengharapkan anda memberi derma beribu-ribu baru dianggap pemurah. Memadailah anda seorang yang suka membantu orang lain.
Tip 8: Cari di mana keseronokkan bekerja
Andai sudah hilang rasa seronok untuk bekerja sekarang, jangan terus dalam keadaan demikian. Pastikan apa yang anda perlukan untuk mengembalikan susasana keseronokkan tersebut. Jika anda memerlukan cabaran yang baru, suasana baru dan rakan kerja yang baru tiada salahnya jika itu semua menuntut anda untuk berhijrah ke tempat kerja yang baru.
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LAGI TIPS BERJAYA DALAM HIDUP

Jangan berpuashati dengan keadaan baik yang ada pada anda sekarang melainkan anda telah berusaha keras untuk menjadikan yang baik itu menjadi lebih baik.

Teruskan belajar untuk memperbaiki hidup agar matlamat ini tercapai. Belajar tidak semestinya melalui sekolah formal atau buku-buku mahal. Kita boleh belajar dan terus belajar melalui pengalaman hidup kita sehari-harian atau melalui pengalaman orang lain.

Bak kata pepatah, belajarlah daripada kesalahan-kesalahan orang lain kerana anda tidak akan hidup lama untuk melakukan kesalahan-kesalahan itu sendirian. Apa yang saya ingin kongsi di sini ialah hasil tulisan seorang penulis yang saya kira sangat baik untuk dikongsi bersama.

Tulisan beliau ini berkisar tentang nasihat dalam surat kuno yang ditulis oleh Zhuge Liang (181 m-234 m) kepada anaknya. Menurut analisa penulis dari surat kuno tersebut, berikut adalah sikap-sikap yang menguatkan hidup seseorang manusia:-

1. Tenang – Sikap tenang boleh menjernihkan fikiran dan membulatkan tindakan yang lebih tepat. Berbanding dengan orang yang tidak tenang fikirannya kusut dan ragu-ragu dalam melakukan sesuatu tindakan.

2. Berhemat – Sikap berhemat menjamin kesinambungan hidup yang lebih teratur berbanding dengan orang yang boros. Orang yang boros selalu ditimbuni hutang atau kesusahan.

3. Pandai Merancang – Orang yang pandai merancang kehidupan akan sentiasa meletakkan perkara penting sebagai keutamaan dalam hidup berbanding dengan orang yang tidak pandai merancang mereka selalu meletakkan perkara remeh sebagai keutamaan.

4. Sentiasa ingin belajar – Kemampuan seseorang manusia bukan berasal dari pembawaannya sejak dilahirkan, tetapi merupakan hasil dari proses pembelajaran yang dilakukannya secara konsisten sejak dari kecil. Oleh sebab itu jangan berhenti belajar sampai bila-bilapun. Di samping itu, dalam proses pembelajaran kita setiap hari kerendahan hati amat membantu kita untuk menyerap dengan mudah semua ilmu pengetahuan yang diinginkan.

5. Suka memberi – Dalam hidup ini kita tidak seharusnya hanya belajar menerima sesuatu dari orang lain. Kita Seharusnya belajar memberi yang terbaik kepada orang lain kerana ini akan membuatkan orang lain lebih menghargai kita.

6. Tidak berlengah – Sifat suka menunda atau melewat-lewatkan sesuatu usaha boleh melambatkan pencapaian sesuatu matlamat. Oleh itu, kita mesti sentiasa cepat bertindak kerana waktu itu adalah amat berharga.

7. Personaliti cemerlang – Perwatakan utuh itu adalah nadi kehormatan dan kegemilangan sesuatu bangsa. Seperti dalam pepatah orang Tionghoa, ” Waktu yang diperlukan untuk menanam dan memelihara sebatang pohon adalah 10 tahun, tapi untuk membentuk watak yang utuh untuk sesuatu bangsa memerlukan waktu paling sedikit 100 tahun.”

8. Berpandangan jauh – Hal ini juga pernah diucapkan oleh Albert Einstein, “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” Imiginasi adalah segalanya.

9. Bersedarhana – “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – Kejayaan adalah hasil dari tindakan-tindakan sederhana yang diulang terus-menerus setiap hari. Insya’allah..

ANDA PERLU BACA KISAH MANUSIA HEBAT INI JIKA INGIN BERJAYA

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Adakah anda kenal siapa beliau. Inilah Biilionaire Melayu yang sebenar. Nama beliau ialah Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar Al Bukhary. Walaupun saya tidak pernah jumpa dengan beliau namun semangat dan keyakinan beliau dalam sesuatu kerja memberi impak besar pada diri saya untuk jadi seperti beliau.

Sekarang saya berusaha sedikit demi sedikit menubuhkan syarikat saya seperti mana kerja yang beliau lakukan. walaupun tidak sama tapi semangat seperti beliau mesti sama :)

Kalau saya jumpa beliau, saya  suka berganding bahu dengan Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar Bukhary kerana kisah dia membuatkan saya bersemangat untuk menjadi seperti beliau malah berimpian untuk membina empayar terbesar satu hari nanti.

Tujuan saya nak membina adalah untuk kepentingan orang ramai bukan untuk diri saya. Saya masih ingat 49 kata-kata hikmah dari beliau dan membuatkan saya tidak lupa tentag hidup ini dan impian saya, antara kata-katanya ialah :-

1. Ada sebab kenapa saya bekerja seperti tiada hari esok. Agenda sosial dan kerjakerja kemasyarakatan itulah antara sebabnya. Saya mahu meninggalkan warisan untuk anak bangsa yang kekal berpanjangan.

2. (Berkenaan know who) Bangsa lain tak mengapa tapi orang Melayu kena berdamping dengan orang politik sedikit-sedikit. Tapi masalahnya kita tidak mahu melalui kesusahan; banyak yang mahu senang dengan mendampingi orang politik semata-mata.

3. Tiada apa-apa rahsia. Saya ini hamba Allah biasa, budak dangau macam saudara semua juga. Tuhan jadikan manusia ini sama sahaja. Proses kematangan saya yang membezakannya. Saya percaya sesiapa pun boleh menjadi apa sahaja asalkan mereka berusaha dengan tekun. Tetapi tentulah ia memakan masa. Tiada jalan singkat.

4. Saya mengenali kekuatan dan kelemahan saya. Apa yang tidak mampu buat saya akan minta orang lain tengok-tengokkan. Saya melalui jalan yang susah tapi itulah jalan yang kekal.

5. Kita perlu menggunakan kepakaran mereka (bangsa Cina) kerana mereka jauh lebih maju dan mahir daripada kita. Apa yang kita kurang faham kita berkongsi dengan tujuan untuk belajar dengan mereka. Apabila sudah faham baru kita boleh menjaga kepentingan kita.

6. Saya sedih melihat sistem sekolah pondok di Kedah. Saya ada cita-cita mahu memodenkan sekolah pondok. Kita kena maju.

7. Saya terlibat dalam perniagaan ini kerana saya tiada pilihan lain.

8. Untuk memajukan perniagaan, memang kena banyak sabar dan kuat berusaha.

9. Tidak ada jalan singkat. Saya belajar tentang perniagaan ini sejak kecil lagi dan saya juga biasa kena tipu.

10. Saya pun suka kemewahan. Saya pun suka tengok dunia, ke Tokyo, New York dan London. Saya pun suka pakai baju elok. Tapi kita hendak bermewah setakat mana, hendak pakai baju banyak mana, hendak tidur dalam berapa rumah satu malam, hendak makan pun sampai larat mana?

11. Dalam hidup ini kita sebenarnya tidak ada status; ada masa diatas, ada masa dibawah.

12. Ketika Allah memberikan kemewahan, kita kena turun ke bawah, tengok manamana yang boleh dibantu. Allah beri rezeki melalui kita untuk kita tolong orang lain. Rezeki itu bila-bila masa dia boleh ambil balik. Jika ada orang korporat Melayu yang tidak mahu turun ke bawah mungkin kerana bayangan duit itu lebih kuat daripada yang lain.

13. Korporat Cina turun ke bawah membantu. Orang Cina ada pelbagai persatuan. Kita tidak ada; kalau ada pun berpecah. Orang Melayu kita tidak mahu bekerjasama kerana perasaan dengki menguasai diri. Sudahlah tak mahu berusaha, apabila orang lain berusaha mereka marah.

14. Rezeki yang ada itu sebenarnya untuk orang lain. Memang dari segi hukum pun begitu. Kita kena keluar zakat dan fitrah. Tetapi zakat fitrah banyak mana sangat. Islam agama yang adil; ia minta sedikit saja. Oleh itu, kalau ada duit yang lebih ia seharusnya dibelanjakan dengan baik.

15. Saya tak kisah kalau saya tak buat semua ini. Saya boleh tak buat apa-apa dan balik ke Alor Star. Tetapi saya rasa hidup ini sia-sia. Orang Kedah kata kalau mati nanti mata tidak tutup rapat kerana tanggungjawab depan mata kita tidak buat. Orang lain ambil kekayaan kita, ambil hak kita dan pergunakan kita, kita masih tidak buat apa-apa !

16. Saya ada emotional attachment kepada agama, bangsa dan ummah. Saya bukan individualistik. Diri saya tidak penting. Pangkat dan gelaran ini kepada saya tidak mustahak.

17. Saya sedih media tonjolkan saya begini. Saya malu kerana orang Cina kaya beratus-ratus kali ganda daripada saya. Tapi saya tahu orang Melayu kalau hendak berjaya kena kerja kuat tidak kira siang malam. Kita ada kekuatan yang Tuhan beri melebihi daripada bangsa lain. Tetapi untuk maju kita perlu berusaha.

18. Saya asal daripada tidak ada apa-apa. Apa yang saya tidak tahu saya belajar, minta tolong daripada orang. Saya tidak malu. Saya bukannya mencuri. Saya usaha sendiri. Sikap pemalas dan pemalu ini yang orang Melayu kena atasi. Kita kena berani kerana benar. Apabila kita dapat keuntungan dan rezeki lebih, bolehlah kita menolong orang.

19. Kaya itu bukanlah kepada diri sendiri. Kaya itu adalah kepada kumpulan perniagaan ini, kepada bangsa dan kepada orang ramai. Saya hanya memegangnya untuk sementara.

20. Saya tiada keinginan untuk menyimpan kekayaan ini untuk anak dan isteri. Duit ini tidak akan kekal. Saya percaya hanya perkara yang baik yang kita lakukakan akan kekal. Bukan duit yang akan melindungi saya nanti tapi apa yang saya lakukan sekarang.

21. Saya perlu terus mencari peluang dan perniagaan lain supaya kita terus dapat bantu orang lain mengembangkan diri masing-masing. Saya bukan buat semua ini untuk diri saya semata-mata.

22. Ada juga yang saya usaha tapi tak dapat dan orang tak tahu. Apa yang saya dapat itu yang jadi masalah kononnya Syed Mokhtar sapu semua. Bangsa lain memegang pelbagai kepentingan dalam ekonomi, siapa pun tak kata apa. Ini masalah orang Melayu. Di kampung orang Melayu berpecah kerana politik, di bandar berpecah kerana ini (wang).

23. Saya percaya kalau rezeki itu Allah beri kepada saya ia bukan untuk saya tetapi untuk orang ramai juga. Orang tidak tahu banyak syarikat yang saya ada ini gagal dan tidak maju kepada saya tetapi orang tidak tahu.

24. Banyak orang percaya bahawa dia mesti ada RM10 juta atau RM20 juta dalam tangan baru hidup boleh selamat. Ini yang menyebabkan mereka hanyut daripada menolong orang lain. Mereka lebih takutkan diri sendiri. Mereka lupa bahawa kekayaan tidak boleh membantu selama-lamanya.

25. Orang kata saya takda duit tapi banyak hutang. Orang berniaga mana yang tak berhutang. Tapi mesti tahu bagaimana hendak meminjam dan membayarnya semula. Ada cara boleh kita buat. Tapi sebelum berhutang RM100 juta mesti sudah fikir bagaimana hendak membayarnya balik. Mesti ada tanggungjawab. Banyak orang mahu senang tapi tidak ramai yang mahu bertanggungjawab.

26. (Perasaan setiap kali mendapat rezeki). Saya ini kata orang Kedah, lebai kodok bukan lebai pondok. Tapi saya tahu hal-hal asas. Kalau mahu saya minta terus dari Tuhan. Tuhan beri manusia akal dan fikiran. Kalau hendak pakai baju dan seluar biarlah padan dengan badan

27. Kesenangan yang saya perolehi ini datang dengan tanggungjawab (bila pinjam bayar balik dan buat amal jariah). Kalau hendak dibandingkan dengan bangsa lain, perniagaan saya ini tidak ada apa. Tetapi walaupun sedikit tetapi yang sedikit itu ada berkatnya.

28. Saya suka kalau nikmat sedikit yang saya dapat itu orang lain boleh berkongsi sama.

29. Saya kadang-kadang kecewa dan sedih melihat anak orang alim yang sesetengahnya lupa diri setelah mendapat kekayaan. Saya pun sama seperti orang lain suka hendak ke luar negara tetapi kita tidak boleh lupa kubur kita dan asal usul kita. Di kampung kita mungkin ada jiran-jiran yang perlukan bantuan.

30. ……kalau tidak mungkin saya sudah ke Haatyai dan jadi nakal. Saya manusia yang banyak buat kesilapan. Tetapi saya insaf, beristighfar dan jalan lagi. Sejak awal saya ada kesedaran mahu mengekalkan hak kita sebagai orang Melayu.

31. Saya kata kepada diri sendiri kalau kerana itu saya terpaksa bersusah sedikit pun tidak mengapa.

32. Kekayaan ini Tuhan beri kepada saya untuk saya menolong orang lain pula. Saya percaya kepada keberkatan rezeki. Hari ini kita tolong orang, esok lusa orang akan tolong kita pula dengan cara yang lain.

33. Kalaupun tidak sanggup tunggu 34 tahun seperti saya berilah sedikit masa untuk faham selok belok perniagaan, Insya Allah boleh maju.

34. Kita jangan cepat putus asa. Putus asa boleh tapi kena cepat-cepat kuatkan semula semangat untuk bangkit balik. Jangan jadikan agama hanya satu tempat untuk kita bergantung apabila kita susah. Tanggungjawab ibadah adalah tugas seharian.

35. Lifestyle ? Saya tidak ada lifestyle yang kena masuk kelab sana dan sini. Tapi tak semestinya saya tidak boleh turun ke kelab. Orang Melayu kalau hendak ke depan mesti ada cara hidup yang fleksibel, boleh naik dan turun.

36. Lifestyle ini sebenarnya satu penyakit. Saya biasa pakai Mercedes tapi sekarang saya pakai Proton Perdana untuk sokong kereta nasional. Kereta itu pun cukup untuk bawa saya ke mana-mana.

37. Tiada sebab orang kenapa Melayu tidak boleh maju. Ini saya berani perang dengan sesiapa pun. Orang Melayu boleh maju. Kalau saudara jadi wartawan saudara kena tanam semangat suatu hari nanti mahu ambil alih akhbar ini. Tidak ada sebab kenapa ia tidak boleh berlaku.

38. Kejayaan dan kelemahan orang Melayu bukan disebabkan oleh bangsa kita dan agama kita. Ia berkait dengan sikap dan cara kita berfikir. Gigih, tekun dan tidak mudah putus asa merupakan kunci kejayaan kita. Tapi perkara ini kurang wujud dalam cara orang Melayu berfikir.

39. Tuhan memberi peluang kepada siapa saja yang bekerja kuat. Apa yang ada pada saya ini hanya usaha. Kalau anak dangau macam saya boleh, tidak ada sebab orang lain terutama mereka yang dari pekan tidak boleh.

40. Kita tidak usahlah selalu mengulang-ulang perkara yang boleh memberikan kesan psikologi negatif kepada orang Melayu (kereta dan rumah besar). Kita kena kurangkan bercakap tentang kereta besar dan rumah besar. Sesiapa pun mahu pakai kereta mewah tapi bukan itu matlamatnya.

41. Orang Melayu sebenarnya kena membantu diri sendiri, kena bekerja keras & fokus.

42. Sikap merendah diri perlu sentiasa ada dalam diri seseorang walau setinggi mana pun kejayaan dicapai.

43. Apa yang saya buat ini (kerja-kerja sosial) semuanya bermula daripada didikan orang tua saya sendiri.

44. Saya sendiri berhutang sambil berniaga dan buat sumbangan amal jariah. Saya tak mahu tunggu hutang habis baru hendak buat semua ini. Saya takut kalau hutang habis saya pun mati dan apa pun tak sempat saya buat.

45. Saya biasa saja. Hidup saya tidak berubah, dari dulu beginilah. Saya terima apa saja nikmat yang diberikan oleh Allah . Tidak ada segelas air, ada setengah gelas pun saya bersyukur.

46. Kalau kerana sedikit bantuan itu mereka lulus peperiksaan dan hidup mereka menjadi lebih baik, saya sudah gembira. Saya tidak boleh buat banyak. Alhamdulillah, lebih baik buat sedikit daripada tidak buat langsung.

47. Saya tiada minat untuk beli kapal layar atau kapal terbang. Saya fikir kalau saya beli sesuatu biarlah orang ramai boleh pakai. Saya suka kalau saya beli sesuatu yang mahal, biarlah orang ramai boleh pakai.

48. Saya gembira dapat membantu. Saya mahu orang lain merasai (kesenangan) apa yang saya pernah rasa. Saya tahu bagaimana perasaanya. Saya kata kepada diri saya, apa yang saya dapat saya mesti beri orang lain merasainya sama. Jangan beri kurang, lebih tak mengapa. Itu yang membuat hati saya seronok.

49. Saya rasa saya ingin menyumbang lebih daripada ini. Saya kata kepada kawan-kawan ini baru warm-up saja; kita belum berjalan lagi. Saya rasa kita terlalu banyak ketinggalan. Itulah kata-kata hikmah Tan Sri. ia membuatkan saya sedar akan kejayaan beliau :)

Anda minat baca kisah beliau :- Latar belakang kehidupan Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar dilahirkan di Alor Setar, Kedah pada tahun 1951. Keluarganya berasal dari Hadhramaut, Yemen. Sebelum mengambil keputusan menetap di Kedah, bapanya mengembara hingga ke Asia Tengah untuk berniaga.

Seterusnya, bapanya ke Thailand. Pada pertengahan tahun 40-an, barulah bapa Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar mengambil keputusan menetap di Alor Setar, Kedah. Pada tahun 1946, bapanya mendirikan rumah tangga. Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar mempunyai tujuh orang adik beradik dan dia adalah anak yang ketiga.

Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar hidup dalam keadaan yang serba kekurangan hinggakan rumah kayunya yang terletak di Kampung Hutan Keriang tidak mempunyai katil, meja mahupun kerusi.

Ini menyebabkan beliau susah hendak menelaah. Walaupun demikian, setiap yang berlaku itu pasti ada hikmahnya. Keadaan itu juga mendorong beliau supaya memulakan kelas tuisyen percuma sebagai salah satu program kebajikan di bawah Yayasan al-Bukhary yang ditubuhkannya bagi menyumbang ke arah kebajikan.

Kini, seramai 15,000 orang pelajar mendapat faedah daripada program tuisyen itu. Pendidikan Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar memulakan persekolahannya di Alor Setar tetapi apabila beliau berusia 9 tahun, beliau dihantar tinggal bersama-sama dengan bapa saudaranya, Syed Omar di Johor Bahru. Beliau berada di situ dari darjah empat hinggalah ke tingkatan dua. Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar kemudiannya kembali ke kampung halamannya di Alor Setar dan menyambung persekolahannya hingga ke tingkatan lima di Sekolah Saint Micheal’s. Sebenarnya, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar bukanlah orang yang berpendidikan tinggi. Beliau tidak pernah belajar hingga ke peringkat universiti. Namun, ini tidak bermakna beliau seorang yang tidak berilmu. Kebanyakan ilmunya diperoleh melalui pengalaman secara langsung apabila beliau bergiat dalam dunia perniagaan sejak kecil lagi. Membantu keluarga Disebabkan keadaan keluarganya yang kurang berkemampuan, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar membantu ibunya menanam sayur-sayuran bagi menampung pendapatan keluarga. Mereka menjualnya di pasar di Jalan Telok Wan Jah. Beliau juga menjual roti canai di pasar yang sama. Semasa waktu rehat di sekolah pula, ayahnya akan menemuinya di sekolah dan memintanya membuat simpan kira. Selepas waktu sekolah, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar membantu menggembala haiwan peliharaan bapanya di pusat kuarantin berdekatan dengan stesen kereta api Alor Setar. Beliau banyak menimba ilmu dan pengalaman semasa melakukan kerja-kerja itu.

Mula berniaga Pada tahun 1970-an, perniagaan binatang ternakan bapanya mengalami kemerosotan ekoran tercetusnya wabak kaki dan mulut. Wabak itu merebak ke seluruh Selatan Thailand, Kedah dan Perlis. Semua binatang ternakannya mati begitu sahaja. Sejak itu, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar mengambil alih perniagaan bapanya dan membuat keputusan untuk tidak lagi melibatkan diri dalam bidang penternakan. Beliau mula menjual daging secara kecil-kecilan. Sebenarnya, Beliau pergi dari pekan ke pekan di sekitar Alor Setar bagi membeli daging yang tidak terjual.

Beliau kemudiannya membungkus daging itu bersama ais dan menjualnya kembali kepada peniaga Bumiputera dan restoran-restoran di sekitar Alor Setar. Beliau berjaya dalam perniagaan itu. Kejayaan itu menambahkan keyakinan beliau bagi memajukan diri dalam dunia perniagaan.

Daripada perniagaan menjual daging, beliau beralih pula kepada perniagaan pengangkutan. Pada tahun 1972, beliau berjaya mendapat permit bagi empat buah lori Kelas A. Beliau mendapat bantuan pinjaman sebanyak RM110,000 daripada pihak MARA yang digunakannya bagi membeli dua buah lori Mercedes 911LS. Sebenarnya, seorang peniaga Cina menawarkan sejumlah wang bagi baki dua permit yang tidak digunakannya. Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar enggan dan menyerahkan permit itu kembali kepada MARA. Selepas membeli dua buah lori itu, Tan Sri Syed membuka syarikat pengangkutan yang dinamakan Syarikat Pengangkutan Sentosa dan melantik kerani Cina sebagai pengurus syarikatnya itu.

Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar menggunakan lori-lorinya bagi memulakan perniagaan beras. Syarikat Kenderaan Sentosa masih wujud sehingga ke hari ini dan memiliki lebih daripada 40 buah lori. Menubuhkan syarikat Pada tahun 1974, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar membeli rumah kedainya yang pertama di Jalan Telok Wan Jah di bawah perjanjian sewa beli dengan UDA atau Perbadanan Kemajuan Bandar. Seterusnya, pada tahun 1975, beliau menubuhkan Syarikat Shah dan memohon lesen perdagangan beras daripada Lembaga Padi Negara yang kini dikenali sebagai Bernas. Tuah ayam nampak di kaki, tuah manusia siapa yang tahu.

Dia berjaya mendapat kontrak bagi membekalkan beras ke pihak FELDA, MARA Senama, Pernas Edar dan juga Sergam Sdn. Bhd., iaitu anak syarikat Perbadanan Kemajuan Ekonomi Negeri Johor.

Selepas berjaya dengan Syarikat Shah, beliau menubuhkan syarikat usaha sama dengan dua orang peniaga Cina, iaitu Ng Ghiak Gee dan Chua Chong Tan. Ghiak Gee adalah pedagang beras manakala Chong Tan pula pengilang beras.

Dalam syarikat usaha sama itu, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar memegang 52 peratus kepentingan manakala Ghiak Gee dan Chong Tan masing-masing 32 peratus dan 16 peratus. Perniagaan usaha sama yang diberi nama Bukhary Sdn. Bhd. itu memulakan operasinya pada 15 Julai 1976, di pejabatnya di Jalan Telok Wan Jah.

Perniagaan terus berkembang Daripada beras, beliau kemudiannya mengembangkan perniagaannya kepada komoditi lain, iaitu gula. Ini masih dijalankan sehingga ke hari ini melalui Bukhary Sdn. Bhd. Pendapatan tahunan Bukhary Sdn. Bhd. kini mencecah RM250 juta. Setahun selepas Bukhary Sdn. Bhd. memulakan operasinya, beliau menubuhkan Bukhary (KL) Sdn. Bhd. pada tahun 1977. Syarikat itu ditubuhkan khas bagi mendapatkan kontrak kerajaan yang pada masa itu banyak ditawarkan kepada usahawan Bumiputera. Operasi Bukhary (KL) Sdn. Bhd. dijalankan di rumah kedai empat tingkat di Jalan Pahang yang juga dibeli melalui perjanjian sewa beli dengan UDA. Usahanya membuahkan hasil lagi.

Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar diberikan kontrak bagi membekalkan beras, teh, tepung coklat, tepung susu dan juga minyak sapi kepada kerajaan. Bahagian bawah pejabatnya diubah suai menjadi pusat pembungkusan.

Apabila beliau mendapat kontrak pembekalan itu, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar menubuhkan Susu Mas Sdn. Bhd. pada tahun 1979. Syarikat itu juga adalah syarikat usaha sama di antara dirinya yang memegang 51 peratus kepentingan dengan New Zealand Milk Products yang memegang saham selebihnya. Produk Susu Mas Sdn. Bhd. dipasarkan di bawah jenama Fernleaf dan Anchor. Pada pertengahan tahun 80-an, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar menjual kepentingannya dalam Susu Mas Sdn. Bhd. ekoran kemelesetan ekonomi.

Strategi tersendiri Pada tahun 1978, beliau dijemput menyertai delegasi perdagangan ke Ekso Perdagangan Canton, China. Semasa berada di China, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar menjalankan sistem barter, iaitu menukarkan kokonya dengan teh dari China. Cuma bezanya sistem barter zaman sekarang dijalankan secara besar-besaran atau pukal. Contohnya, menukarkan 1 tan minyak sawit dengan 1 tan minyak mentah.

Perniagaan pakaian Selepas mengembangkan perniagaannya bermula daripada bidang komoditi ke pengangkutan, pembungkusan dan barter, beliau kemudiannya melangkah kepada sektor pembuatan. Ini ekoran kejayaannya mendapat kontrak membuat pakaian seragam tentera bagi pihak Kementerian Pertahanan. Kontrak itu adalah bagi membekalkan pihak tentera dengan 120,000 pasang kasut dan 330,000 pasang pakaian seragam. Apabila berjaya mendapat kontrak itu, beliau mula mencari pembekal. Pada mulanya, beliau membeli secara terus daripada pengilang. Selepas membeli daripada pengilang, beliau kemudiannya membuat keputusan menubuhkan dua buah syarikat, iaitu Amtek Holdings bagi mengeluarkan kasut dan Oriental Garments Uniform Division bagi mengeluarkan pakaian. Oriental Garments Uniform Division adalah syarikat usaha sama dengan Oriental Garment yang berpusat di Seberang Prai. Apabila Amtek Holdings disenaraikan di Papan Kedua Bursa Saham Kuala Lumpur pada tahun 1998, beliau menggunakan wang penyenaraian yang diperolehnya bagi membeli Spark Manshop dan hak bagi mengeluarkan dan memasarkan pakaian berjenama Crocodile. Kini, anak syarikat Amtek Holdings mengeluarkan kasut tentera (Amtek Shoes) dan pakaian berjenama Lee Coopers dan Lois (Amtek Garments Sdn. Bhd.) bagi pasaran eksport. Perniagaan perkapalan Tidak cukup dengan perniagaan pakaian, beliau juga bergiat dalam perniagaan perkapalan. Beliau menubuhkan Bukhari Shipping dan mendaftarkannya dengan pihak Perbendaharaan. Bukhari Shipping bertindak sebagai broker kapal di bawah polisi CABOTAGE. Melalui Bukhari Shipping, Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar membeli sebuah kapal buatan Jerman yang berusia 28 tahun pada harga USD1 juta. Kapal yang diberi nama Angsa Mas itu digunakan bagi mengangkut beras dari Thailand ke Sabah dan Sarawak. Walau bagaimanapun, perniagaan itu mengalami kerugian yang menyebabkan beliau terpaksa menjual kapalnya pada harga USD600,000, iaitu rugi sebanyak USD400,000 (USD1 juta – USD600,000). Pada masa yang sama, beliau mula mem*sensored*tkan diri dalam sektor pembangunan hartanah. Beliau membeli beberapa bidang tanah di Alor Setar dan memulakan beberapa projek perumahan di bawah syarikat Bukhary Development. Penglibatan dalam projek penswastaan Beliau terlibat dalam projek penswastaan Johor Port Sdn. Bhd. dan Johor Tenggara Oil Palm Sdn.Bhd. Beliau membeli Johor Port melalui tender pada harga RM330 juta. Johor Tenggara Oil Palm Sdn. Bhd. pula dibelinya pada harga RM135 juta. Melalui Johor Port Sdn. Bhd., beliau menjayakan projek Pelabuhan Tanjung Pelepas. Kini, Pelabuhan Tanjung Pelepas semakin maju hingga mereka berjaya meyakinkan dua buah syarikat perkapalan antarabangsa, iaitu Maersk Sealand dari Denmark dan Evergreen Marine dari Taiwan supaya berpindah dari Pelabuhan Singapura ke Pelabuhan Tanjung Pelepas. Projek penswastaan ketiganya adalah penswastaan air yang mana beliau menubuhkan Equiventure Sdn. Bhd., iaitu syarikat usaha sama di antara syarikatnya, Kembangan Dinamik dan Pilecon Bhd. serta syarikat Perancis, Oneo. Pegangan Kembangan Dinamik dalam syarikat itu adalah sebanyak 49 peratus. Kepentingan Beliau membeli MMC Corporation, iaitu syarikat kejuruteraan pada harga RM3 sesaham daripada Permodalan Nasional Berhad (PNB). Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar juga memiliki 22.7 peratus pegangan dalam Malakoff Berhad, iaitu syarikat pembekalan elektrik dan 20 peratus pegangan dalam IJM Corporation Berhad di mana perniagaan utamanya adalah pembuatan. Selain itu, beliau memiliki 18 peratus pegangan dalam Bernas yang terlibat dalam perdagangan beras dan 32 peratus pegangan dalam Pernas International Holdings Berhad, iaitu konglomerat yang terlibat dalam banyak sektor perniagaan. Manakala 18.7 peratus pegangan dalam Fiamma Holdings Berhad, syarikat pemasaran dan pengedaran barangan elektronik serta 100 peratus kepentingan dalam MPH, iaitu syarikat peruncitan dan pengedaran buku. Objektif penubuhan Yayasan al-Bukhary Yayasan al-Bukhary ditubuhkan pada Mac 1996 sebagai badan kebajikan yang berperanan membantu golongan miskin, menyokong perkembangan seni dan budaya Islam dan juga menggalakkan persefahaman antara peradaban. Antara objektif utama Yayasan al-Bukhary adalah menggalakkan persaudaraan sesama Islam. Yayasan ini terdiri daripada dua buah bahagian. Satu bahagian menjalankan kerja-kerja kebajikan manakala satu bahagian lagi menguruskan penyaluran dana daripada setiap syarikat yang mana Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar ada kepentingan di dalamnya. Sehingga kini, Yayasan al-Bukhary membelanjakan lebih RM300 juta bagi aktiviti keagamaan, kebudayaan dan pendidikan. Selain itu juga, Yayasan al-Bukhary hanya membiayai pelajar miskin. Antara inisiatif yang dilakukan adalah membiayai pelajar Muslim miskin dari serata ASEAN supaya belajar di Malaysia. Projek-projek utama Yayasan al-Bukhary Antara projek terbesar yang sedang dijalankan adalah pembinaan Kompleks al-Bukhary yang bernilai RM400 juta di Kedah yang dijangka siap pada akhir tahun 2004. Kompleks itu kelak memainkan peranan sebagai kompleks yang lengkap dengan pelbagai kemudahan seperti masjid, pusat perubatan, pusat komuniti, rumah anak yatim, akademi khas bagi warga tua dan pusat pengajian tinggi. Antara projek besar yang disiapkan adalah Muzium Kesenian Islam Malaysia di Kuala Lumpur yang bernilai RM100 juta. Muzium empat tingkat itu adalah muzium pertama di rantau Asia Pasifik yang memaparkan hasil seni Islam. Yayasan al-Bukhary juga membina 12 buah masjid di serata negara. Sumbangan dalam bidang pendidikan Pada tahun 2000, Yayasan al-Bukhary mendermakan sejumlah RM7.75 juta kepada Oxford Centre for Islamic Studies, iaitu pusat pengajian Islam yang terkenal di serata dunia. Yayasan al-Bukhary juga kini sedang membantu Institut Pembangunan Pendidikan Maju (MIED) dalam projek bagi mengasaskan Institut Perubatan, Sains dan Teknologi Asia (AIMST) di Sungai Petani, Kedah. Selain itu, Yayasan al-Bukhary juga sering mengadakan dialog peradaban bagi menggalakkan toleransi dan persefahaman antara masyarakat berbilang agama dan kepercayaan. Penglibatan Yayasan al-Bukhary dalam projek yang dimulakan oleh bukan Islam juga terserlah. Walaupun Yayasan al-Bukhary lebih menekankan kepada projek kebajikan yang bercirikan Islam, ia tetap menyumbang kepada projek yang dijalankan oleh organisasi bukan Islam. Contohnya, Yayasan al-Bukhary menyumbang sebanyak RM satu juta bagi Projek Langkawi, iaitu projek yang dimulakan oleh MCA bagi mengumpul dana bagi menjalankan projek pendidikan di luar bandar dan juga memberi biasiswa kepada para pelajar yang kurang mampu. Tan Sri Syed adalah usahawan Bumiputera yang terkaya di Malaysia dengan kekayaan yang bernilai RM1.67 bilion. Semoga kisah Tan Sri ini di jadikan iktibar dan motivasi buat kita semua. Doakan saya agar dapat bertemu dengan Tan Sri ya kerana dari dulu lagi impian saya ini belum tertunai.. Amiiin Ya Rabb

UNTUK BERJAYA ANDA PERLU KENAL SIAPA DIRI ANDA

Sebelum memulakan seminar, Prof. Zahin mengeluarkan sehelai wang kertas bernilai RM100 dari dompetnya. Kemudian wang itu ditayangkan kepada 50 orang pesertanya. “Siapa nak duit ni?” tanya Prof Zahin..Semua peserta mengangkat tangan.”Saya akan berikan duit ini kepada salah seorang daripada kamu, tapi izinkan saya membuat sesuatu dahulu “. Prof Zahin meramas-ramas duit itu hingga renyuk. Kemudian dia menunjukkan duit yang sudah renyuk itu dan bertanya: “Ada sesiapa yang nak duit ini lagi?”Hampir semua pesertanya mengangkat tangan. Prof Zahin mengangguk dan mencebikkan bibir. “Okey apa kata kalau saya buat macam ni?” Duit RM100 itu dicampakkan dan di tenyeh-tenyeh dengan kasutnya..Prof Zahin memungutnya semula lalu diletakkan di atas meja. Wang kertas itu bukan sahaja renyuk tetapi juga kotor. “Sekarang siapa nak duit ni?” tanya Prof Zahin. Selesai dia bertanya, lebih separuh daripada jumlah pesertanya masih mengangkat tangan. “Okay, apa yang boleh kita kutip daripada peristiwa itu tadi?” tanya Prof Zahin lagi. Pesertanya hanya diam, dan sesetengahnya hanya menggelengkan kepala. Mereka masih tidak dapat menangkap apa yang cuba disampaikan oleh Prof Zahin. “Walau apapun yang saya lakukan pada duit ini, kamu tetap akan mahukannya. Betul tak? Kamu tahu kenapa? Kerana nilainya tidak berubah walaupun dipijak dan ditenyeh dengan kasut.””RM100 tetap RM100 walaupun 10 kali dipijak.” kata Prof Zahin. Semua peserta yang mendengar kata-katanya hanya tersenyum. Prof Zahin mengaitkan peristiwa itu dengan kehidupan seharian. Sering kali di dalam hidup,setiap orang akan merasai kejatuhan, hati hancur, ataupun dihina. Hinggakan suatu ketika kita akan merasa diri kita tidak berguna langsung. “Tetapi walau apapun yang telah terjadi, ataupun yang akan terjadi, anda tidak akan hilang harga diri. Bersih atau kotor, renyuk atau licin, anda tetap berharga terutama pada mereka yang disayangi.” “Harga diri kita bukan datang daripada apa yang kita lakukan atau siapa yang kita kenal tapi siapa sebenarya kita?” jelas Prof Zahin. Semua peserta ternganga mendengar penerangan profesor itu dan mereka lantas mengiyakan kebenaran kata-kata profesor itu… Moral: Harga diri kita bukan datang daripada apa yang kita lakukan atau siapa yang kita kenal tapi siapa sebenarya diri kita. Kita sendiri yang menilai diri kita… dan itulah nilainya.

TIPS MENJADI USAHWAN INTERNET BERJAYA

7 Petua Usahawan Berjaya

Nak tahu petua kejayaan kebanyakan usahawan yang telah berjaya di dalam perniagaan internet? Klik link berikut:

1. Rajin-rajinlah belajar samada membaca dan mengkaji

2. Gunakan sepenuhnya enjin carian seperti google untuk menjawab persoalan tertentu seperti masalah teknikal

3. Jangan hanya tunggu ‘disuap’. Jangan malas!

4. Survive. Anda perlu lalui masalah tanpa bantuan orang lain sepenuhnya. Buangkan sifat hendak mudah! Saya jika membantu seseorang, saya hanya tunjuk jalan, sebaliknya tidak akan bantu dia buat sepenuhnya. Please, survive! Mengapa? Orang yang membantu anda tidak akan selamanya bersama dengan anda. Maka di saat keseorangan, sifat survive yang anda miliki akan membantu diri anda. Setuju? Fahamilah, orang lain hanya memberikan jalan, kita yang perlu berusaha.

5. Bertindak dengan dorongan diri sendiri. Jangan tunggu orang lain ‘push’ baru nak buat

6. Usahawan yang berjaya, rata-ratanya sentiasa meningkatkan pengetahuan mereka. Jika mereka diajar A, mereka akan tambah lagi pengetahuan dan pemahaman mengenai perkara A itu.

7. Mereka tidak kenal jalan singkat.

Yang mereka tahu adalah : KESABARAN Sekali lagi saya ulangi, “orang lain hanya menunjukkan jalan, dan andalah yang mesti melaluinya. Sudah mesti seorang diri, tetapi bawalah kesabaran, kesedaran dan kesungguhan di dalam perjalanan itu.

InsyaAllah, anda akan sampai ke destinasi yang dituju dengan jayanya. ketahuilah juga, nikmat sebenar adalah bukan pada hasilnya, tapi apa yang anda lalui. Kerana, semasa perjalanan itulah banyak pelajaran yang akan anda perolehi, itupun jika anda sabar dan mahu mengambil pelajaran. ;) “Tidak mudah nak mudah, jangan mudah nak mudah, tak senang nak senang..”. Semoga berjaya!

TIPS UNTUK UNTUK BERJAYA 1

30 Keys to Change YOUR Destiny AND TO MOTIVATE yourself to SUCCESS AND BECOME MILLIONAIRE

1. Now Is Always The Time To: STEP OUT OF THE RUSH AND INTO YOUR OWN LIFE Special Insight: Dare to slow down. Just do it. Here’s help. See that even at a million miles an hour, anxious thoughts and feelings still take you no-where. If you want to find what is timeless, dare to live as though you have all the time in the world. Go ahead. Step out of the rush. Step out Now.

2. Now Is Always The Time To: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCE Special Insight: The way you feel toward what you meet in life is a direct expression of who you are. And who you are is exactly the same as what you secretly value. Being willing to see you feel the way you do, because you treasure what you do, is what it means to take responsibility for your life.

3. Now Is Always The Time To: REFUSE TO BE SELF COMPROMISING Special Insight: Drop any thought or action that creates conflict in the present moment for the promise of a better feeling to come. Your True Nature is Now. There is no later. You can’t be divided and be content. Choose to be whole. Begin by consciously refusing to compromise yourself.

4. Now Is Always The Time To: REMEMBER YOURE NOT THE ONLY ONE IN THE WORLD Special Insight: It may feel like it, but you’re not the only one who suffers! That’s why you mustn’t be afraid to take a good look at — and really consider — another human being. This will help you be less wrongly concerned with the way you feel about yourself — which will come as welcome relief. Remember, you’re not the only one in the world.

5. Now Is Always The Time To: GO BEYOND THE BEST THAT YOU THINK YOU CAN Special Insight: Anybody can do what everybody else does — which is usually the minimum to get the maximum. You do more. Take the step you’re sure you can’t. You’ll discover that the “you” who could not is only a thought that believes it can not. See this. Then get going beyond yourself.

6. Now Is Always The Time To: REALIZE THERES NO GAIN IN BLAME Special Insight: When your feet ache because your shoes are too tight, you don’t complain that someone else made you put them on. So why blame another when it’s your feelings that are hurting you? If wearing painful emotions means you have to bear their pressure, then dare to drop them. You’ll feel better. There’s no gain, only pain, in blame.

7. Now Is Always The Time To: HAVE A LIGHT SPIRIT Special Insight: The heart tends to feel heavy when the mind says things aren’t the way they ought to be. But your True Nature is neither thought nor emotion. You are Spirit. And your Spirit is always Light Hearted. It knows better than to look for, or find, Itself in a dark thought. Look at life through its eyes. Be Light Spirited.

8. Now Is Always The Time To: STEP DOWN AS JUDGE Special Insight: The easiest thing in the world is to walk around unconsciously feeling superior to everyone you meet. But with what do you measure? A critical spirit? A judgmental mind? What kind of eyes have to look down on another to convince themselves of up? Step down as judge.

9. Now Is Always The Time To: FACE THOSE FEARFUL FEELINGS Special Insight: There is really no such thing as a shaky situation, so any time you start to tremble, don’t look around you for the fault: Look inward. It’s the inner-ground you’re standing on that isn’t solid. Any weakness faced by looking in this new direction becomes the foundation of a new strength. Face those fearful feelings. Fearlessness follows.

10. Now Is Always The Time To: HELP SOMEONE ELSE GO HIGHER Special Insight: There’s no such thing as a separate self, so anything you do to encourage another person to do better, or go farther, is the same as helping yourself go higher. So, give yourself a lift up. Try a little kindness even if you’re not feeling that way at the moment. Then you will. Help someone else go Higher. 11. Now Is Always The Time To: RELEASE ALL RESENTMENTS Special Insight: It’s very important for you to see that holding on to some hurt, or hatred, over what others may have done to you in the past, makes you their slave in the here and Now. Is that what you want? Learn to ask for something new by refusing to relive what’s been tearing at you. This Higher request releases you from raging resentments.

12. Now Is Always The Time To: DO WHAT IS TRUE REGARDLESS OF THE CONSEQUENCES Special Insight: Choosing what’s true in spite of fearing what that choice may cost you, is the same as giving yourself a fearless life. Here’s why: Nothing you’re afraid of losing can ever be the source of your fearlessness. Do what’s true regardless of the consequences. All you can lose is fear.

13. Now Is Always The Time To: LET THE EMPTY SPACE FILL ITSELF Special Insight: Nothing you’ve ever done has filled the emptiness you feel inside, so stop giving yourself empty things to do. Leave the space empty. This allows it to fill itself — which it wants to do — with something you can’t give yourself: The end of feeling empty. Stay out of it. Don’t fill the emptiness. Let the empty space fill itself.

14. Now Is Always The Time To: STOP EXPLAINING YOURSELF TO OTHERS Special Insight: The only difference between the need to endlessly explain your life to others — and feeling as though you have to excuse yourself for being alive — is that while you’re explaining yourself, at least it feels like you have a good reason for being excused. You’re not required to explain yourself to anyone. Stop Now.

15. Now Is Always The Time To: LAUGH IN THE FACE OF DEFEAT Special Insight: It is a fact: Defeat is nothing but a bad memory. And no memory has any real life of its own. This means that the only time you have to feel the pain of any defeat is if you ask for it — by going into troubled thought about some painful past loss. You can have the last laugh on defeat. Stay in the Present Moment. Learn to laugh Now.

16. Now Is Always The Time To: FOLLOW WHAT YOU LOVE Special Insight: Put what you love first. The rest of your life will take care of itself because Love always finds a way. Love never considers fear. And with Love as your guide, your success in life is assured since Its Nature is already the perfect prize. Follow what you love. You’re sure to find a happy heart.

17. Now Is Always The Time To: Start Your Life All Over Special Insight: Any time you choose, you can start your whole life over. And you can have just as many new beginnings as you’re willing to leave behind you all of your ideas about yourself. That’s what it means to start all over. Life can only be as new as you choose to be. Wake up. Start your life over Now.

18. Now Is Always The Time To: KEEP YOUR CHIN UP Special Insight: Even if all of your thoughts are going that way, tell your chin not to fall down. As it obeys, it gives a message to your head: Hold yourself up high! And so your head helps your eyes to keep looking forward, where they can at last see that your thoughts are often blind. Keep your chin up. Consciousness likes heights. Dare to follow!

19. Now Is Always The Time To: LET IT GO Special Insight: You’ve been trying to run your own show and, so far, it’s pretty much been just a nightmare with entertaining intermissions! Let something Higher have Its hand at directing your life. Let your show go. Then watch for a happy ending coming soon.

20. Now Is Always The Time To: STOP LOOKING OUTSIDE OF YOURSELF Special Insight: Your Life is only as complete as you are. No more, no less. Looking to relationships, your work, or even happy events for a feeling of self wholeness is like trying to put a smile on your face in the mirror — while you’re still frowning. Being complete is first an Understanding, and then a feeling. Stop looking outside of yourself. Seek the understanding. Seek it within. The feeling will follow.

21. Now Is Always The Time To: HAVE YOUR OWN LIFE Special Insight: There is no pleasing the fear you may displease others. Allowing what others may feel about what you want … to change the way you feel about that same want … is like believing someone else can put on your sweater, and that you’ll feel the warmth! The only real pleasure comes from knowing that you have your own life. Take you life back Now.

22. Now Is Always The Time To: PUT YOUR LIFE IN PERFECT ORDER Special Insight: Without the raindrop, there is no ocean. The river runs to the sea because each stream finds, and fills, its course. There is an Order, it’s clear: From the small is born the Mighty, and the small is small no more. Remember each day of your life, there’s already an Order. Let go into its flow. And there you’ll find you’re small no more.

23. Now Is Always The Time To: JUMP INTO THE BATTLE Special Insight: True strength is the flower of Wisdom, but Its seed is action. To learn, you must jump into the battle. Fear not. You can’t be hurt in this fight. Here’s why. Any weakness voluntarily met is the same as greeting a greater strength. Never let a fearful thought keep you from this New Strength. Enter the battle Now!

24. Now Is Always The Time To: DISCOVER THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN YOUR HEAD AND YOUR HEART Special Insight: You can’t think yourself into happiness, but you can sink yourself with a single dark thought. Right, bright emotions spring from the heart. Heavy feelings can’t exist without the presence of negative thoughts. This means sad states are just a trick of the mind! To see through any state of sadness, see the difference between the head and the heart.

25. Now Is Always The Time To: LOOK UP! Special Insight: A lamp without a light is as useless as a bottomless bucket. So too is this life empty without a sense of the Sacred. The Celestial is always present. Why wait until you feel down before you think to look up? You can always glimpse the Higher, but you have to remind yourself to look in the right direction. Look up! Look Now. 26. Now Is Always The Time To: GET ONE THING DONE Special Insight: Never mind how much there is to do. Or how hard some task appears to be. Get one thing done! Then, take that step again. Consciously brush aside any other concerns. Do what’s in your power. Refuse to deal with what’s not. The most beautiful tapestry in the world begins and ends with one of ten thousand individual threads.

27. Now Is Always The Time To: GO QUIET Special Insight: The frantic search for any answer only delivers answers on the same frantic level. Don’t be afraid to go quiet. It’s OK to not know. Knowing that you don’t know what to do puts you where you need to be to learn. Just as you can see farther on a clear day, new understanding flowers in a quiet mind. Go quiet Now.

28. Now Is Always The Time To: SEPARATE THE FACT FROM THE FEAR Special Insight: The fact of any problem, and the fearful feeling about it, are separate issues appearing as one. They merge only in a thought telling you one can’t exist without the other; which is like thinking you can’t feel a chill without having the plague. The fear you feel over any situation is the same as your demands upon it. Separate facts from fears Now.

29. Now Is Always The Time To: CATCH YOURSELF IN THE ACT Special Insight: The problem with acting out any role is that your life can’t be both a show and be real. Wanting and winning the attention of others with a performance of any kind doesn’t make the performer real, any more than smiling at yourself in the mirror makes you loving. Life is only Real when you are. Catch yourself in the act. Then just drop it.

30. Now Is Always The Time To: KNOW THAT THE TIME IS ALWAYS NOW Special Insight: You can’t change the kind of person you are later. There is no later. It’s always now or never. You can’t be kind later. And you can’t learn later. But even when you can’t succeed with starting your life over, keep this one Truth in mind: You can always start over again. The time to change your destiny is Now! “Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

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SOALAN YANG ANDA PERLU TANYA UNTUK JADI INSAN LUAR BIASA

Anthony Robbins pernah mengatakan dalam salah satu bukunya bahwa berpikir sebetulnya adalah proses bertanya dan menjawab pertanyaan-pertanyaan. Beliau kemudian menambahkan bahwa orang-orang yang sukses adalah mereka yang selalu bertanya pada dirinya sendiri. Berikut adalah 101 pertanyaan untuk membuat hidup anda luar biasa :

1. Apa yang saya inginkan?

2. Untuk hal-hal apa saja saya berterima kasih?

3. Apakah yang hilang dalam hidup saya?

4. Apakah saya melihat hal-hal baru di dunia ini setiap hari?

5. Apakah saya menyediakan sedikit waktu untuk mendengarkan orang lain?

6. Apakah saya cukup bersenang-senang?

7. Bagaimana saya menjadikan hidup ini lebih ceria?

8. Apa yang saya inginkan lebih dalam hidup?

9. Apa yang tidak terlalu saya inginkan dalam hidup?

10. Apakah saya selalu mencari peluang-peluang?

11. Apakah saya menangkap peluang-peluang yang ada?

12. Apakah saya mempunyai pikiran yang terbuka?

13. Apakah saya cukup fleksibel?

14. Apakah saya cepat menghakimi orang lain?

15. Apakah saya selalu memperhitungkan resiko?

16. Apakah saya tulus memuji orang lain?

17. Apakah saya menghargai apa yang orang lain lakukan untuk saya?

18. Ke tempat mana sajakah saya ingin pergi?

19. Siapa sajakah orang yang ingin saya jumpai?

20. Petualangan apa sajakah yang ingin saya ikuti?

21. Apakah saya peduli dengan apa yang orang lain pikirkan tentang saya?

22. Apakah saya cepat tersinggung?

23. Apakah yang membuat saya bahagia?

24. Adakah hal yang saya tunda?

25. Apakah saya selalu memikirkan diri sendiri?

26. Apakah saya suka menyimpan dendam?

27. Apakah saya selalu mengingat-ngingat masa lalu?

28. Apakah saya membiarkan pikiran negatif orang lain mempengaruhi saya?

29. Apakah saya bisa memaafkan diri sendiri?

30. Apakah saya cukup sering tersenyum?

31. Apakah saya cukup sering tertawa?

32. Apakah saya mengelilingi diri saya dengan orang-orang positif?

33. Apakah saya orang yang positif?

34. Apakah saya menyediakan cukup waktu untuk merawat diri?

35. Apakah ambisi rahasia saya?

36. Apakah yang ingin orang-orang ingat tentang saya di akhir hidup nanti?

37. Apakah arti sukses untuk saya?

38. Bagaimana saya dapat memberi arti bagi hidup orang lain?

39. Bagaimana saya dapat melayani sesama?

40. Hal apakah yang dapat saya lakukan lebih baik dibandingkan orang lain?

41. Apakah 3 kekuatan terbesar saya?

42. Apakah saya bergerak menuju ke pencapaian mimpi-mimpi saya?

43. Apakah saya menceritakan pada orang lain apa yang sungguh-sungguh saya inginkan dalam hidup?

44. Seperti apakah rupa hari yang indah menurut saya?

45. Ingin seperti apakah anda 1 tahun lagi? 5 tahun lagi? 10 tahun lagi? 20 tahun lagi?

46. Seperti apakah bentuk lingkungan untuk hidup yang baik menurut saya?

47. Apakah yang ingin saya perbuat jika saya tidak mempunyai rasa takut?

48. Apakah yang ingin saya perbuat jika uang bukanlah hal yang penting?

49. Alasan-alasan apa sajakah yang sering saya ucapkan?

50. Apakah saya menikmati apa yang saya lakukan sehari-hari? 51. Apakah saya berada di jalan yang benar?

52. Apakah saya meyayangi diri sendiri?

53. Apakah saya baik pada orang lain?

54. Apakah saya mengambil sesuatu tanpa imbalan?

55. Apakah saya sedang melakukan hal yang paling penting saat ini?

56. Apakah ada hal-hal dalam hidup yang perlu saya beri perhatian lebih?

57. Apakah saya sudah menggunakan waktu saya dengan sebaik-baiknya?

58. Apakah yang bisa saya lakukan saat ini yang dapat membuat perbedaan terbesar dalam hidup?

59. Apakah yang sedang saya hindari?

60. Hal-hal apa sajakah yang saya bisa bertoleransi?

61. Apakah saya membuat tujuan-tujuan yang jelas dengan batas waktu pencapaiannya?

62. Apakah saya memegang janji-janji yang telah saya buat pada diri sendiri?

63. Apakah saya memegang janji-janji yang telah saya buat pada orang lain?

64. Jika saya ingin kehidupan saya sempurna, apakah yang harus saya rubah?

65. Apakah yang sedang saya cari sungguh-sungguh saat ini?

66. Bagaimana saya membuat hidup saya lebih sederhana?

67. Kegiatan apa saja yang saya lakukan tetapi saya tidak menikmatinya? Apakah kegiatan tersebut sungguh-sungguh harus dilakukan? Dapatkan saya mendelegasikannya atau membayar orang lain untuk melakukan itu?

68. Apakah saya melihat diri saya sebagai seorang yang cukup kreatif?

69. Apakah saya membiarkan diri saya untuk menjadi orang yang kreatif?

70. Dapatkah saya menjadi seseorang yang spontan?

71. Apakah saya terlalu kritis pada diri sendiri?

72. Apakah saya terlalu kritis pada orang lain?

73. Apakah saya dapat melihat permasalahan dari sudut pandang yang berbeda?

74. Hal-hal apa sajakah yang telah saya selesaikan?

75. Hal-hal apa sajakah yang menjadi sumber stress dalam hidup?

76. Bagaimana saya dapat mengurangi stress dalam hidup?

77. Kemana sajakah uang saya dipergunakan?

78. Bisakah saya mengelola keuangan saya?

79. Punyakah saya rencana keuangan untuk masa depan?

80. Untuk apa sajakah waktu saya dipergunakan?

81. Sudahkah saya membuat sistim pengelolaan waktu yang efisien?

82. Apakah 3 prioritas terbesar saya dalam hidup?

83. Siapakah orang terpenting dalam hidup saya?

84. Siapakah yang mencintai saya?

85. Siapakah yang peduli kepada saya?

86. Untuk siapakah anda bekerja keras?

87. Apakah tempat tinggal dan lingkungan kerja saya telah diatur sedemikian rupa sehingga memberi kenyamanan pada saya?

88. Apakah saya mempunyai pola hidup yang sehat?

89. Apakah saya sering terbawa emosi?

90. Apakah saya dapat melupakan kesalahan-kesalahan yang telah saya buat di masa lalu?

91. Apakah saya mengijinkan diri saya untuk melakukan kegagalan?

92. Apakah saya mempelajari kegagalan-kegagalan saya?

93. Apakah saya cepat menanggapi ketika sesuatu berjalan tidak semestinya?

94. Apakah keyakinan-keyakinan saya telah bekerja dengan baik?

95. Apakah saya melonggarkan aturan-aturan yang telah saya buat untuk diri sendiri dan orang lain?

96. Apakah impian masa kecil saya yang terlupakan?

97. Siapa sajakah idola/tokoh yang saya tiru?

98. Apakah saya asli? Apakah saya menjadi diri saya sendiri atau sedang mencoba menjadi seseorang yang lain?

99. Bagaimana jika …?

100. Mengapa tidak …?

101. Bagaimana saya dapat …?

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KATA-KATA MUTIARA UNTUK BERJAYA / SUCCESS QUOTES

Top Success Quotes“The person who gets the farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore.” -Dale Carnegie “Most successful men have not achieved their distinction by having some new talent or opportunity presented to them. They have developed the opportunity that was at hand.” – Bruce Barton “Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that?s where you will find success.” - Thomas J. Watson “The successful always has a number of projects planned, to which he looks forward. Anyone of them could change the course of his life overnight.” -Mark Caine ?There are three ingredients in the good life: learning, earning and yearning.” - Christopher Morley ?There are three ingredients in the good life: learning, earning and yearning.” - Christopher Morley “When a man feels throbbing within him the power to do what he undertakes as well as it can possibly be done, this is happiness, this is success.” Orison Swett Marden Pity the man who inherits a million and isn’t a millionaire.Here’s what would be pitiful,if your income grew and you didn’t. “The great successful men of the world have used their imagination?they think ahead and create their mental picture in all its details, filling in here, adding a little there, altering this a bit and that a bit, but steadily building – steadily building.” Robert Collier “Success doesn’t come to you?you go to it.”Marva Collins “The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will.” Vincent T. Lombardi “Success is a journey, not a destination.” Ben Sweetland If you care at all,you’ll get some results.If you care enough, you’ll get incredible results. “The difference between failure and success is doing a thing nearly right and doing a thing exactly right.” Edward Simmons
“Desire is the key to motivation, but it’s the determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal – a commitment to excellence – that will enable you to attain the success you seek.” Mario Andretti – race car driver“No one ever attains very eminent success by simply doing what is required of him; it is the amount and excellence of what is over and above the required that determines the greatness of ultimate distinction.” Charles Kendall Adams “The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes.” Benjamin Disraeli The most practical, beautiful, workable philosophy in the world won’t work – if you won’t. “I believe the greater the handicap, the greater the triumph.” John H. Johnson Unless you change how you are,you will always have what you’ve got. “My list of ingredients for success is divided into four basic groups: Inward, Outward, Upward and Onward.” David Thomas “A stumble may prevent a fall.” English Proverb Success is not so much what we have as it is what we are. “God gives every bird a worm, but he does not throw it into the nest.” Swedish Proverb “Possession of the ball is the key to winning in football, basketball, and the game of life.” Laing Burns, Jr. “Success is not permanent. The same is also true of failure.” Dell Crossword “Success often comes to those who have the aptitude to see way down the road.” Laing Burns, Jr. “There’s no limit to what a man can achieve, if he doesn’t care who gets the credit.” Laing Burns, Jr. “Truth, self control, asceticism, generosity, non-injury, constancy in virtue ? these are the means of success, not caste or family.” Mahabharata We can have more than we’ve got because we can become more than we are. “Every one of us, unconsciously, works out a personal philosophy of life, by which we are guided, inspired, and corrected, as time goes on. It is this philosophy by which we measure out our days, and by which we advertise to all about us the man, or woman, that we are. . . . It takes but a brief time to scent the life philosophy of anyone. It is defined in the conversation, in the look of the eye, and in the general mien of the person. It has no hiding place. It’s like the perfume of the flower ? unseen, but known almost instantly. It is the possession of the successful, and the happy. And it can be greatly embellished by the absorption of ideas and experiences of the useful of this earth.” George Matthew Adams It is easy to get to the top after you get through the crowd at the bottom . “Unless you’re willing to have a go, fail miserably, and have another go, success won’t happen.” Phillip Adams The greatest form of maturity is at harvest time.That is when we must learn how to reap without complaint if the amounts are small and how to to reap without apology if the amounts are big. “Failure seems to be regarded as the one unpardonable crime, success as the all-redeeming virtue, the acquisition of wealth as the single worthy aim of life. The hair-raising revelations of skullduggery and grand-scale thievery merely incite others to surpass by yet bolder outrages and more corrupt combinations.” Charles Francis Adams II “Few men have the natural strength to honour a friend’s success without envy.” Aeschylus “When a man is willing and eager, the gods join in.” Aeschylus “Health, happiness and success depend upon the fighting spirit of each person. The big thing is not what happens to us in life – but what we do about what happens to us.” George Allen “My success has allowed me to strike out with a higher class of women.” Woody Allen “Seventy percent of success in life is showing up.” Woody Allen “He who is silent is forgotten; he who does not advance falls back; he who stops is overwhelmed; out distanced, crushed; he who ceases t grow becomes smaller; he who leaves off, gives up; the condition of standing still is the beginning of the end.” Henri Fr?d?ric Amiel “Asked what his secret was for lasting so long and being so successful as the president of Yale University, Dr. James R. Angell explained: “Grow antennae, not horns.” Dr. James Rowland Angell “A most important key to successful leadership is your ability to direct and challenge the very best that is in those whom you lead.” Anonymous Success is not a destination, it’s a journey. “A successful man continues to look for work after he has found a job.” Anonymous “Act as though it is impossible to fail.” Anonymous “Act as though it is impossible to fail.” Anonymous “An Unfailing Success Plan: At each day?s end write down the six most important things to do tomorrow; number them in order of importance, and then do them.” Anonymous “As you climb the ladder of success, check occasionally to make sure it is leaning against the right wall.” Anonymous “Be self-reliant and your success is assured.” Anonymous “Choice, not circumstances, determines your success.” Anonymous “Confidence is the companion of success.” Anonymous My goal is to translate response into results.Some teachers teach for others to learn.That’s not me.Some teachers teach for others to accomplish.That is me. “Everybody’s a self-made man; but only the successful ones are ever willing to admit it.” Anonymous “Find a meaningful need and fill it better than anyone else.” Anonymous “He who does not tire, tires adversity.” Anonymous The most important question to ask on the job is not “what am I getting?” The most important question to ask is “What am I becoming?” “If at first you do succeed try not to look too surprised.” Anonymous “If you would live your life with ease; do what you ought, not what you please.” Anonymous Motivation is the fuel, necessary to keep the human engine running. “In order to succeed, you must first be willing to fail.” Anonymous “It is wise to keep in mind that no success or failure is necessarily final.” Anonymous “Life’s real failure is when you do not realize how close you were to success when you gave up.” Anonymous “Many a man owes his success to his first wife, and his second wife to his success.” Anonymous “No one can change another person?s beliefs. But you can be accepting of his beliefs and then slowly build an influence for the other person to change himself.” Anonymous “Persistence gives confidence and continued right mental attitude followed by consistent action will bring success. When you have that knowing inside of you, fear has vanished and the obstruction to a life of all good removed.” Anonymous “So far the only successful substitute for brains is silence.” Anonymous “Success always occurs in private and failure in full public view.” Anonymous “Success comes before work only in the dictionary.” Anonymous The real oppurtunity for success lies within the person and not in the job . “Success does not come to those who wait . . . and it does not wait for anyone to come to it.” Anonymous “Success in our calling is the result of a person?s love of and belief in the work he has undertaken. Earnest and conscientious labor often accomplishes more in the end than brilliant genius.” Anonymous “Success is not access to excess.” Anonymous “Success is simply a matter of luck. Ask any failure.” Anonymous Life is a unique combination of “want to”and”how to”and we need to give equal attention to both. “Success is still the constant application of the Golden Rule.” Anonymous “Success: willing to do what the average person is not willing to do.” Anonymous Take Time: Take time to think- It is the source of all power. Take time to read- It is the fountain of wisdom. Take time to play- It is the source of perpetual youth. Take time to be quiet- It is the opportunity to seek God. Take time to be aware- It is the opportunity to help others. Take time to love and be loved- It is God?s greatest gift. Take time to laugh- It is the music of the soul. Take time to be friendly- It is the road to happiness. Take time to dream- It is what the future is made of. Take time to pray- It is the greatest power on earth. Take time to give- It is too short a day to be selfish. Take time to work- It is the price of success. There is a time for everything. . . .[Ecclesiastes 3:1-8]Bible “The key to happiness is having dreams. The key to success is making your dreams?come true.”Anonymous “The Lord gives us a plan to follow. It is outlined in His commandments. And all those commandments are designed to build stability within us. We are not to excuse our failures and weaknesses: We are not to say we are made the way we are, And thereby justify our sins. The Lord expects us to rise above our weakness, become strong, and pattern ourselves after Him.Anonymous Discipline yourself to do the things you need to do the things you need to do when you need to them,and the day will come when you will be able to do the things you want to do them! “The two hardest things to handle in life are failure & success.”Anonymous Life asks us to make measurable progress in a reasonable time.That’s why they make those fourth grade chair so small. “To enter heaven, a man must take it with him.”Anonymous “Two rules of success in life: 1. Don’t tell people everything you know.”Anonymous “What am I willing to sacrifice for what I want to become?”Anonymous “Yesterday’s failures are today’s seeds That must be diligently planted to be able to abundantly harvest Tomorrow’s success.”Anonymous “Yielding is sometimes the best way of succeeding.”Anonymous “You cannot sit on the road to success for if you do, you will get run over.”Anonymous “You have achieved success if you have lived well, laughed often and loved much.”Anonymous “The worst bankrupt in the world is the man who has lost his enthusiasm. Let a man lose everything else in the world but his enthusiasm and he will come through again to success.”H.W. Arnold Part of success is preparation on purpose. “One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.”Arthur Ashe “The penalty for success is to be bored by the people who used to snub you.”Lady Nancy Astor What you get by reaching your destination is not nearly as important as what you will become by reaching your destination. “It is a shameful thing for the soul to faint while the body still perseveres.” Marcus Aurelius Antonimus “One of the commonest mistakes and one of the costliest is thinking that success is due to some genius, some magic ? something or other which we do not possess. Success is generally due to holding on, and failure to letting go. You decide to learn a language, study music, take a course of reading, train yourself physically. Will it be success or failure? It depends upon how much pluck and perseverance that word ?decide? contains. The decision that nothing can overrule, the grip that nothing can detach will bring success. Remember the Chinese proverb, ?With time and patience, the mulberry leaf becomes satin.” Maltbie Davenport Babcock “Keep in mind that neither success nor failure is ever final.”Roger Ward Babson “I was made to work. If you are equally industrious, you will be equally successful.” Johann Sebastian Bach “Whatever task you undertake, do it with all your heart and soul. Always be courteous, never be discouraged. Beware of him who promises something for nothing. Do not blame anybody for your mistakes and failures. Do not look for approval except the consciousness of doing your best.”Bernard Mannes baruch “If there is any one axiom that I have tried to live up to in trying to become successful in business, it is the fact that I have tried to surround myself with associates that know more about business than I do. This policy has always been very successful and is still working for me.”Monte L. Bean “The most successful men in the end are those whose success is the result of steady accretion. . . It is the man who carefully advances step by step, with his mind becoming wider and wider ? and progressively better able to grasp any theme or situation ? persevering in what he knows to be practical, and concentrating his thought upon it, who is bound to succeed in the greatest degree.”Alexander Graham Bell “Happy the man who, like Ulysses, has made a fine voyage, or has won the Golden Fleece, and then returns, experienced and?knowledgeable, to spend the rest of his life among his family!” Joachim Du Bellay “Companies which get misled by their own success are sure to be blind sided.”Warren G. Bennis “You must not allow yourselves to become discouraged. Missionary work brings joy, optimism, and happiness. Don’t give Satan an opportunity to discourage you. Here again, work is the answer. The Lord has given us a key by which we can overcome discouragement: “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart; and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30.)”Ezra Taft Benson “The toughest thing about success is that you’ve got to keep on being a success. Talent is only a starting point in business. You’ve got to keep working that talent.”Irving Berlin Motivating gets you going and habit gets you there . Make motivating a habit and you will get there more quickly and have more fun on the trip. “Success is often the result of taking a misstep in the right direction.”Al Bernstein “Meet success like a gentleman and disaster like a man.” Frederick Edwin Smith, Lord Birkenhead “If at first you don?t succeed, think how many people you?ve made happy.”H. Duane Black “The victory o? success is half won when one gains the habit of work.”Sarah Knowles Bolton “Don’t confuse fame with success. Madonna is one; Helen Keller is the other.”Erma Bombeck “Successful men are influenced by desire for pleasing results. Failures are influenced by desire for pleasing methods.” Frank E. Brennan “Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.” Dr. Joyce Brothers To respond is positive, to react is negative. “1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery. 2. Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent. 3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. 4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know. 5. Be forgiving of yourself and others. 6. Be generous. 7. Have a grateful heart. 8. Persistence, persistence, persistence. 9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary. 10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated. 11. Commit yourself to constant improvement. 12. Commit yourself to quality. 13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationship with people you love and respect. 14. Be loyal. 15. Be honest. 16. Be a self-starter. 17. Be decisive even it it means you’ll sometimes be wrong. 18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life. 19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did. 20. Take good care of those you love. 21. Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud.”H. Jackson Brown Jr. “Men are failures, not because they are stupid, but because they are not sufficiently impassioned.”Struther Burt “Experience shows that success is due less to ability than to zeal. The winner is he who gives himself to his work, body and soul.”Sir Thomas Fowell Buxton Success is the study of the Obvious.Everyone should take Obvious 1 and Obvious 2 in school. “The road to success is not to be run upon by seven-leagued boots. Step by step, little by little, bit by bit?that is the way to wealth, that is the way to wisdom, that is the way to glory.” Sir Thomas Fowell Buxton “They never fail who die in a great cause.”George Gordon, Lord Byron “Success in business implies optimism, mutual confidence, and fair play. A business man must hold a high opinion of the worth of what he has to sell and he must feel that he is a useful public servant.”R.H. Cabell “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”Herman Cain “The important thing to recognize is that it takes a team, and the team ought to get credit for the wins and the losses. Successes have many?fathers, failures have none.” Philip Caldwell “The look of success, when it is worn a certain way, would infuriate a jackass.” Albert Camus “Your successes and happiness are forgiven you only if you generously consent to share them.” Albert Camus You are the only one who can use your ability. It is an awesome responsibility. “It takes 20 years to make an overnight success.” Eddie Cantor “Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.” Truman Capote “I believe that the true road to preeminent success in any line is to make yourself master of that line.” Andrew Carnegie “Put all your eggs in one basket and watch that basket.” Andrew Carnegie “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” Dale Carnegie “Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get.” Dale Carnegie “When you have much success, two things happen. The first is that we begin to take success for granted. The second is that we forget how we got here?namely, by exceptionally hard work and in spite of intense competition.” Jack Mack Carter There are some things you don’t have to know how it works.The main thing is that it works.While some people are studying the roots,others are picking the fruit. It just depends which end of this you want to get in on. “Our duty as men is to proceed as if limits to our ability did not exist. We are collaborators in creation.” Pierre Teilhard de Chardin “Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” Winston Churchill “No one can guarantee success in war, but only deserve it.” Winston Churchill Ambition, fueled by compassion, wisdom and integrity, is a powerful force for good that will turn the wheels of industry and open the doors of oppurtunity for you and countless others. Zig Ziglar “There are men in the world who derive an exaltation from the proximity of disaster and ruin, as other from success.” Winston Churchill “There is but one straight road to success, and that is merit. The man who is successful is the man who is useful. Capacity never lacks opportunity. It can not remain undiscovered, because it is sought by too many anxious to use it.” Bourke Cockran “Success depends upon previous preparation, and without such preparation there is sure to be failure.” confucius “Perhaps the reward of the spirit who tries. Is not the goal but the exercise.” Edmund Vance Cooke “I don’t know the key to success but the key to failure is to try to please everyone.” Bill Cosby “An empowered organization is one in which individuals have the knowledge, skill, desire, and opportunity to personally succeed in a way?that leads to collective organizational success.” Stephen Covey “If at first you don’t succeed, failure may be your style.” Quentin Crisp At the end of each you should play back the tapes of your performance. The result should either applaud youor prod you. “To me success would be to be able to do your very best in everything you do.” Paul Cummings “In order to succeed you must fail, so that you know what not to do the next time.” Anthony D’Angelo “History records the successes of men with objectives and a sense of direction. Oblivion is the position of small men overwhelmed by obstacles.” William Danforth “Defeat never comes to any man until he admits it.” Josephus Daniels If we don’t start,it’s certain we can’t arrive. “I always suspect an artist who is successful before he is dead.” Edgar Degas “Every advantage in the past is judged in the light of the final issue.” Demosthenes “Success is counted sweetest by those who ne’er succeed.” Emily Dickinson “Somehow I can?t believe there are many heights that can?t be scaled by a man who knows the secret of making dreams come true. This special secret can be summarized in four C?s. They are: curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of these is confidence.” Walt Disney “As a rule, he or she who has the most information will have the greatest success in life.” Benjamin Disraeli “The Duke of Wellington brought to the post of first minister immortal fame,?a quality of success which would almost seem to include all others.” Benjamin Disraeli “The most successful people in life are generally those who have the best information.” Benjamin Disraeli “The secret of success is constancy to purpose.” Benjamin Disraeli “What we anticipate seldom occurs, what we least expected generally happens.” Benjamin Disraeli “Life has no smooth road for any of us; and in the bracing atmosphere of a high aim the very roughness stimulates the climber to steadier steps, till the legend, “over steep ways to the stars,” fulfills itself.” W.C. Doane “Sometimes a noble failure serves the world as faithfully as a distinguished success.” Dowden Obviously, there is little you can learn from doing nothing. “Women will never be as successful as men because they have no wives to advise them.” Dick Van Dyke “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do.” Bob Dylan “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” Thomas Edison “If A equal success, then the formula is A equals X plus Y and Z, with X being work, Y play, and Z keeping your mouth shut.” Albert Einstein “The crippling of individuals I consider the worst evil of capitalism. Our whole educational system suffers from this evil. An exaggerated competitive attitude is inculcated into the student, who is trained to worship acquisitive success as a preparation for his future career.” Albert Einstein “Try not to become a man of success, but rather to become a man of value. He is considered successful in our day who gets more out of life than he puts in. But a man of value will give more than he receives.” Albert Einstein “We succeed only as we identify in life, or in war, or in anything else, a single overriding objective, and make all other considerations bend to that one objective.” Eisenhower “If a man write a better book, preach a better sermon, or make a better mouse-trap than his neighbor, tho’ he build his house in the woods, the world will make a beaten path to his door.” Ralph Waldo Emerson “Self-trust is the first secret of success.” Ralph Waldo Emerson “There is no way to success in our art but to take off your coat, grind paint, and work like a digger on the railroad, all day and every day.” Ralph Waldo Emerson Your business is never really good or bad “out there” your business is either good or bad right between your own two ears. “To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the approbation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty; To find the best in others; To give of one’s self; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived ? This is to have succeeded.” Ralph Waldo Emerson “Along with success comes a reputation for wisdom.” Euripides “Success has a simple formula: do your best, and people may like it.” Sam Ewing “What is the recipe for successful achievement? To my mind there are just four essential ingredients: Choose a career you love . . . Give it the best there is in you . . . Seize your opportunities And be a member of the team. In no country but America, I believe, is it possible to fulfill all four of these requirements.” Benjamin Fairless Success is not to be pursued;it is to be attracted by the person we become. Jim Rohn “Deliver me from all evildoers that talk nothing but sickness and failure. Grant me the companionship of men who think success and men who work for it. Loan me associates who cheerfully face the problems of a day and try hard to overcome them. Relieve me of all cynics and critics. Give me good health and the strength to be of real service to the world, and I’ll get all that’s good for me, and will what’s left to those who want it.” William Feather “The great dividing line between success and failure can be expressed in five words: “I did not have time.” Franklin Field “Twelve Priceless Qualities of Success: 1. The value of time. 2. The success of perseverance. 3. The pleasure of working. 4. The dignity of simplicity. 5. The worth of character. 6. The power of kindness. 7. The influence of example. 8. The obligation of duty. 9. The wisdom of economy. 10. The virtue of patience. 11. The improvement of talent. 12. The joy of originating.” Marshall Field “Keep these concepts in mind: You’ve failed many times, although you don’t remember. You fell down the first time you tried to walk. You almost drowned the first time you tried to swim. . . . Don’t worry about failure. My suggestion to each of you: Worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.” Sherman Finesilver “Success as I see it, is a result, not a goal.” Gustave Flaubert “History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heart-breaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.” B.C. Forbes “Failure is success if we learn from it.” Malcolm Forbes “The man who will use his skill and constructive imagination to see how much he can give for a dollar, instead of how little he can give for a dollar, is bound to succeed.” Henry Ford “The secret of success is constancy to purpose.” Benjamin Franklin “Good is not good where better is expected.” Thomas Fuller “A great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.” Walter Gagehot “I buy when other people are selling.” J. Paul Getty “No one can possibly achieve any real and lasting success or “get rich” in business by being a conformist.” J.Paul Getty “Success is always temporary. When all is said and done, the only thing you’ll have left is your character.” Vince Gill “The secret of success is sincerity. Once you can fake that you’ve got it made.” Jean Giraudoux “On the pinnacle of success man does not stand firm long.” Goethe “The passing day is prey to error. Time commands success and achievement.” Goethe “Pleasures, riches, honor and joy are sure to have care, disgrace, adversity and affliction in their train. There is no pleasure without pain, no joy without sorrow. O the folly of expecting lasting felicity in a vale of tears, or a paradise in a ruined world.” Gotthold “Successful men are influenced by the desire for pleasing results. Failures are influenced by the desire for pleasing methods and are inclined to be satisfied with such results as can be obtained by doing things they like to do. The common denominator of success – the secret of every man who has ever been successful – lies in the fact that he formed the habit of doing things that failures don?t like to do.” Albert Gray “We do not know, in most cases, how far social failure and success are due to heredity, and how far to environment. But environment is the easier of the two to improve.” Haldane “Men give me credit for some genius. All the genius I have lies in this: When I have a subject in hand, I study it profoundly. Day and night it is before me. I explore it in all its bearings. My mind becomes pervaded with it. Then the effort which I have made is what people are pleased to call the fruit of genius. It is the fruit of labor and thought.” Alexander Hamilton “Many a one has succeeded only because he has failed after repeated efforts. If he had never met defeat, he would never have known any great victory.” Orison Sweet Marden “You can do anything you wish to do, have anything you wish to have, be anything you wish to be.” Robert Collier “The first requisite of success is the ability to apply your physical and mental energies to one problem without growing weary.” Thomas Edison “Every minute you spend in planning saves 10 minutes in execution; this gives you a 1,000 percent return on energy!” Brian Tracy “Achievement seems to be connected with action. Successful men and women keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” Conrad Hilton “You don’t become enormously successful without encountering and overcoming a number of extremely challenging problems.” Mark Victor Hansen “Personal development is your springboard to personal excellence. Ongoing, continuous, non-stop personal development literally assures you that there is no limit to what you can accomplish.” Brian Tracy “The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible.” I found it easier to get rich than I did to make excuses. Jim Rohn “He who reigns within himself and rules his passions, desires, and fears is more than a king.” John Milton “Time is our most valuable asset, yet we tend to waste it, kill it, and spend it rather than invest it.” Jim Rohn “The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want.” Ben Stein “I do not think there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.” John D. Rockefeller “The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do. They don’t like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose.” E.M. Gray “The problem with most failing businesses is not that their owners don?t know enough about finance, marketing, management, and operations — they don?t, but those things are easy enough to learn — but that they spend their time and energy defending what they think they know. My experience has shown me that the people who are exceptionally good in business aren?t so because of what they know but because of their insatiable need to know more.” Michael Gerber

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5 Tips Arnold Schwarzenegger untuk Memiliki Kehidupan yang Anda Inginkan

tips Arnold Schwarzenegger Juara dunia binaraga, yang juga merupakan salah satu aktor termahal selama puluhan tahun, dan sekarang menjabat sebagai gubernur California. Perjalanan sejarah Arnold Schwarzenegger lebih menyerupai perjalanan sejarah tiga orang yang digabung menjadi satu. Bagaimana ia bisa mencapai semua prestasi tersebut? Berikut ini adalah 5 buah kebiasaan dan tips sukses yang diambil dari pengalaman Arnold sendiri :

1. Percaya Pada Diri Anda Sendiri

“Saya sadar bahwa saya adalah seorang pemenang di akhir tahun 60an. Saya sadar bahwa saya ditakdirkan untuk melakukan hal-hal besar. Orang-orang akan berkata bahwa pemikiran semacam itu terkesan sombong dan terkesan seperti lupa daratan. Saya setuju, rendah diri bukanlah kata yang saya terapkan dalam diri saya – dan semoga tidak pernah saya terapkan.” “Kita semua memiliki kekuatan dalam diri kita. Kekuatan tersebut adalah keyakinan diri sendiri; sikap untuk menjadi pemenang. Anda harus melihat diri anda sebagai seorang pemenang sebelum anda memperoleh kemenangan. Anda harus merasa lapar dan anda harus memiliki kemauan untuk menaklukan segala hal.” “Pikiran anda adalah batasnya. Selama pikiran anda bisa melihat fakta bahwa anda bisa melakukan sesuatu, anda pasti bisa melakukannya, asalkan anda percaya 100% anda bisa.” Kepercayaan diri yang sangat kuat akan sangat membantu anda. Meskipun terdengar konyol, kepercayaan diri anda sangat menentukan perjalanan dan hasil yang akan anda raih. Namun masalah yang sering muncul dari pernyataan seperti “Percayalah pada dirimu sendiri!” adalah pernyataan tersebut tidak disertai dengan instruksi-instruksi praktis supaya anda lebih mempercayai diri anda sendiri, sehingga anda kadang merasa sulit untuk mencapai tujuan anda. Ada beberapa hal yang terbukti sangat membantu untuk menyelesaikan masalah ini.

  • Pertama, dengan menyadari bahwa anda mampu mengatasi semua hal-hal negatif yang merintangi anda, kepercayaan diri dan kemampuan anda akan tumbuh.
  • Kedua, anda juga bisa melakukan proses serupa sesuai dengan keinginan anda. Dengan menentukan tujuan dan akhirnya mencapai tujuan tersebut; rasa percaya diri anda juga akan meningkat.

Kedua pilihan ini memang memerlukan proses dan kesabaran, dan pada saat tertentu pilihan-pilihan tersebut rasanya tidak berguna. Namun sama seperti banyak hal, anda tetap harus berusaha sebaik mungkin untuk mencapai hasil yang terbaik. Ada sisi lain dari tantangan ini. Kurangnya rasa percaya diri biasanya disebabkan oleh ’sabotase’ dari dalam diri anda sendiri, keyakinan yang anda batasi dan pergumulan dalam pikiran anda. Intinya adalah anda menahan diri anda sendiri. Memiliki pegangan yang cukup baik dalam mengendalikan diri anda akan membantu anda untuk melihat apa yang ingin anda lakukan. Karena, seperti yang dikatakan oleh Arnold, anda harus mampu untuk memvisualisasikan apa yang ingin anda lakukan atau anda akan sulit untuk mewujudkan visi anda menjadi sebuah kenyataan. Dengan belajar mengendalikan pikiran anda, akan lebih mudah untuk menanamkan visi anda hari demi hari, minggu demi minggu. Anda akan lebih bertahan terhadap ’sabotase’ dari dalam diri anda sendiri, dan seiring dengan itu keyakinan anda pun akan lebih kuat jika suatu saat anda dipertanyakan oleh orang lain.

2. Lihatlah Perjuangan dan Kegagalan Sebagai Sesuatu yang Positif

“Kekuatan bukan berasal dari kemenangan. Perjuangan andalah yang membuat anda kuat. Ketika anda melalui tantangan dan memutuskan untuk tidak menyerah, itulah kekuatan” Kegagalan bukanlah akhir dari segalanya. Kegagalan merupakan bagian dari perjalanan anda, bagian dari proses belajar. Masalahnya adalah jika anda memiliki mental yang buruk yang mengatakan bahwa setiap kegagalan berarti akhir dari segalanya. Hal ini bisa menghambat anda dari bekerja secara optimal, atau bahkan menghentikan anda dari mengambil sebuah tindakan. Kunci untuk mengatasi hambatan ini adalah dengan mengolah mental agar anda selalu mengatakan bahwa peluang akan selalu ada. Hal ini juga akan membantu anda untuk tidak terlalu serius dalam menanggapi kemunduran. Salah satu cara untuk membantu diri anda sendiri untuk mengembangkan mental semacam itu adalah dengan menggantikan beberapa hal yang selama ini menjadi sumber informasi anda – seperti berita atau iklan. Gantikan dengan informasi yang berasal dari pembicara atau penulis pengembangan diri. Cara lain adalah dengan bergaul dengan lebih banyak orang yang memiliki mental tersebut. Anda dikatakan benar-benar gagal hanya jika anda berhenti dan menyerah. Jika anda teruskan, justru akan membangun kekuatan dalam diri anda untuk hidup dan berjalan melalui tantangan tersebut. Jika anda melihat ke belakang dan belajar dari kegagalan anda, anda akan memperdalam pengetahuan yang anda miliki, bahkan mungkin anda akan mampu menghindari beberapa kesalahan dan menemukan cara lain untuk mencapai tujuan anda. Ingatlah bahwa untuk mencapai sukses anda membutuhkan kegagalan-kegagalan tersebut. Kegagalan membuat anda menjadi lebih kuat serta lebih pintar. Gabungan kedua hal tersebut merupakan kunci dari kesuksesan anda.

3. Lakukan Lebih Banyak dari yang Diminta

“Tiga atau empat gerakan terakhirlah yang akan membuat otot anda berkembang. Tingkat sakit yang anda rasakan, yang membedakan antara pemenang dan pecundang. Hal inilah yang tidak dimiliki semua orang; keberanian untuk terus maju dan berkata, mereka akan menahan rasa sakit apapun yang terjadi” Lakukan lebih banyak dari yang diminta. Hal ini memang tidaklah mudah. Saya mengatakan hal ini tidak mudah karena saya terlalu lama berpikir. Masalahnya, berpikir terlalu lama cenderung membawa anda pada pikiran-pikiran negatif dimana anda justru akan menggunakan pikiran anda tersebut untuk mengurangi kekuatan anda melalui keragu-raguan. Jika anda menjumlahkan seluruh waktu berpikir anda yang terlalu lama itu, anda bisa menghabiskan waktu berbulan-bulan bahkan bertahun-tahun hidup anda. Akan lebih bermanfaat jika anda berhenti berpikir ketika semua hal yang diperlukan sudah dipikirkan. Lalu lakukan apa yang anda pilih.

4. Berolahragalah

“Latihan memberi kita penyaluran atas energi terpendam yang berasal dari stress dan menyeimbangkan diri dengan jiwa; sama halnya dengan olahraga untuk mengkondisikan tubuh anda” Ya, berolahraga sangat bermanfaat dalam banyak hal. Salah satu cara untuk merubah perasaan marah, negatif atau lemah adalah dengan berolahraga. Berolahraga sangat baik karena untuk melakukannya anda tidak tergantung pada pikiran anda. Anda hanya perlu membawa diri anda ke tempat yang anda mau dan menggerakan tubuh anda untuk melakukan beberapa gerakan tertentu untuk mencapai hasil yang diinginkan.

5. Bantulah Orang Lain

“Bantulah orang lain dan balaslah kebaikan orang lain. Saya jamin anda akan menemukan bahwa imbalan terbesar yang anda terima adalah kelimpahan dan makna baru dalam hidup anda” Membantu orang lain merupakan hal yang sangat berharga. Selain memperkaya hidup anda sendiri, anda juga membina hubungan dengan banyak orang, dan hukum balas budi, yaitu dorongan untuk memberikan sesuatu bagi orang lain, sangatlah kuat dalam diri setiap orang. Jika anda memberikan mereka sesuatu yang bernilai dan membantu mereka, maka mereka pun akan bersedia membantu anda jika anda membutuhkannya. Hal ini akan mengarahkan tindakan dan pikiran anda menuju arah yang positif yang tentunya akan sangat bermanfaat bagi kita semua

7 Tips Oprah Untuk Menciptakan Kehidupan yang Luar Biasa

oprah winfrey Pertama-tama, saya ingin mengucapkan Selamat Tahun Baru 2010 bagi para pembaca Aku Ingin Sukses. Semoga tahun ini memberikan lebih banyak berkah dan kesuksesan dibanding tahun yang lalu. Dan bagi anda yang telah mengikrarkan resolusi untuk tahun 2010, semoga dapat terlaksana dan tercapai lebih baik dibanding tahun 2009. Para pembaca yang budiman, di awal tahun ini, saya ingin memberikan sesuatu yang sangat spesial untuk anda. Kali ini saya akan membawakan artikel tentang Oprah Winfrey. Artikel ini merupakan rangkuman tips dari Oprah Winfrey yang sangat luar biasa. Saya yakin jika anda mengikutinya, anda pun akan memiliki kehidupan yang luar biasa, kehidupan yang anda inginkan. (Mungkin anda ingin melihat juga artikel sejenis 5 Tips Arnold Schwarzenegger Untuk Memiliki Kehidupan yang Anda Inginkan, yang saya tulis kurang lebih satu setengah bulan yang lalu) ***** Berikut ini adalah beberapa tips dari Oprah yang memberikan banyak manfaat bagi saya. “Jika anda ingin hidup anda lebih bermakna, anda harus mengubah pola pikir anda.” “Bagi setiap orang yang mencapai kesuksesan, kesuksesan tersebut diraih karena ada seseorang yang menunjukkan jalannya.”

1. Pertahankan Fokus Anda di Tempat yang Tepat

“Bersyukurlah atas segala hal yang anda miliki; dan anda akan memiliki lebih banyak lagi. Jika anda berkonsentrasi pada ada yang tidak anda miliki, anda tidak akan pernah berkecukupan.” Tips ini merupakan tips sederhana yang dapat memiliki pengaruh yang lebih besar dalam hidup anda; lebih besar dari yang anda bayangkan. Anda memiliki sebuah bagian yang disebut Sistem Aktivasi Retikular (SAR) dalam pikiran anda. SAR dapat membantu anda karena ketika anda memfokuskan pikiran anda pada sesuatu, sistem ini akan mulai mencari bukti-bukti dari pemikiran anda. Dan karena anda hanya bisa memfokuskan diri pada sebagian hal saja, apa yang menjadi fokus anda menjadi sangat penting. Bahkan jika anda merubah fokus anda, hal ini akan merubah dunia anda secara radikal. Ketika anda memfokuskan diri pada apa yang anda miliki dan mensyukurinya atau memfokuskan diri pada hal-hal yang anda inginkan, hal-hal ini akan mulai menjadi kenyataan dalam hidup anda. Hal-hal tersebut sebenarnya sudah ada si sekitar anda selama ini. Namun anda hanya bisa melihatnya jika anda merubah fokus anda. Jika anda memfokuskan diri pada apa yang tidak anda miliki, SAR anda akan membantu anda menemukan bahwa anda memang tidak memiliki hal-hal tersebut. Dengan bersyukur dan menghargai hal-hal yang anda temui setiap hari tidak akan mengubah mood anda yang cenderung negatif menjadi positif secara instan. Namun setidaknya anda bisa memiliki lebih banyak informasi mengenai apa yang anda inginkan atau solusi atas hal-hal yang anda coba selesaikan. Satu atau dua reminder; sebagai contoh catatan kecil di lemari es anda, dapat membantu anda untuk tetap fokus pada tempat yang tepat di kehidupan sehari-hari.

2. Definisikan Ulang Arti Kata Kegagalan

“Saya tidak percaya akan kegagalan. Bukanlah kegagalan jika anda menikmati prosesnya.” “Lakukan satu hal yang menurut anda tidak bisa anda lakukan. Jika anda gagal, cobalah lakukan lagi. Lakukan lebih baik pada percobaan kedua. Orang yang tidak pernah terjatuh adalah orang yang tidak pernah mengambil risiko. Ini adalah saatnya. Ambil kesempatan ini dan lakukan!” “Saya percaya salah satu risiko terbesar dalam kehidupan adalah tidak adanya keberanian untuk mengambil risiko.” Salah satu penyebab yang menghambat orang-orang dalam meraih impian mereka adalah rasa takut gagal. Namun seperti yang sudah tertulis, kegagalan bisa menjadi pengalaman berharga yang akan membantu anda. Faktanya, tanpa kegagalan anda tidak akan pernah mempelajari hal-hal yang anda butuhkan untuk mencapai kesuksesan yang anda impikan. Jadi, daripada anda melihat kegagalan sebagai sesuatu yang menakutkan, definisikan ulang arti kata kegagalan dalam pikiran anda sebagai suatu proses pembelajaran. 2 tips lain yang bisa anda gunakan untuk menghadapi kegagalan adalah :

  • Ciptakan mental yang ‘berlebih’. Mental ‘kekurangan’ mengatakan bahwa anda selalu memiliki kekurangan. Mental ‘berlebih’ mengatakan bahwa anda selalu memiliki kelebihan. Selalu ada tujuan yang bisa anda raih, peluang bisnis untuk ditemukan, dan tanggal-tanggal penting untuk anda isi dengan kegiatan bermanfaat. Jika tujuan anda meleset, belajarlah dari pengalaman anda. Jangan biarkan kegagalan menjatuhkan semangat anda. Gunakan tips pertama dari artikel ini dan fokuslah kembali pada hal-hal yang ingin anda capai. Fokuslah pada ‘kelebihan’ yang ada. Tips ini tidak hanya membuat anda lebih berani dalam mengambil risiko, namun juga untuk mengurangi perasaan-perasaan negatif yang ada pada diri anda. Rasa takut gagal biasanya merupakan hasil pemikiran anda sendiri karena anda selalu merasa ‘kekurangan’.
  • Fokuslah pada prosesnya. Maksud dari tips ini adalah anda harus memfokuskan diri pada apa yang sedang anda kerjakan. Anda tidak memikirkan hasil yang mungkin anda peroleh jika anda tetap fokus pada apa yang sedang anda kerjakan. Anda memisahkan diri anda dari hasil yang bisa anda raih. Fokuskan pikiran anda pada pekerjaan anda. Anda tidak perlu berpikir bagaimana anda bisa gagal, mengecewakan diri anda sendiri atau mencapai kesuksesan. Anda tidak perlu memikirkan bagaimana anda mengecewakan, menghibur atau memikirkan pandangan orang lain terhadap diri anda. Fokuslah pada pekerjaan anda sehingga apa yang anda kerjakan bisa menjadi lebih menyenangkan meskipun anda akan mengalami hambatan dan kegagalan.

3. Anda Memberi Makan Rasa Takut Anda

“Apapun yang anda takuti sebenarnya tidak memiliki kuasa atas anda – rasa takutlah yang menguasai diri anda.” Rasa takut umumnya adalah perasaan yang muncul dari pikiran yang anda beri makan dengan energi yang anda miliki. Jika anda menerima rasa takut dan menghadapi rasa takut tersebut, maka anda berhenti memberi makan rasa takut anda dan rasa takut tersebut akan lenyap. Jadi, kuncinya adalah untuk menerima rasa takut anda. Dengan menerima apa adanya rasa takut tersebut, anda akan berhenti memberi makanan pada perasaan tersebut. Salah satu cara untuk melakukan hal ini adalah dengan mengikuti emosi anda, lalu lakukan hal yang anda takuti tersebut. Dengan mengikuti emosi anda, anda melepaskan atau setidaknya melemahkan perasaan-perasaan negatif yang menahan anda untuk melakukan sesuatu. Dengan bertindak, pikiran anda akan mendapatkan bukti bahwa apa yang anda takuti sebenarnya tidak menakutkan seperti yang ada di pikiran anda.

4. Lakukan Hal yang Benar

“Inti dari integritas adalah melakukan hal yang benar, terlepas dari apakah orang lain mengetahui anda melakukannya atau tidak.” Poin ini sangatlah menarik. Namun bagaimana anda melakukannya? Bagaimana anda tetap mengerjakan hal yang benar ketika tidak ada seorang pun yang memperhatikan dan memeriksa anda? Tentunya saya tidak memiliki jawaban yang lengkap untuk pertanyaan tersebut, namun saya menemukan 2 hal berikut:

  • Buatlah aturan untuk diri anda sendiri. Jika anda ingin tetap melakukan hal yang benar maka anda harus memperhatikan peraturan yang ada dan nilai-nilai yang ditetapkan oleh orang-orang disekitar anda. Anda harus memahami diri anda dan apa yang anda ingin lakukan. Jika anda mengikuti peraturan orang lain maka anda akan bertanggung jawab kepada orang yang membuat peraturan tersebut. Dan akan lebih mudah bagi anda untuk berbuat curang atau melakukan kesalahan ketika tidak ada yang memperhatikan anda. Namun jika anda membuat aturan untuk diri anda sendiri maka anda sendirilah yang bertanggung jawab. Jika anda bisa bertanggung jawab terhadap diri anda sendiri, akan lebih mudah bagi anda untuk melakukan hal yang anda rasakan benar secara konsisten.
  • Jangan bergantung pada validasi eksternal. Jika anda bergantung pada validasi eksternal – pendapat dari orang-orang yang mengatakan bahwa anda melakukan pekerjaan dengan baik, dll. – maka akan sulit bagi anda untuk melakukan sesuatu sesuai dengan aturan main anda. Secara konsisten anda akan mencari tahu validasi orang lain dan beradaptasi sesuai dengan pendapat orang lain. Dan jika anda bergantung sepenuhnya pada pendapat orang lain maka anda akan lebih mudah tergoda untuk berbuat curang atau berhenti melakukan hal yang benar ketika tidak ada yang mengawasi anda; karena tidak ada yang akan memuji anda.

5. Anda Menuai Apa yang Anda Tanam

“Satu hal yang saya yakini adalah apa yang anda berikan akan kembali pada diri anda sendiri.” Nasihat ini merupakan nasihat klasik, dan saya percaya nasihat ini sangat tepat. Orang cenderung untuk beradaptasi dan memberikan respon. Mereka memperlakukan anda seperti anda memperlakukan mereka. Namun akhir-akhir ini saya mulai berpikir tentang bagaimana hal ini bekerja melalui cara lain. Saya berpendapat bahwa apa yang anda lakukan terhadap orang lain merupakan perwujudan dari bagaimana anda memperlakukan diri anda sendiri. Jika anda menyalurkan banyak hal-hal negatif ke sekeliling anda maka anda juga memberikan hal-hal yang sama bagi diri anda sendiri. Untuk sementara, mungkin anda merasa baik-baik saja jika anda menggunjingkan atasan anda. Namun saya percaya bahwa hal-hal negatif yang anda temukan di sekeliling anda disebabkan oleh sikap semacam ini. Hal ini mungkin tidak berhubungan langsung dengan apa yang anda katakan atau lakukan. Namun nampaknya anda tidak bisa menyakiti orang lain tanpa menyakiti diri anda sendiri. Semakin banyak hal-hal negatif yang keluar dari dalam diri anda, semakin buruk pula perasaan anda dalam kehidupan sehari-hari; semakin sering anda akan melakukan sesuatu secara berlebihan dan merasakan kesedihan yang tiba-tiba muncul begitu saja. Mungkin karena anda mengeluarkan begitu banyak hal-hal negatif maka SAR anda akan memfokuskan diri pada hal-hal negatif yang anda jumpai dalam kehidupan sehari-hari anda.

6. Lupakan Masa Lalu, Hiduplah di Masa Sekarang

“Ambil nafas, lepaskan, dan ingatkan diri anda bahwa saat ini merupakan waktu yang anda miliki dengan pasti.” Salah satu hal terbaik yang bisa anda lakukan untuk meningkatkan kualitas kehidupan dan kepribadian anda adalah dengan melupakan apa yang sudah terjadi; jangan memikirkan hal-hal negatif yang terjadi di masa lalu anda terlalu lama. Namun bagaimana anda akan melakukannya? Saya berhasil menemukan beberapa tips yang sangat berguna. Tips berikut bekerja dengan baik dan akan bekerja dengan lebih baik seiring dengan berjalannya waktu dan saya menjadi lebih ahli dalam menerapkan tips tersebut. Tips pertama adalah tanyakan pada diri anda sendiri: “Apa manfaatnya bagi saya?” sepanjang hari atau ketika anda merasakan pikiran-pikiran negatif bermunculan dalam pikiran anda. Apa manfaat yang saya akan peroleh ketika saya memikirkan pikiran-pikiran ini? Saya sering menyadari bahwa memikirkan hal-hal yang negatif tidaklah bermanfaat bagi saya. Pikiran-pikiran negatif atau mengulang kembali memori negatif berulang ulang dalam pikiran anda tidak akan bermanfaat bagi anda. Ya, anda mungkin bisa mendapatkan kepuasan sendiri – seperti perasaan bahwa anda menjadi korban atau dengan membenci seseorang dan merencanakan balas dendam. Namun yang sebenarnya anda lakukan betul-betul membuang waktu dan energi anda. Anda telah membaca tips kedua: fokuslah pada apa yang anda inginkan dan fokuslah pada kelimpahan daripada kekurangan. Tips ketiga adalah belajar untuk menghabiskan lebih banyak waktu di masa sekarang atau pada proyek masa depan yang anda rencanakan daripada menghabiskan waktu mengingat-ingat masa lalu. Dan cara terbaik dan terpraktis untuk menerapkan tips-tips tersebut telah tertulis pada bagian awal artikel ini.

7. Segala Hal yang Terjadi Berada Dalam Kendali Anda

“Setiap dari kita bertanggung jawab atas kehidupan kita sendiri – bukan orang lain.” Ketika kita muda, orang lain bertanggung jawab atas kehidupan kita. Menurut pendapat saya, salah satu tanda kematangan adalah jika seseorang bertanggung jawab 100% atas kehidupannya sendiri. Namun, tetap masih ada perasaan dimana kita menginginkan orang lain untuk bertanggung jawab atas kehidupan kita. Salah satu contoh yang sering terjadi dalam kehidupan nyata adalah saat orang mencari ‘obat mujarab’, daripada memegang kendali dan mengambil tanggung jawab atas kehidupan mereka sendiri, serta bekerja selangkah demi selangkah untuk mencapai tujuan. Ada kebutuhan akan buku, program, obat, atau sesuatu yang bisa kita beli untuk menghilangkan masalah yang kita hadapi. Sama seperti ketika ayah atau ibu memecahkan masalah anda. Saya tidak berkata bahwa saya tidak pernah mencari ‘obat mujarab’ tersebut. Mungkin setiap orang harus melalui fase tersebut dalam hidupnya. Namun saya merasa bahwa ketika anda berhenti mencari hal-hal semacam itu, maka anda berada di jalan yang akan membawa anda mencapai hasil yang lebih baik daripada hasil yang anda peroleh dari ‘obat mujarab’ tersebut.

Mengapa? Anda menyadari bahwa anda harus berada di belakang kemudi dan memegang kendali. Dan ketika anda berhenti mencari ‘obat mujarab’, anda akan menjadi lebih fokus. Anda menyadari bahwa tidak ada buku yang bisa memberikan anda lebih banyak ilmu. Anda menyadari bahwa anda harus bertindak dan menciptakan kehidupan sesuai dengan keinginan anda. Dan sekarang, buku-buku yang anda beli menjadi berguna karena anda berhenti melihat buku-buku tersebut sebagai ‘obat mujarab’ yang akan menyembuhkan anda, namun anda melihatnya sebagai panduan yang menuntun anda selama

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These 12 attitude attributes can put you in the right mindset for achieving entrepreneurial success. 1. Have passion for your business Work should be fun. Your passion will help you overcome difficult moments and persuade people to work for you and want to do business with you. Passion can’t be taught. When it wanes, as it surely will in difficult times, take some quiet time. Whether it be an hour or a week, take inventory of all the reasons you started the business and why you like being your own boss. That should renew your passion. 2. Set an example of trustworthiness People have confidence in trustworthy individuals and want to work for them in a culture of integrity. The same is true for customers. 3. Be flexible, except with core values It’s a given that your plans and strategies will change as time goes on. This flexibility for rapid change is an inherent advantage of small over large business. However, no matter the pressure for immediate profits, do not compromise on core values. 4. Don’t let fear of failure hold you back Failure is an opportunity to learn. All things being equal, venture capitalists would rather invest money in an individual who tried and failed founding a company than in someone who never tried. 5. Make timely decisions It’s okay to use your intuition. Planning and thought are good. But procrastination leads to missed opportunity. 6. The major company asset is you Take care of yourself. Your health is more valuable than the most expensive machinery or computer software for the company. You don’t have to choose between your family or your company, play or work. Maintain your health for balance and energy, which will, in turn, enhance your mental outlook. 7. Keep your ego under control Don’t take profits and spend them on expensive toys to impress others. Build a war chest for unexpected needs or opportunities. This also means hearing out new ideas and suggestions no matter how crazy they sound. 8. Believe You need to believe in yourself, in your company, and that you will be successful. This confidence is contagious with your employees, customers, stakeholders, suppliers and everyone you deal with. 9. Encourage and accept criticism graciously. Admit your mistakes. You need to constantly work on convincing your employees that it’s OK — even necessary —to state their honest opinions even it if conflicts with the boss’s opinion. Just stating it once or putting it in a mission statement won’t cut it for most people. 10. Maintain a strong work ethic Your employees will follow your lead. It will also help you beat your competition by outworking them, particularly when your product or service is very similar. 11. Rebound quickly from setbacks There surely will be plenty of ups and downs as you build the business. Learn from the setbacks and move on. You can’t change the past. 12. Periodically get out of your comfort zone to pursue something important Many times you will feel uncomfortable in implementing a needed change in technology, people, mission, competing, etc. For the company and you to grow personally, you sometimes have to step out of your comfort zone.

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Thomas Edison’s Top 5 Tips for Success

by Henrik Edberg. Thomas Alva Edison was one of the most famous and hard-working inventors in history. When he died in 1931 he held 1093 patents in his name (though a lot of his inventions were collaborations). Some of his most used inventions are of course the light bulb and the gramophone. He also did quite a bit work to improve x-ray machines for while (until he almost lost his own eye-sight and an assistant died due to radiation poisoning). And he had a AC/DC-current war with the odd and fascinating inventor Nikola Tesla. Here are a few of my favourite tips from Edison. They are all about success. And what kind of work and mindset achieving such a thing may require.

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

One of the problems in life is that people just give up too soon. I think quite a big bit of this because of social programming and the expectations set by society. It’s seen as pretty normal to try once or maybe a few times and then give up. There is also a ton of products, books and commercials that promises us that we can “Earn 20000 dollars in just 4 weeks” or “Easily lose 30 pounds in 30 days!”. And we hear these messages over and over throughout life. No wonder it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that everything should work out after about three tries or so. When the promise of a quick fix is sold to us all the time and people around us are buying into it then it becomes easy just do the same thing. And align our expectations of the world around how things “should” work rather than how they work. If one does not give up so quickly but tries perhaps 20-30 times or more there is a pretty good chance that success will come. If one keeps at it for not 3 weeks but 6 months then the likelihood of success often increases. If not, then you may spend a lot of time in a cycle where you try a new quick fix, get discouraged quickly and give up, spend some cash on the next quick fix and getting overly enthusiastic and then continue the cycle by jumping from one magic bullet to another, never achieving much of a result. You can read more about this problem in One Big Mistake a Lot of People Make.

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

Now, how do you reframe failure? How do you look at it so you don’t feel overwhelmed and give up? Well, you can look at failure as a part of a process. You look at it as ways that won’t work. You draw lessons from those ways. Then you let that go, focus on the present and try again (this time perhaps in a different way). If you look at failure as something big, like it’s the end of the world you’ll probably be quite a bit afraid of it. And so it can feel too painful to go on after a few failures. Or you may never even try, since your mind is projecting all these horrible and painful future scenarios of what will happen if you try and fail. Also, if you come from a place of abundance then failure has less power over you. Failure can be really useful if you learn to redefine it for yourself. The key is to develop an abundance mentality – where there is always an abundance of opportunities – instead of a more common scarcity mentality where there is always a lack. If you start to think about your world this way failure becomes less painful and the fear of missteps lessens. Because with an abundance mentality you believe that there are more good opportunities out there even if you experience failure. So you are less inclined to give into fear and to pull away from taking a chance. Failure still hurts even if you think about things this way. But then you think about what you can learn from the failure. And then you start over again. And in retrospect you often discover that your previous failure provided some very useful, perhaps even necessary lessons, for your latest project to grow as well as it does. This way – seeing it as a process and have an abundance-mentality – is one way to reframe failure to keep yourself from giving up. If you look at it this way you’ll be less prone to lie down and just give up.

“The value of an idea lies in the using of it.”

Useful information is good. But you have to put it to use sometime or you’ll never reap any benefits or success. This is a pretty common problem when you for instance get interested in personal development. You get a lot of books, programs etc. and you study them. And then you get more. Always looking for the magic bullet that will give you success without you having to do anything. Confusing yourself and feeling like you are making progress by reading another book. That emotional high is dangerous because it can fool you into thinking that things are progressing. But then a few months later nothing much has happened, except you have a lot of knowledge (and have probably forgotten half of it because your mind couldn’t retain it because you weren’t putting it into action). To get results you need to take action. That’s also the best way to really understand the information you have absorbed and possibly find ways to tweak and use it in an even better way for yourself.

“Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishment and to either of these ends there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing.”

But just going for it, taking action and doing something isn’t enough. You have to ask yourself if what you are doing is useful? Or is it just another way to keep yourself busy, to keep yourself from doing what you really want to do? You need to think about what you really want to do. You need to make plans. Then throughout your normal day you can remind yourself, by for instance using external reminders like written notes, to stay on track. To not get lost on the wrong track or in the busywork that is perhaps a normal routine or an easy escape from the things you’d like to do but that require more perspiration.

“Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.”

There is a myth that geniuses mostly just are geniuses and can do great things pretty much as easily as you and I tie our shoelaces. But what is seldom mentioned or seen is how much the really successful people work. And how far the people that just practise, practise, practise can go. I think natural talent certainly plays a role. But I also think that it can become an excuse to slack off and never come close to your potential. To find something you can become really, really good at – perhaps even be regarded as genius at – I think you need to find something you really, really like to do. Otherwise, your inner motivation and passion will run out and you’ll probably show up less and less. Until you one day just give it up. Maybe it wasn’t the thing for you. Maybe you grew apart from it.

And if that happens then you can try to find another thing that you really, really like to do.

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7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People

by Henrik Edberg. With a twist to the common list of habits that are useful to establish, here are 7 habits that you do best to avoid. Just like finding habits that can be useful for you it’s important to find habits that are holding you back. Most of these 7 habits can easily become such a normal, everyday part of life that you hardly notice it (or how it’s affecting you). I’ve dabbled with all of them quite a bit. Not surprisingly I didn’t get much of the important stuff done. I´d also like to add that these are just 7 broad habits you can establish to become highly ineffective in most parts of your life. I pretty sure there are several more. 1. Not showing up.

Maybe you’ve heard this quote by Woody Allen: “Eighty percent of success is showing up” One of the biggest and simplest thing you can do to ensure more success in your life – whether it be in your social life, your career or with your health – is simply to show up more. If you want to improve your health then one of the most important and effective things you can do is just to show up at the gym every time you should be there. The weather might be bad, you might not feel like going and you find yourself having all these other things you just must do. If you still go, if you show up at the gym when motivation is low you will improve a whole lot faster than if you just stayed at home relaxing on the sofa. I think this applies to most areas of life. If you write or paint more, each day perhaps, you will improve quickly. If you get out more you can meet more new friends. If you go on more dates you chances of meeting someone special increases. Just showing up more can really make a big difference. Not showing up will not get you anywhere.

2. Procrastinating half the day. To keep it short, my 3 favourite ways to get out of a procrastinating state are:

- Swallow that frog. What´s this means is simply to do the hardest and most important task of the day first thing in the morning. A good start in the morning lifts your spirits and creates a positive momentum for the rest of the day. That often creates a pretty productive day. – How do you eat an elephant? Don´t try to take it all in one big bite. It becomes overwhelming which leads to procrastination. Split a task into small actionable steps. Then just focus on the first step and nothing else. Just do that one until it’s done. Then move on to the next step. – The Get around to It Paraliminal. I find this guided mediation to be very useful. After 20 minutes of mostly just lying on my bed and listening I’m far more productive for a few days. I don´t feel the urge to sink into that procrastinating state or the need to find out what’s new over at one or five of my favourite websites.

3. When actually doing something, doing something that isn’t the most important thing right now.

One of the easiest habits to get stuck in, besides procrastinating, is to keep yourself busy with unimportant tasks. To be effective you probably need some kind of time management-system. It might be something really simple, like using the 80/20-rule at the beginning of each day. The 80/20 rule, or the Pareto Principle as it´s also known, says that you´ll get 80 percent of your results from only 20 percent of your tasks and activities. So you need to focus most of your energy on those few important tasks to be effective. When you have prioritized using this rule just write down the top 3 most important things you need to do that day. Then, from the top, start doing them. Even if you just get one of the things done, you have still done the most important thing you could do today. You may perhaps prefer some other system, such as GTD. But however you organise your work it’s still of highest priority to find the most important tasks so you don’t spend days, weeks or months doing busywork that isn’t that essential anyway. Just getting things done faster isn’t that useful if the things you get done are unimportant to you.

4. Thinking too much.

And thereby seldom taking action. Paralysis by analysis can waste years of your life. There is nothing wrong with thinking before you do something. Do some research, make a plan, explore potential upsides and problems. But compulsively thinking and thinking and thinking is just another way to waste your time. You don’t have to examine everything from every angle before you try it. And you can’t wait for the perfect time to do something. That time never comes. And if you keep thinking you’ll just dig yourself down deeper and deeper and taking action will become more and more difficult. Instead you just need to stop thinking. Shut of your mind – it just helps you up to a point – and go do whatever you need to do.

5. Seeing the negative and downsides in just about anything.

When you see everything from a negative perspective you quickly punch a hole in your own motivation. You find faults everywhere and problems where there are really none. You cling to details. If you want to find a reason to not do something then that’s no problem. From a negative viewpoint you can find ten reasons every time. And so very little gets done, you whine to anyone who wants to hear – and many who don’t – about how crappy your job, life and boss is. Which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy as you create the life that is appropriate considering how think and see your world. A solution is to realise the limits of a negative perspective. And that your perspective isn’t some kind of 100% true picture of the world. Then try other perspectives. For instance, trying to establish a habit of seeing things in a more positive and optimistic light can be quite useful. In that vein, you may want to try the Positivity Challenge. It´s not easy, but if you do the challenge and try to only think positive thoughts for 7 days it can give you an insight in how much your perspective and beliefs changes how you interpret your world. And what results you get.

6. Clinging to your own thoughts and being closed to outside influences.

It can be hard to admit that what you thought or believed was not the best alternative. So you cling to your thoughts harder and harder and keep your mind closed. This makes it hard to improve and for instance to become more effective. Even really considering the possibility that you can change your life can be difficult in this position. One solution, obviously, is to open up more. To open up and learn from the mistakes of others, from your own mistakes and from other sources like books. This is easy to say though. It can, as almost anything, be harder to do. One suggestion I have is to, like I said about the previous habit, realise the limits of what you know and the way you going about things. And then just try something new. Another tip is to read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and especially look at the chapters about the Ego. If you stop identifying so much with your thoughts and your Ego, as Tolle prescribes, it becomes a whole a lot easier to let new ideas and thoughts come into your life. And to let go of old thoughts that aren’t useful to you anymore. On the other hand I’d like to add and counter-balance with these tips: don’t get stuck in reading, in just taking in new information either or you might become a self-help junkie. Use the new information, put what you have learned in to action and try it out.

7. Constantly on information overload. With information overload I don’t just mean that you read a lot. I pretty much mean an overload in all input. If you just let all information flow into your mind it will be hard to think clearly. It’s just too much stimulation. A few more potential downsides to this habit are: – Some of the input you receive will be negative. The media and your surroundings often put a negative spin on things for various reasons. If you aren´t selective in what input you want in your life then you’ll be dragged into this negativity too. This affects how you think, feel and act. – It creates an urge to keep up with what’s happening but there are always ten more things happening so you can’t keep up. This makes life stressful. – It becomes hard to make decisions and take action if your mind is constantly bombarded with information or trying to sort through it all. Personally I find that if I get too much information it leads to a sort of paralysis. Not much get´s done. Or you get stuck in habit #3 and keep busy, busy, busy at high speed with low priority activities. To be able to focus, think more clearly and take action it´s useful to be more selective in what you let into your mind. When you work shut out as much distractions as possible. Shut off the phone, internet and shut the door. It is strange how much you can get done when you aren´t interrupted every fifth minute or have the opportunity to procrastinate by checking your RSS-feeds or favourite websites. Now I´m not suggesting that you should stop reading all blogs or newspapers. But think about what you really want to read and what you read just read to fill your time. And have a look at other areas of input where the doors are wide-open.

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25 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself

by Henrik Edberg. Print Feeling less than motivated all too often? I do. Well, perhaps not too often. But sometimes I just feel really lazy and unmotivated. Want some practical solutions to that universal motivation-problem? Here are 25 of them. Try a handful. Let me know which ones work well for you. I’m sure you’ll find at least one or two that do just that among these suggestions. 1. Make a deal with yourself. Good for overcoming procrastination and getting things done. You can make the deal small or large. You simple tell yourself something like: When I’m done with this chapter/these reports I can take a walk in the park and enjoy an ice-cream. 2. Act like it. If you don’t feel motivated or enthusiastic then act like it. The strange thing is that within a few minutes you actually start to feel motivated or enthusiastic for real. 3. Ask uplifting questions in the morning. Here’s what you do; every morning ask yourself five empowering three-part questions this way: What am I ______ about in my life right now? What about it makes me _______? How does it make me feel? Put in your own value in the blank space. For instance, a couple of my questions are: What am I happy about in my life right now? What am I excited about in my life right now? It’s important that you really feel how it makes you feel. When I think about the last part about what makes me happy right now I really feel it. These morning questions are great because the way they are set up makes you recognize things you take for granted and then they really get you to feel those positive feelings. 4. Move the goalposts. Set a large and specific goal. This will motivate you much more than small goals. A big goal has a big effect and can create a lot of motivation. 5. Do something small and create a flow. Just clean your desk. Or pay your bills. Or wash the dishes. You just need to get started. When you have finished that small task you’ll feel more alert and ready to go do the next thing. You just to get started to get motivated. So if you really don’t feel like doing anything, start with something small and work your way out up. 6. Do the toughest task first. This will ease a lot of your day-to-day worries and boost your self-confidence for the rest of the day. Read more about doing the hardest task bright and early right here. 7. Start slow. Instead of jumping into something at full speed start slow. When you do that your mind will not visualize the task as something hard that you have to do fast, fast, fast. If your mind sees such things guess what often happens? Yep, you don’t get started. Actually getting started, even if it’s at a slow pace, is a whole lot better than not getting started at all. 8. Compare yourself with yourself. Not with others. Comparing what you have and your results to what other people have and have accomplished can really kill your motivation. There are always people ahead of you. Most likely quite a bit of people. And a few of them are miles ahead. So focus on you. On your results. And how you can and have improved them. Reviewing your results is important so you see where you have gone wrong in the past to avoid similar missteps further on. But it’s also important because it’s a great motivator to see how much you have improved and how far you have come. Often you can be pleasantly surprised when you do such a review. 9. Remember your successes. And let them flow through your mind instead of your failures. Write down your successes. Consider using a journal of some kind since it’s easy to forget your successes. 10. Act like your heroes. Read about them, watch them, listen to them. Discover what they did that was special and what made them tick. But remember that they are people just like us. So let them inspire you instead of looking up at them admiringly. 11. Remember to have fun. Or create fun in a task. Then you’ll stay motivated to do and finish it. 12. Get out of your comfort zone. Face your challenges to get a real boost of motivation. If you are holding yourself back have a look at 5 Life-Changing Keys to Overcoming Your Fear and the methods in this article. They can help you get started and take that first scary step outside your comfort zone. 13. Don’t fear failure. Instead redefine it as feedback and as a natural part of a successful life. As Michael Jordan said: “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” Also, try to find the valuable lesson(s) in each of your failures. Ask yourself: What can I learn from this? 14. Do some research on what you are about to do. Then your expectations will be more grounded in reality and you can also get good hints on what difficulties that you might run into along the way. Managing your expectations can lower the often almost explosive initial enthusiasm. But it can also lessen the lack of motivation that usually follows when most of that enthusiasm has dissipated. When you know what has happened to others in similar situations – what path they have walked – you can adapt and try their solutions (and personal variations of those) and your own. This makes the worries and challenges easier to handle. Both emotionally – since you know at least some of the things that will happen and that others have lived through it before – and practically. 15. Figure out why you´re doing something. If you don’t know or don’t have good enough reason to do something then it will be hard to get it done. Do things that you have really strong reasons to do. If you want to do something then figure out a good reason to do it. If you can’t find one consider dropping it and doing something that you have a good reason to do instead. 16. Write down your goals and reasons for working towards them. Tape them on your wall, computer or bathroom mirror. Then you’ll be reminded throughout the day and it becomes easier to stay on track and stay focused. 17. Take The Positivity Challenge! Learn to think more positively most of the time. Learn to let to go of negative threads of thought before they have a chance to take hold of you. You might not be able to be positive all the time no matter what happens. But I think most of us can improve on our positive thinking and the results it can lead us to. Perhaps more than you realize right now. 18. Cut down on TV. Do you watch it too much? Watch less of what they are doing in TV-land and do more of what you want to do in life. 19. Break it down. Break down your task or project into small steps. And just start with focusing on that first small step. When you are done move on to the next and just focus on that one. The small successes will keep your motivation up and keeping your focus away from the big picture stops you from becoming overwhelmed and discouraged. It’s amazing how much you can get done if you follow this simple method. 20. Reprogram your information intake. Program out negative and cynical thoughts from the media and society. Reduce your information intake. Then program in positive news and entertainment, more of your own thoughts and useful information such as personal growth tapes and books. Be selective and keep it positive. 21. Make use of your creativity. Take out a piece of paper. Write at the top of the page what area in your life you would like to have more ideas about. Perhaps you want ideas to earn more money or become a healthier person. Then brainstorm until you have written down 20 ideas on that topic. Then try for 10 more. Not all ideas will be good. But some will. And as you make use of your creativity you not only discover useful ideas. You also discover just how creative you can be if you try and how motivating and great that feels. Have a look at 8 Ways to Spark Your Creativity for more ideas on this topic. 22. Find out what makes you happy. Then do that. As much as you want or can. 23. Listen while you’re on the move. Build your own small library of motivational/personal development tapes. Listen to them while you are driving, riding the bus or your bike, while you are out running or walking. Take a peek at my recommended personal development products if you are looking for a good place to start. 24. Think outside your box. Don’t imagine the future from the box of what you have now. Just because your mind is in box of previous experiences doesn’t mean that´s the limits of the world. Your possibilities are much larger. Create the future from the now and from nothing rather than your past to experience bigger changes with fewer limitations than you would if you created it from what you can see from your box. 25. Make each day count. We don’t have all the time in the world. So focus on today and do the things you really want to do.

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Gandhi’s Top 10 Fundamentals for Changing the World

by Henrik Edberg. Print “You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.” “The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem.” “If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.” Mahatma Gandhi needs no long introduction. Everyone knows about the man who lead the Indian people to independence from British rule in 1947. So let’s just move on to some of my favourite tips from Mahatma Gandhi. 1. Change yourself. “You must be the change you want to see in the world.” “As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to remake ourselves.” If you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world around you will change. Not only because you are now viewing your environment through new lenses of thoughts and emotions but also because the change within can allow you to take action in ways you wouldn’t have – or maybe even have thought about – while stuck in your old thought patterns. And the problem with changing your outer world without changing yourself is that you will still be you when you reach that change you have strived for. You will still have your flaws, anger, negativity, self-sabotaging tendencies etc. intact. And so in this new situation you will still not find what you hoped for since your mind is still seeping with that negative stuff. And if you get more without having some insight into and distance from your ego it may grow more powerful. Since your ego loves to divide things, to find enemies and to create separation it may start to try to create even more problems and conflicts in your life and world. 2. You are in control. “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” What you feel and how you react to something is always up to you. There may be a “normal” or a common way to react to different things. But that’s mostly just all it is. You can choose your own thoughts, reactions and emotions to pretty much everything. You don’t have to freak out, overreact of even react in a negative way. Perhaps not every time or instantly. Sometimes a knee-jerk reaction just goes off. Or an old thought habit kicks in. And as you realize that no-one outside of yourself can actually control how you feel you can start to incorporate this thinking into your daily life and develop it as a thought habit. A habit that you can grow stronger and stronger over time. Doing this makes life a whole lot easier and more pleasurable. 3. Forgive and let it go. “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” “An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.” Fighting evil with evil won’t help anyone. And as said in the previous tip, you always choose how to react to something. When you can incorporate such a thought habit more and more into your life then you can react in a way that is more useful to you and others. You realize that forgiving and letting go of the past will do you and the people in your world a great service. And spending your time in some negative memory won’t help you after you have learned the lessons you can learn from that experience. You’ll probably just cause yourself more suffering and paralyze yourself from taking action in this present moment. If you don’t forgive then you let the past and another person to control how you feel. By forgiving you release yourself from those bonds. And then you can focus totally on, for instance, the next point. 4. Without action you aren’t going anywhere. “An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.” Without taking action very little will be done. However, taking action can be hard and difficult. There can be much inner resistance. And so you may resort to preaching, as Gandhi says. Or reading and studying endlessly. And feeling like you are moving forward. But getting little or no practical results in real life. So, to really get where you want to go and to really understand yourself and your world you need to practice. Books can mostly just bring you knowledge. You have to take action and translate that knowledge into results and understanding. You can check out a few effective tips to overcome this problem in How to Take More Action: 9 Powerful Tips. Or you can move on to the next point for more on the best tip for taking more action that I have found so far. 5. Take care of this moment. “I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.” The best way that I have found to overcome the inner resistance that often stops us from taking action is to stay in the present as much as possible and to be accepting. Why? Well, when you are in the present moment you don’t worry about the next moment that you can’t control anyway. And the resistance to action that comes from you imagining negative future consequences – or reflecting on past failures – of your actions loses its power. And so it becomes easier to both take action and to keep your focus on this moment and perform better. Have a look at 8 Ways to Return to the Present Moment for tips on how quickly step into the now. And remember that reconnecting with and staying in the now is a mental habit – a sort of muscle – that you grow. Over time it becomes more powerful and makes it easier to slip into the present moment. 6. Everyone is human. “I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.” “It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.” When you start to make myths out of people – even though they may have produced extraordinary results – you run the risk of becoming disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you could never achieve similar things that they did because they are so very different. So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter who they are. And I think it’s important to remember that we are all human and prone to make mistakes. Holding people to unreasonable standards will only create more unnecessary conflicts in your world and negativity within you. It’s also important to remember this to avoid falling into the pretty useless habit of beating yourself up over mistakes that you have made. And instead be able to see with clarity where you went wrong and what you can learn from your mistake. And then try again. 7. Persist. “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” Be persistent. In time the opposition around you will fade and fall away. And your inner resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies that want to hold you back and keep you like you have always been will grow weaker. Find what you really like to do. Then you’ll find the inner motivation to keep going, going and going. You can also find a lot of useful tips on how keep your motivation up in How to Get Out of a Motivational Slump and 25 Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself. One reason Gandhi was so successful with his method of non-violence was because he and his followers were so persistent. They just didn’t give up. Success or victory will seldom come as quickly as you would have liked it to. I think one of the reasons people don’t get what they want is simply because they give up too soon. The time they think an achievement will require isn’t the same amount of time it usually takes to achieve that goal. This faulty belief partly comes from the world we live in. A world full of magic pill solutions where advertising continually promises us that we can lose a lot of weight or earn a ton of money in just 30 days. You can read more about this in One Big Mistake a Whole Lot of People Make. Finally, one useful tip to keep your persistence going is to listen to Gandhi’s third quote in this article and keep a sense of humor. It can lighten things up at the toughest of times. 8. See the good in people and help them. “I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others.” “Man becomes great exactly in the degree in which he works for the welfare of his fellow-men.” “I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.” There is pretty much always something good in people. And things that may not be so good. But you can choose what things to focus on. And if you want improvement then focusing on the good in people is a useful choice. It also makes life easier for you as your world and relationships become more pleasant and positive. And when you see the good in people it becomes easier to motivate yourself to be of service to them. By being of service to other people, by giving them value you not only make their lives better. Over time you tend to get what you give. And the people you help may feel more inclined to help other people. And so you, together, create an upward spiral of positive change that grows and becomes stronger. By strengthening your social skills you can become a more influential person and make this upward spiral even stronger. A few articles that may provide you with useful advice in that department are Do You Make These 10 Mistakes in a Conversation? and Dale Carnegie’s Top 10 Tips for Improving Your Social Skills. Or you can just move on to the next tip. 9. Be congruent, be authentic, be your true self. “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” “Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.” I think that one of the best tips for improving your social skills is to behave in a congruent manner and communicate in an authentic way. People seem to really like authentic communication. And there is much inner enjoyment to be found when your thoughts, words and actions are aligned. You feel powerful and good about yourself. When words and thoughts are aligned then that shows through in your communication. Because now you have your voice tonality and body language – some say they are over 90 percent of communication – in alignment with your words. With these channels in alignment people tend to really listen to what you’re saying. You are communicating without incongruency, mixed messages or perhaps a sort of phoniness. Also, if your actions aren’t in alignment with what you’re communicating then you start to hurt your own belief in what you can do. And other people’s belief in you too. 10. Continue to grow and evolve. ”Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.” You can pretty much always improve your skills, habits or re-evaluate your evaluations. You can gain deeper understanding of yourself and the world. Sure, you may look inconsistent or like you don’t know what you are doing from time to time. You may have trouble to act congruently or to communicate authentically. But if you don’t then you will, as Gandhi says, drive yourself into a false position. A place where you try to uphold or cling to your old views to appear consistent while you realise within that something is wrong. It’s not a fun place to be. To choose to grow and evolve is a happier and more useful path to take.

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These five FOCUS tips can help you concentrate better — whether you’re working in a busy office, studying at school, sitting in a meeting, or trying to finish a project.
F = Five More Rule There are two kinds of people — those who have learned how to work through frustration, and those who wish they had. From now on, if you’re in the middle of a task and tempted to give up — just do FIVE MORE. Read FIVE MORE pages. Finish FIVE MORE math problems. Work FIVE MORE minutes. Just as athletes build physical stamina by pushing past the point of exhaustion, you can build mental stamina by pushing past the point of frustration. Just as runners get their second wind by not giving up when their body initially protests, you can get your “second mind” by not giving up when your willpower initially protests. Continuing to concentrate when your brain is tired is the key to S-T-R-E-T-C-H-I-N-G your attention span and building mental endurance.
O = One Think At a Time Samuel Goldwyn said, “If I look confused, it’s because I’m thinking.” Feeling scatter-brained? Overcome perpetual preoccupation with the Godfather Plan — make your mind a deal it can’t refuse. Yes, the mind takes bribes. Instead of telling it NOT to worry about another, lesser priority (which will cause your mind to think about the very thing it’s not supposed to think about!), assign it a single task with start-stop time parameters. For example, “I will think about how to pay off that credit card debt when I get home tonight and have a chance to add up my bills. For now, for the next thirty minutes from 1-1:30 pm, I will give my complete focus to practicing this presentation so I am eloquent and articulate when pitching this proposal to our VIP clients.” Still can’t get other concerns out of your head? Write them down on your to-do list so you’re free to forget them. Recording worrisome obligations means you don’t have to use your brain as a “reminder” bulletin board, which means you can give your undivided attention to your top priority task.
C = Conquer Procrastination Don’t feel like concentrating? Are you putting off a task or project you’re supposed to be working on? That’s a form of procrastination. R. D. Clyde said, “It’s amazing how long it takes to complete something we’re not working on.” Next time you’re about to postpone a responsibility ask yourself, “Do I have to do this? Do I want it done so it’s not on my mind? Will it be any easier later?” Those three questions can give you the incentive to mentally apply yourself because they bring you face to face with the fact this task isn’t going away, and delaying will only add to your guilt and make this onerous task occupy more of your mind and time.

U = Use Your Hands as Blinkers Picture your mind as a camera and your eyes as its aperture. Most of the time, our eyes are “taking it all in” and our brain is in “wide-angle focus.” We can actually think about many things at once and operate quite efficiently this way (e.g., imagine driving down a crowded highway while talking to a friend, fiddling with the radio, keeping an eye on the cars beside you, and watching for your exit sign.) What if you want to switch to telephoto focus? What if you have to prepare for a test and you need 100% concentration? Cup your hands around your eyes so you have “tunnel vision” and are looking solely at your text book. Placing your hands on the side of your face blocks out surroundings so they are literally “out of sight, out of mind.” Think about the importance of those words. Want even better news? Does the name Pavlov r-r-r-ring a bell? If you cup your hands around your eyes every time you want to switch from wide-angle to telephoto focus, that physical ritual becomes a Pavlovian trigger. Remember? Pavlov rang the bell, fed the dog, rang the bell and fed the dog, until the dog started salivating as soon as he heard the sound of the bell. Similarly, using your hands as blinkers every time you want to narrow your focus teaches your brain to switch to “one track” mind and concentrate on your command.

S = See As If For the First or Last Time Want to know how to be “here and now” and fully present instead of mindlessly rushing here, there, and everywhere? Frederick Franck said, “When the eye wakes up to see again, it suddenly stops taking anything for granted.” Evelyn Underhill said, “For lack of attention, a thousand forms of loveliness elude us every day.” I constantly relearn this lesson. One time I was giving my sons their nightly back rub. Although I was sitting right next to them, I might as well have been in the next country because I was thinking of the early morning flight I needed to take the next day and wondering if I had packed my hand-outs, if my ticket was in my purse, etc. Suddenly, my unfocused eyes fell upon my sons and I truly SAW Tom and Andrew as if I was looking at them for the first time. I was immediately flooded with a sense of gratitude for these two healthy, thriving boys. I felt so blessed to have been gifted with such wonderful sons. In an instant, I went from being absent-minded to being filled with a sense of awe and appreciation for their presence in my life. Next time your mind is a million miles away, simply look around you and really SEE your surroundings. Study that exquisite flower in the vase. Get up close to the picture on the wall and marvel at the artist’s craftmanship. Lean in and really look at a loved one you tend to take for granted. This will “Velveteen Rabbit” your world and make it come alive in your mind’s eye.

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YOU MUST HAPPY WITH YOUR LIFE THAN YOU WILL SUCCESS

Here is the happiness training routine suggested by your happiness coach.

  1. Happiness is a State of Mind. Remember that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status in society or the size of our bank account. As long as we are not in poverty, as long as we have the means for adequate food and shelter, our level of well-being is determined by what we choose to focus on (the full or the empty part of the glass) and by our interpretation of external events. There’s a little joke about the glass that is half full. The optimist sees the glass and says, “The glass is half full.” The pessimist looks at the glass and says, “The glass is half empty.” The industrial engineer looks at the glass and says, “You have twice as much glass as you need for the job!”For most of us, early childhood was a time of rapturous happiness. Everywhere we looked were fresh new sights and experiences. Life made powerful impressions on us. We lived in the moment with each new experience, neither judging it against the past, because we didn’t have much past to judge against, nor trying to build a future on it. We had little sense of time passing, and we lived in each moment that presented itself, happily and fully. We were less self-aware, and our thoughts were turned outward. It is that experiential sense of life that we want to recover that brings happiness with it.
  1. Treat Yourself Like Your Favorite Child. The caring, the attention, the concern that you would give a small child, give that same attention to yourself. Put good food on your plate at regular times. Listen to your inner voice. Set up regular times for exercise, reading and sleep, and discipline yourself to keep that schedule. Make sure you meet friends, take care of your health, and practice moderation. Think about the person who is you. Do you have what you need for a good life? You would not treat someone you love the way you have been treating yourself. Love yourself.
  1. Create Moments of Happiness. What gives you happiness depends on who you are. Do you enjoy a half hour of exercise? A few minutes of absolute quiet? A evening with a crowd of friends? A hike in the woods? Plan your own happiness for today. If you use a day planner, schedule time for your Moment of Happiness. Give it the top priority. Let nothing distract you from it. Pay attention to how you feel during this experience and let happiness come. Live in that moment of happiness. Relive the moment again later. Journal it. Remember it.
  1. Clear Out Unhappiness. What obstacles to happiness are there in your life? These can weigh you down, so that it’s hard to be happy. Pay attention to what makes you feel unhappy. Are you especially fearful, sad or anxious? Find someone you can talk to about your feelings. Avoid things that make you unhappy. See less of unpleasant people whenever possible. Talk less and dwell less on your difficulties. Do not gossip or complain or envy others. If a problem is dragging you down, solve it or deal with it; put it behind you as soon as you can. If your thoughts make you unhappy, practice changing your thoughts to more positive ones. If your habits are bad for you, make up your mind to change them and find help to change them. If you have an addictive behavior, recognize it, admit to it and lay a plan for recovery. You have the power to recreate your life and reclaim happiness.
  1. Embrace Happiness. Happiness is contagious. You can catch happiness just by talking to happy people. Read books with a happy outlook. Listen to pleasant music with an easy tempo. Sing along or hum if you don’t know the words. Develop a friendship with a cheerful person. Spend time dancing to music. Stretch often. Exercise often. Tell yourself jokes. Practice positive thinking. Look for the good in the moment. Expect happy things and you will find them.
  1. Keep a Gratitude Journal. Positive emotions create feelings of happiness. Optimism, hopefulness, curiosity and gratitude are part of the basket of emotions that makes up happiness. One emotion that is most valuable is gratitude. The exercise of keeping a daily Gratitude Journal is a tool that builds happiness. Every day you can write down in your Gratitude Journal the things that you are grateful for. Journaling encourages you to notice the good things that happen and calls to your attention the positives of your day. Don’t take your life for granted. Your journal entries may be simple, like finding a good parking place, or another day when the car didn’t break down, or an exchanged hello. You might mention an accomplishment at work, a good meal, a phone call that mattered. When you start looking for moments worthy of your gratitude in your day, you will find many of them.
  1. Know Your Emotions. When you feel sadness, accept it as a natural part of life. When you accept emotions such as fear, sadness or anxiety, you are more likely to recover quickly. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness. Setbacks are also part of life. Don’t be hard on yourself. Give yourself permission to be human.Do you think that more money will make you happier? Everyone, rich and not so rich, believes that with a little more money they would be happier. There are several research studies on the happiness of lottery winners. The studies seek to determine if a mega-million jackpot makes the winner happier. Initially, the winner enjoys a period of euphoria, as he considers the world of possibilities that have opened up. But after a few months of conspicuous consumption, the lottery winner returns to his previous level of happiness. A blithe spirit will return to a peaceable frame of mind. A worried spirit will worry about losing the money. An impulsive spirit will be able to afford more impulsive behaviors. The lottery money may even lead to a feeling of discontent, as more money fuels more unsatisfied desires. Strange but true, we are as happy as we are, for reasons that have nothing to do with money or status.
  1. Pretend That You Are Happy. How does an actor portray a happy person? Cast yourself in that role, and behave as if you are that happy character. Being happy makes you happy. This sounds like an illogical recursion, but it’s not. Acting as if you’re happy will make you happier. When someone smiles at you or you see the picture of a smile, you feel calmer and relaxed. Tickling raises the laughing response, too. Laughing, like a gentle aerobic exercise, reduces levels of stress hormones, allows the lungs to take in more oxygen, and increases the metabolism.Did you know there are Laughter Clubs just to enjoy the benefits of laughter? These clubs are gatherings of people who spend a half hour together laughing heartily. They benefit from the laughing reflex, even when they don’t feel like laughing. Going through the motions of a good rollicking laugh for no reason at all chases stress and worry away. The clubs celebrate World Laughter Day on the first Sunday in May, but you don’t have to wait until then to practice your laughing.
  1. Simplify! We are generally too busy, trying to squeeze in more and more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much. Last week at the supermarket, I was almost run down by a shopper pushing a grocery cart. He was talking on his cell phone and barged into the intersection of two aisles without a look-see. Instinctively, I grabbed his cart to hold it back. After the mini-incident, he still couldn’t interrupt his phone conversation long enough to offer me a “Sorry.” His electronic conversation took precedence over the in-person one. I don’t think he really noticed me at all, even after the incident.The skill of multi-tasking is highly overrated. Folks who study the brain and how it works say that we really don’t multi-task at all. If we try to do two things at once, we slight one of the jobs in favor of the other. We really can’t concentrate on two things at once. Either we neglect the one and focus on the other, or we are entirely distracted by a third event. The brain is not like a computer with two central processors running. The brain is more like a single computer processor, which we train to do time-slicing. A brief interval on this task, then an interrupt signal, then a brief slice of time on the second task. Time-slicing works for the computer, because the tasks are programmed for it. For us humans, time-slicing uses up more time than it saves. Multi-tasking makes us anxious.The inventions of modern life, although they benefit us, can also make us feel stressed and unsettled. Avoid watching television, particularly the news. Take a holiday from the televised horror and disaster. Shut off your cell phone and your electronic devices. Even checking your email leads to anxiety. Have you heard of the Luddites? They were a nineteenth century group who opposed factories and mechanization. They believed it would dehumanize us. What would Luddites think of our electronically driven lifestyle, I wonder? Reclaim some free time for yourself.
  1. Give of Yourself. Give your time and your caring. Don’t expect acknowledgment or gratitude in return. Just give. Volunteer for a cause that you care about. Give a small gift to share with someone. Baby-sit a child. Adopt a pet or take care of someone else’s pet. When people want to talk, give them your attention and make the effort to listen to them. Share yourself and your life with other people.
  1. Be Spontaneous. Take the opportunity to enjoy life as it happens. Be curious about life. Be inquisitive. Be amazed. Be amused. Make it your New Year’s resolution to try new things. Better yet, don’t wait until the New Year to make your resolution. We’re not talking about extreme activities like bungee jumping or moving to Sri Lanka. But do resolve to visit new places, try new foods, meet new people, plan new activities. Resolve to get out of your rut whenever you can. Events that take you out of your comfort zone make you more aware of life, and, yes, happier.
  1. Find Work That You Love. When you were ten years old, what did you enjoy doing most? What do you do when you don’t have to go to work? What do you enjoy so much that you don’t have to be paid to do it? Look in that direction for your career or your hobby. Find meaningful activities that give you a sense of accomplishment and enjoyment. Perhaps you’ve heard this wise saying: The person who has a job she loves will never have to work a day in her life.What are your aptitudes? Examine your abilities and skills. Try out different activities that interest you. Learn and practice your skills. Your interest will grow naturally, the way a flower turns toward the sun. Think about the job you want, talk it up, meet people in the field, and then go all out for it. When your activities have meaning and value, you will find happiness. Concentrating deep in thought as you seek to understand something is itself a pleasure. It creates a sense of satisfaction and, yes, happiness.
  1. Practice Being Happy. Happiness lies at the intersection of pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, your goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. These activities will add the buzz of happiness to boost your mood throughout the week. Hang a funny cartoon on the door. Get a funny book to read. Toss a Frisbee outside. Memorize a joke and tell it to a friend. Sit still and try to clear your mind of thoughts. Plan a get-together. Clean something. Learn to ride a bike again. Watch a tree in the wind. Make cookies for someone. Plant something. Paint something. Study something. Speak kindly to someone. Visit a new part of town. Smell the roses. You will restore your sense of playfulness and your sense of relaxation. You will increase your sense of well-being and harmony.

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5 tips usahawan berjaya

1. MERANCANG DAN DAPATKAN HASIL Tidak kira di mana sahaja di dunia, kebolehan merancang dan mendapatkan hasil adalah tugasan yang paling berharga sekali. Tidak kira dalam bidang politik, keluarga atau individu, merancang akan dapat membuahkan hasil yang lebih teratur dan baik. Begitu juga dalam perniagaan. Untuk menjadi usawahan yang berjaya, kebolehan merancang dan mendapatkan keputusan adalah amat penting. Sebelum memulakan apa sahaja perniagaan, satu perancangan yang lengkap perlu diadakan (jangan nak main terjun sahaja!). Apabila perniagaan sudah dimulakan, perancangan masih diperlukan dalam menganalisa strategi pemasaran untuk mengembangkan perniagaan anda. Apabila perniagaan anda sudah maju, perancangan masih diperlukan untuk memastikan perniagaan anda mendapat pasaran terbesar dan tidak diambil oleh pesaing anda! Dalam setiap peringkat perniagaan, perancangan dimestikan dan tidak pernah ditinggalkan oleh usahawan yang berjaya. Usahawan yang berjaya akan sering Tanya pada diri sendiri: – Apakah keputusan yang diinginkan dalam perniagaan ini? – Bagaimana keputusan itu dapat dicapai? – Siapa yang dapat membantu mengembangkan perniagaan ini? – Apakah kebolehan atau ilmu tambahan yang saya perlukan untuk mengembankan perniagaan ini? Kebolehan anda untuk mendapatkan hasil dan bertanggungjawab atas keputusan anda adalah tanda seorang usahawan yang gemilang. 2. BERI LEBIH DARIPADA APA YANG DISANGKAKAN Kunci kejayaan sesuatu perniagaan adalah untuk melakukan lebih daripada apa yang disangkakan. Bak kata mat salleh, “Go the extra mile!”. Maksudnya adalah untuk anda melakukan tugasan anda dalam perniagaan lebih daripada apa yang disangkakan oleh orang lain. Kebiasaannya, seorang pekerja hanya akan melakukan tugasannya apabila disuruh. Pekerja akan melakukan kerja berdasarkan pendapatan yang diterima. Tetapi, untuk menjadi usahawan yang berjaya, menteliti sebagai “pekerja” tidak lagi boleh disimpan. Pelanggan akan mengetahui bahawa anda sanggup bekerja ekstra untuk memenangi hati mereka. Usahawan lain juga akan dapat melihat peluang bekerjasama dengan anda oleh kerana anda berusaha sekeras-kerasnya dalam perniagaan anda. Melakukan kerja lebih daripada apa yang disangkakan akan membuka pintu rezeki kepada perniagaan anda. 3. MEMASAR DAN MENJUAL! Ini adalah kunci utama kejayaan sesuatu perniagaan- pemasaran dan menjual! Tahukah anda bahawa lebih 95% perniagaan baru gagal dalam tahun pertama ia ditubuhkan? Ya, statistik ini amat mengejutkan bagi bakal-bakal usahawan. Namun, sekiranya anda mempunyai cirri-ciri usahawan yang berjaya, ia dapat menjauhkan daripada statistic ini. Kebolehan memasar dan menjual apa yang anda niagakan adalah nadi kepada apa jua jenis perniagaan. Kebolehan yang diperlukan adalah: – Kebolehan berkomunikasi – Kebolehan merunding – Kebolehan memujuk pembeli membeli – Kebolehan menjual produk atau perkhidmatan anda Kunci kejayaan apa jua perniagaan adalah jualan dan keuntungan yang tinggi. Tanpa kebolehan “menjual”, matlamat sesuatu perniagaan tidak dapat dicapai. Aliran wang (cash flow) adalah amat penting dalam perniagaan dan aliran wang hanya akan diperolehi melalui menjual produk dan perkhidmatan anda. Oleh kerana menjual adalah amat penting dalam perniagaan, pelajari kaedah-kaedah menjual melalui buku-buku, seminar perniagaan dan juga seminar komunikasi. Dua tip dalam menjual: 1. Seseorang itu tidak dilahirkan boleh menjual! Menjual adalah suatu kebolehan yang boleh dipelajari. Seperti menunggang basikal, ianya agak sukar pada peringkat awal. Tetapi, apabila berkali-kali melakukan perkara yang sama, ia menjadi semakin mudah. 2. Komunikasi adalah penting dalam perniaagaan. Namun, berkomunikasi bukan sekadar maksudnya banyak bercakap! Tetapi juga untuk bijak mendengar. 85% kejayaan anda adalah bergantung kepada mereka disekeliling anda. Pelajari kaedah berkomunikasi, mendengar, memujuk, persembahan untuk mendapat kerjasama dari pelbagai pihak dalam membantu menjayakan perniagaan anda. 4. FAHAMI ANGKA PERNIAGAAN Dimana kebolehan utama seseorang usahawan yang berjaya seperti yang telah dibincangkan adalah yang melibatkan apa yang dapat dilihat oleh orang ramai, namun jangan sesekali mengabaikan perkara-perkara yang tidak dapat dilihat oleh orang ramai- iaitu angka-angka perniagaan anda! Kebanyakan usahawan lebih fokus kepada strategi memajukan perniagaan dengan memberi tumpuan kepada pekerja, pelanggan, produk, perkhidmatan dan pemasaran sehinggakan melupakan isu penting iaitu penyata kewangan. Anda tidak perlu menjadi pakar dalam bidang perakaunan, tetapi, apa yang penting adalah untuk anda fahami penyata kewangan anda. Tugasan mengurus penyata kewangan boleh diagihkan kepada mereka yang lebih bertauliah. Namun, sebagai usahawan yang berjaya, anda perlu memahami pengiraan wang dalam penyata kewangan anda supaya wang yang masuk tidak menjadi wang keluar sehingga menjejaskan keuntungan keseluruhan perniagaan anda! 5. TIDAK PUTUS ASA MENCUBA Warga Forum sekalian, seperti yag dikatakan sebelum ini, 95% perniagaan akan gagal. Ini bermaksud, anda hanya mempunyai 5% peluang untuk berjaya! Sedih bunyinya bukan? Kunci terkahir adalah tidak berputus asa! Anda kenali manusia terkaya didunia, Bill Gates. Tahukah anda bagaimana beliau menjadi manusia terkaya dalam perniagaannya yang boleh dikatakan yang paling berjaya di dunia? Pada ketika ini sahaja Microsoft sedang membangunkan dan menguji lebih darpada 1,600 produk dan perkhidmatan yang balum lagi dipasarkan dimana kebanyakannya tidak akan dipasarkan pun dan dikira sebagai projek gagal. Mengapa begini? Microsoft tahu bahawa lebih banyak mencuba, maka lebih banyak peluang menjumpai kejayaan. Usahawan yang berjaya adalah mereka yang tidak putus asa dalam usahanya untuk menjumpai 5% peluang kejayaan itu. Walaupun dikatakan 9/10 rezeki datangnya dari perniagaan, rezeki tersebut tidak akan tercapai sekiranya anda tidak mendalami ilmu perniagaan. Ambil langkah demi langkah dan pelajari selok belok perniagaan. Kejayaan perniagaan akan datang kepada anda sekiranya anda mendalami ilmunya.

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1. Anda bukanlah berunding dengan syarikat,jabatan, organisasi dan sebagainya. Tetapi anda berunding dengan manusia—jadi anda perlu mengambil kira kepentingan yang akan diperoleh oleh pihak yang satu lagi. Sebab setiap orang yang sentiasa ingin mendapat faedah. 2. Persepsi adalah realiti—manusia sentiasa membuat keputusan berdasarkan apa yang difikirkan sebagai benar. Jadi anda perlulah cuba untuk membina persepsi yang positif untuk pihak yang lain. 3. Sentiasa bersedia menarik diri daripada rundingan—kadang-kala terdapat sesetengah pihak yang cuba mengambil kesempatan. Rundingan bukan beerti anda harus korbankan segala. Jadi anda perlulah membuat keputusan secara bijak. Bukan hanya memberi keuntungan kepada sebelah pihak sahaja. 4. Seandainya anda perlu memberikan komisen maka anda juga perlu mendapatkan komisen— bila anda orang meminta sesuatu daripada anda maka anda perlulah meminta sesuatu sebagai balasan (barangkali tindakan ini adalah untuk mendapatkan suatu bentuk jaminan, kira main tarik tali la nie) 5. Jangan bertolak ansur dengan diri sendiri— untuk penyataan ini saya pun x berapa nak faham. Tapi bunyinyer macam lebih kurang jangan menjadi pak sanggup. dengan erti kata lain jangan dedahkan diri kepada komitmen sebelum diberikan tawaran. 6. Kembangkan isu-isu dalam perundingan— cari jalan untuk “menjual” sesuatu yang rendah nilainya pada anda tetapi tinggi nilainya untuk pihak lain.Sebagai balasan dapatkan sesuatu yang tinggi nilaiannya buat anda tetapi rendah nilainya buat pihak lain. 7. Jangan tamak— penyakit tamak ini akan menjadi pembunuh kepada rundingan anda. Apa yang perlu untuk anda lakukan menumpukan kepada hubungan jangka panjang. Anda seharusnya membiarkan pihak yang satu lagi berasa bahawa mereka mendapat “lebih daripada perjanjian yang adil”. 8. Elakkan perundingan yang bersifat konfrontasi— Anda perlu mencari asas yang sama dengan pihak yang merunding supaya tidak berlaku bersekutu. Jadikan perundingan sebagai proses untuk mencari penyelesaian kepada masalah. 9. Berunding dengan kepentingan bukan jawatan— Kenal pasti kepentingan dan keperluan yang sebenar di sebalik kedudukan dan lihat melalui pandangan orang lain untuk memenuhi keperluan tersebut. 10. Fahami prinsip kemerosotan nilai dalam perkhidmatan— berundinglah berkaitan pampasan dan ganti rugi sebelum melaksanakan perjanjian anda kerana nilai perkhidmatan akan jatuhmendadak setelah anda melakukan perkhidmatan tersebut atau setelah anda menghantar barangan tersebut.

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34 Little Ways to Share With the World

Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on twitter or identica.

As kids, we’re taught that sharing is good, and yet competition is what is really drilled into us. We compete for profits, positions in a corporation, status symbols, space. We’re tearing each other down instead of building each other up. A culture of sharing has always existed, from the earliest tribal times, and it’s seeing a resurgence on the Internet these days. This is a good thing. I’ve written many times before about helping others, developing an attitude of giving and compassion, and having faith in humanity. As have many others. But now we’re going to look at where the rubber meets the road: how you can start sharing today. Build communities, beautiful public spaces, stop thinking about private property and how you can build fences, and start thinking about ways to use common resources to reduce wastefulness and to start tearing down those fences. Here are some ideas to get you started:

  1. Help an entrepreneur with a Kiva donation.
  2. Volunteer your services with a homeless shelter, soup kitchen, or other charity organization.
  3. Donate money, food, or others goods to charity.
  4. Bake cookies or brownies and share with a neighbor.
  5. Put your favorite recipes on a blog and share with the world.
  6. Volunteer your expertise (whatever it is) to the world, and give those services to anyone who needs them.
  7. Give step-by-step instructions for doing something valuable you know how to do, online, for all to read.
  8. Give your books away to friends or charities.
  9. Start a community garden in your neighborhood, or contribute to an existing one.
  10. Start a CSA, or become a member of one that exists.
  11. Become a member of Freecycle, and participate.
  12. Join or form, and participate in a cooperative (food, bikes, books, housing, more).
  13. Give people a ride in your car. Carpool.
  14. Let strangers use your car when you don’t need it.
  15. Hold potlucks every week, rotating among friends/family.
  16. Look into co-housing.
  17. If you own copyrighted work, uncopyright it.
  18. Perform random acts of kindness.
  19. When someone wants to repay you for something, ask them to pay it forward instead.
  20. Contribute code to Free and Open-Source Software (FOSS).
  21. Donate money to a small programmer who has created FOSS, or buy shareware.
  22. Clean up a park near you.
  23. Sign up, participate, and contribute to bike sharing, car sharing, and other sharing organizations.
  24. Help transform streets back into public spaces meant to be shared by everyone. (more)
  25. If you’re in southern California, check out Neighborgoods.
  26. Borrow and lend things in your neighborhood by using Share Some Sugar.
  27. Barter via Craigslist. Or try u-exchange, trashbank, care to trade, trade a favor, or joe barter.
  28. Share your tips with others online or through a free ebook.
  29. Create great software and give it to the world for free.
  30. Smile. Be compassionate in all human transactions.
  31. Invest in a friend who wants to start her own business. Don’t ask for the money back for at least a few years.
  32. Make things, and give them to people.
  33. Read to the blind, help the elderly, assist those with disabilities.
  34. Start or contribute to a tool-lending library in your neighborhood.

This list is only to get you started. The ways you can share and make this world a better place, today, is limited only by your imagination. Post inspired by Sharable, an amazing amazing site.

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The Ultimate Minimalist: 5 Powerful Lessons You Can Learn From Gandhi

Gandhi led by example with a life of simplicity.
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Arvind Devalia, author of Get the Life you Love, and blogger at Make It Happen.

Would you like to learn some lessons in life from the ultimate minimalist? Gandhi’s life offers us many key lessons — he practiced simplicity and minimalism in all areas of his life and he left behind a huge legacy in how to live a life of simplicity. Gandhi was indeed the ultimate minimalist – a man who died a pauper but who affected the lives of many – and continues to inspire us with his message even today. When Gandhi died, he had less than ten possessions including a watch, spectacles, sandals and eating bowl. He was a man of non-possession and didn’t even possess a house.

“You may have occasion to possess or use material things, but the secret of life lies in never missing them.” ~Gandhi

Gandhi was actually born into a prosperous family and had a very privileged upbringing, which included a prestigious education in England in the days when travel from India to England took many months by sea. He studied Law at University College in London and he was subsequently invited to join the Bar there. Though born into wealth, he ultimately gave it all away and through the course of his life managed to let go of material trappings. He followed a life of simplicity. 1. Accumulate little Gandhi believed in possessing little except the clothes he wore and some utensils for cooking and eating. He used to give away or auction any gift that was ever given to him. It may not be possible these days for us to get down to less than ten possessions like Gandhi did, but start cutting down to bare basics. Recycle, give things away, or auction your unwanted possessions. Take up the 100 thing challenge and see if you can get down to owning less than 100 or even less than 50 things. We tend to spend a lot of time and energy looking after our possessions. By having fewer things to possess and look after, your life naturally becomes simpler. Gandhi's life belongings 2. Eat simple food Gandhi never had a problem with being overweight. He followed a strict vegetarian diet and frequently cooked his own simple food, which was locally produced. He ate this simple food from a small bowl, a reminder to eat moderately, and at the same time he ate mindfully, often accompanied by prayers. So eat simply and moderately. 3. Dress simply. Gandhi wore simple clothes that conveyed his message. There is this anecdotal story of the time when Gandhi met the King of Great Britain in London and he wore his simple wrap around cloth. A journalist asked Gandhi, “Mr Gandhi, did you feel under-dressed when you met the King?” Gandhi replied, “The King was wearing enough clothes for both of us!” Though it may not be practical to weave your own cloth and make your own clothes, you can simplify your life by dressing for comfort, not to impress. A simple hairstyle can shorten your grooming routine. You could even go as far as Gandhi and Leo Babauta and shave your hair off. 4. Lead a simple, stress-free life Gandhi never got stressed. He meditated daily and spent hours in reflection and prayer. Though he was a world leader and idolised by millions, he continued to lead a simple life with few distractions and commitments. He would even interrupt his political meetings to go off and play with children. And despite all his needs being taken care off, Gandhi still insisted on doing his own simple things. He advocated self-sufficiency and simple work. So don’t take life too seriously — remember to take time out to play. 5. Let your life be your message Though he was a prolific writer and powerful speaker, in private Gandhi spoke very quietly and only when necessary. He was also very punchy and concise in his writing. He preferred to let his life do the talking for him. By living a simple life, Gandhi was able to devote his life to his chosen higher purpose. He was totally focussed on his commitment to his people and the world. Even if you don’t wish to be another Gandhi, your life will be much simpler and happier by following his life lessons.

“If one has wealth, it does not mean that it should be thrown away and wife and children should be turned out of doors. It simply means that one must give up attachment of these things!” ~Gandhi

Start living a simpler life from today — and you will release a lot of time and energy. This will give you the space to create the life you really want to live, a life that is inspired and inspiring. So does what you do and how you live convey your message to the world? This is a guest post from Arvind Devalia, author of Get the Life you Love, and blogger at Make It Happen.

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13 small things to simplify your workday

Work simply and with focus.

“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” ~Lao Tzu

Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on twitter or identica.

One of the best things I did when I decided to simplify my life was to simplify my workday — first at my day job and later, by quitting my day job, in the work I do now as a writer and entrepreneur. I’ve eliminated most of the routine, boring, administrative tasks with a few simple principles. These days, I have eliminated the non-essentials, and can focus on what I truly love: creating. Not everyone can make such drastic steps toward simplicity, but if you have some control over your workday, you can do a few small things that will simplify things greatly. If you don’t have control, or if you find yourself thinking, “I can’t do these things”, I’d start to ask why not? Is it possible to change things, if not today then over the long term? I found that often I thought something wasn’t possible (working from home, for example), but in the long run they were. You don’t need to do all of these things — pick just one, and try it. Then try another and see if it works. Experiment to find what works for you. And enjoy the simple work life.

  1. Start early. Going into work early was one of my favorite tricks — it was quiet, before the phones and chatter and meetings started, and I could get a lot of work done in peace. By the time everyone else was getting started, I’d gotten two or three big tasks checked off.
  2. Limit your hours. It’s ironic, because so many people work long hours and think they’re getting more done and being more productive. But they’re throwing brute hours at the problem. Instead, cut back on your hours and set a limit — say 6 or 7 hours a day — and get your most essential work done within that limit. If you know you’re only working 6 hours today, you’ll be sure to get the important tasks done first and waste less time. Limits force you to be effective.
  3. Make a short list. Make a long list of all the tasks you need to do … then make a short list of 1-3 things you really want to get done. Choose so that, if you got only these tasks done, you’d be proud of what you did today. Start with the most important task, before checking email or reading online.
  4. Batch distractions. What are your common distractions? Perhaps things like email, reading blogs, Twitter or another social network? Set a time for these, preferably later in the day: say, from 3-4 p.m. Don’t do the distractions before then. By grouping them all into one time period, you allow yourself to do other work first, but still get in your distraction time. Another approach might be to do them for 10 minutes at the end of each hour — but stick to that 10-minute limit!
  5. Write shorter emails. If email takes up a lot of your day, the simple change of limiting yourself to 3-4 sentences per email will make a big difference. First, it’ll drastically shorten the time it takes to write or respond to emails. And second, it’ll shorten responses to your emails, which means you’ll spend less time reading email.
  6. Limit meetings. The fewer the better. Some top Google executives just do 5-minute meetings — anyone who attends these meetings had better be prepared, and concise. If you can get out of meetings and just get the notes, or find an alternative way to communicate, it could save you hours per week.
  7. Automate. The fewer repetitive and routine tasks you have to do, the more time you’ll free up for creating and important work. So automate wherever possible: have people fill things out electronically, or get info from your website instead of emailing or calling you, or use a service that automatically processes payments or ships your product, and so on.
  8. Eliminate paperwork. I used to deal with a lot of paperwork, and even then I knew it was a waste of my time. If businesses and organizations could have paperwork filled out electronically, it would save a lot of paper, copying, filing, and duplicate effort. Whenever possible, eliminate paperwork in favor of digital. This might be more of a long-term move.
  9. Clear your desk. This can be done in a few minutes. Clear everything off the top of your desk. Only put back a few essential items. Everything else should be: filed, given to the appropriate person, given a permanent spot in a drawer, or trashed/recycled. Make quick decisions and then get back to work.
  10. Get away. If you can get out of your office, you can find a peaceful spot where you can focus on important work. Find a spot where you can work, turn off the Internet and do your work, and then turn the Internet back on so you can email or upload it to the appropriate spot. Working from home is a good option here. The more you can do this (it might be once a week, or an hour a day, or half of every workday), the better.
  11. Take breathing breaks. Every 15-20 minutes, get up from your desk, and take a breathing break. It could be simply walking around the office, saying hi to someone, or even better, getting outside to get some fresh air. Walk around, get your blood circulating, perhaps massage your neck and shoulders if you feel tension. Do some pushups if you want to get fitter. When you get back to work, remind yourself what you want to be working on, and clear away all distractions.
  12. Practice a focus ritual. Every hour or two, do a refocus ritual. This only takes a minute or two. You might start it by closing down your browser and maybe other open applications, and maybe even take a walk for a couple of minutes to clear your head and get your blood circulating. Then return to your list of Most Important Tasks and figure out what you need to accomplish next. Before you check email again or go back online, work on that important task for as long as you can. Repeat this refocus ritual throughout the day, to bring yourself back. It’s also nice to take some nice deep breaths to focus yourself back on the present. More focus rituals.
  13. Schedule big blocks of creative time. Not everyone can do this, but when possible, put a big block of 3-4 hours in your schedule for creating or doing other important work. Make this time inviolate, and don’t allow meetings or other things to be scheduled during this time. Be ruthless about clearing distractions and doing the work you love during these blocks, taking breathing breaks as necessary. Rejoice in your creativity.

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How to Be a Positive Person, in Under 300 Words

‘Henceforth I ask not good-fortune, I myself am good-fortune.’ ~Walt Whitman

I’m a pretty positive person — I consider it one of the keys to the modest success I’ve had in creating new habits and achieving things in the last few years. I couldn’t have run three marathons without a positive mindset, nor created Zen Habits, mnmlist, or The Power of Less. I couldn’t have lost 50 lbs., quit smoking, eliminated my debt, or quit my day job. Positive thinking, as trite as it seems, has changed my life. I’m not going to sell you on it, but if you’re interested, here’s the condensed guide to changing your own life: Realize it’s possible, instead of telling yourself why you can’t. Become aware of your self-talk. Squash negative thoughts like a bug. Replace them with positive thoughts. Love what you have already. Be grateful for your life, your gifts, and other people. Every day. Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t. Don’t compare yourself to others. But be inspired by them. Accept criticism with grace. But ignore the naysayers. See bad things as a blessing in disguise. See failure as a stepping stone to success. Surround yourself by those who are positive. Complain less, smile more. Image that you’re already positive. Then become that person in your next act. Focus on this habit first, and you’ll have a much easier time with any other.

‘A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.’ ~Herm Albright INFO = WWW.ZENHABITS.NET

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4 Simple Principles of Getting to Completion

“If your mind isn’t clouded by unnecessary things, then this is the best season of your life.” ~Wu-Men

When I hear about a great idea that a friend has, I get excited. I can’t wait to see that idea become reality. Then I ask about the idea a few months later, and it often is not one bit closer to completion. Ideas stop short of becoming reality, and projects seem to drag on endlessly, because of one thing: complexity. A software programmer can allow the development of a new app he’s building to drag on and on for years (I know of cases where this happened), only to find Google release something that makes his app obsolete. The problem: the program grew and grew in complexity and features, but never shipped. A web developer can work on a rad new website with killer features, but after months of work the website never launches. Problem: too complex, and too much of a perfectionist. A writer can work on a novel, working in characters and plotlines, and then work on revision after revision, only to abandon it. The complexity of a book can become overwhelming. If your project has been dragging on, or you’re having problems completing, try simplifying, and stop trying for perfection. I’ve launched a number of projects over the last few years, and learned a thing or two about making ideas take life, and getting to done. Here are some of those key principles: 1. Keep the scope as simple as possible. You don’t need to do everything with this project. In fact, if you can just do one thing, that’s perfect. As small a thing as possible. Don’t redesign an entire city — just work on one building. If the project starts to get complex or seem overwhelming, narrow the scope. Do less. It’ll help you get things done. 2. Practice ‘Good Enough’. Perfectionism is the enemy of completion. Nitpick and worry about getting it “just right”, and you’ll never get it done. Done is better than right. So if you start to nitpick and worry about perfect, say “screw it” and then just try for “good enough”. You can always make it better in the next version. 3. Kill extra features. Similar to simplifying the scope, you’ll want to try to make your creation do as little as possible. Want it to talk and walk and cook breakfast? Just try for talking. Want your website to publish great content and have social networking and podcasts and news and a newsletter and a membership area? Just shoot for great content. Whenever you find yourself adding new features, see if they can’t be killed. 4. Make it public, quick. Your goal should be to get your project in some working form out to your customers/readers/public as soon as possible. In as few steps, as quickly, as easily, as simply as possible. Remember: don’t worry about perfect, and don’t let this first public release be wide in scope or full of features. Release it with as few features as possible. Releasing it publicly will 1) get you to done faster and 2) put some pressure on you to make it better, quickly.

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TIPS UNTUK BERJAYA 18

9 Steps to Achieving Flow (and Happiness) in Your Work

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“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” - Buddha

Post written by Leo Babauta.

Have your ever lost yourself in your work, so much so that you lost track of time? Being consumed by a task like that, while it can be rare for most people, is a state of being called Flow. In my experience, it’s one of the keys to happiness at work, and a nice side benefit is that it not only reduces stress but increases your productivity. Not bad, huh? When I wrote about the Magical Power of Focus, I promised to write more about how to achieve Flow, a concept that is very much in vogue right now and something most of us have experienced at one time or another. Today we’ll take a look at what Flow is, why it’s important, and how to achieve it on a regular basis for increased productivity and happiness at work. What is Flow? Put simply, it’s a state of mind you achieve when you’re fully immersed in a task, forgetting about the outside world. It’s a concept proposed by positive psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, and these days you’re likely to read about it on blogs and in all kinds of magazines. When you’re in the state of Flow, you:

  • are completely focused on the task at hand;
  • forget about yourself, about others, about the world around you;
  • lose track of time;
  • feel happy and in control; and
  • become creative and productive.

One thing I love about Flow is that it takes the very Zen concept of being completely in the moment, and applies it to work tasks. It’s a concept I’ve talked a lot about here on Zen Habits — being in the moment, focusing completely on a single task, and finding a sense of calm and happiness in your work. Flow is exactly that. Why is Flow Important? I believe the ability to single-task (as opposed to multi-task) is one of the keys to true productivity. Not the kind of productivity where you knock off 20 items from your to-do list (although that can be satisfying), where you’re switching between tasks all day long and keep busy all the time. The true productivity I mean is the kind where you actually achieve your goals, where you accomplish important and long-lasting things. As a writer, that might mean writing one or two important and memorable articles rather than 20 or 50 unimportant ones that people will forget 5 minutes after reading them. It means getting key projects done rather than answering a bunch of emails, making a lot of phone calls, attending a bunch of meetings, and shuffling paperwork all day long. It means closing key deals. It means quality instead of quantity. And once you’ve learned to focus on those kinds of important projects and tasks, Flow is how you get them done. You lose yourself in those important and challenging tasks, and instead of being constantly interrupted by minor things (calls, emails, IMs, coworkers, etc.), you are able to focus on the tasks long enough to actually complete them. And by losing yourself in them, you enjoy yourself more. You reduce stress while increasing quality output. You get important stuff done instead of just getting things done. You achieve things rather than just keeping busy. Flow is one of the keys to all of that. How to Achieve Flow and Happiness in Your Work So how do you achieve this mystical state of being? Do you need to meditate or chant anything? No, you don’t (although meditation can improve your ability to concentrate). And Flow is anything but mystical — it’s very practical, and achieving it isn’t mysterious. It can take practice, but you’ll get better at it. Here are the key steps to achieving and benefiting from Flow:

  1. Choose work you love. If you dread a task, you’ll have a hard time losing yourself in it. If your job is made up of stuff you hate, you might want to consider finding another job. Or consider seeking projects you love to do within your current job. At any rate, be sure that whatever task you choose is something you can be passionate about.
  2. Choose an important task. There’s work you love that’s easy and unimportant, and then there’s work you love that will make a long-term impact on your career and life. Choose the latter, as it will be a much better use of your time, and of Flow.
  3. Make sure it’s challenging, but not too hard. If a task is too easy, you will be able to complete it without much thought or effort. A task should be challenging enough to require your full concentration. However, if it is too hard, you will find it difficult to lose yourself in it, as you will spend most of your concentration just trying to figure out how to do it — either that, or you’ll end up discouraged. It may take some trial and error to find tasks of the appropriate level of difficulty.
  4. Find your quiet, peak time. This is actually two steps grouped into one. First, you’ll want to find a time that’s quiet, or you’ll never be able to focus. For me, that’s mornings, before the hustle of everyday life builds to a dull roar. That might be early morning, when you just wake, or early in the work day, when most people haven’t arrived yet or are still getting their coffee and settling down. Or you might try the lunch hour, when people are usually out of the office. Evenings work well too for many people. Or, if you’re lucky, you can do it at any time of the day if you can find a quiet spot to work in. Whatever time you choose, it should also be a peak energy time for you. Some people get tired after lunch — that’s not a good time to go for Flow. Find a time when you have lots of energy and can concentrate.
  5. Clear away distractions. Aside from finding a quiet time and place to work, you’ll want to clear away all other distractions. That means turning off distracting music (unless you find music that helps you focus), turning off phones, email and IM notifications, Twitter and Growl, and anything else that might pop up or make noise to interrupt your thoughts. I also find it helpful to clear my desk, even if that means sweeping miscellaneous papers into a folder to be sorted through later. Of course, these days there isn’t anything on my desk, but I didn’t always work like this. A clear desk helps immensely.
  6. Learn to focus on that task for as long as possible. This takes practice. You need to start on your chosen task and keep your focus on it for as long as you can. At first, many people will have difficulty, if they’re used to constantly switching between tasks. But keep trying, and keep bringing your focus back to your task. You’ll get better. And if you can keep your focus on that task, with no distractions, and if your task has been chosen well (something you love, something important, and something challenging), you should lose yourself in Flow.
  7. Enjoy yourself. Losing yourself in Flow is an amazing thing, in my experience. It feels great to be able to really pour yourself into something worthwhile, to make great progress on a project or important task, to do something you’re passionate about. Take the time to appreciate this feeling (perhaps after the fact — it’s hard to appreciate it while you’re in Flow).
  8. Keep practicing. Again, this takes practice. Each step will take some practice, from finding a quiet, peak time for yourself, to clearing distractions, to choosing the right task. And especially keeping your focus on a task for a long time. But each time you fail, try to learn from it. Each time you succeed, you should also learn from it — what did you do right? And the more you practice, the better you’ll get.
  9. Reap the rewards. Aside from the pleasure of getting into Flow, you’ll also be happier with your work overall. You’ll get important stuff done. You’ll complete stuff more often, rather than starting and stopping frequently. All of this is hugely satisfying and rewarding. Take the time to appreciate this, and to continue to practice it every day.

“To be able to concentrate for a considerable time is essential to difficult achievement.” - Bertrand Russell SOURCE= WWW.ZENHABITS.NET

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30 Things to Do to Keep From Getting Bored Out of Your Skull at Work

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The war between being and nothingness is the underlying illness of the twentieth century. Boredom slays more of existence than war. - Norman Mailer

I’m not one to get bored, ever … but a number of readers have written in with the question: What do I do if I’m bored out of my skull at work? It gave me pause, to think about why I can’t recall ever getting that bored at work. And I realized: I always keep myself busy, doing something, whether it’s productive or not. Sometimes, I’m creating a new project, or improving myself somehow … but sometimes I just find interesting stuff to read online or find a cool solitaire game to play. (Well, I haven’t played any games in awhile, but Freecell used to be my poison of choice a few years ago.) So the short answer: just find things to entertain yourself. Keep your mind busy. Challenge yourself. Talk to somebody. Break out of your mold. The longer answer has to do with analyzing why you’re bored in the first place. Is your job that boring? Are you really doing what you want to be doing? Is there a way to start pursuing something better? Or are you already in a great job, but something or someone is holding you back? And what can you do to improve the situation? I’m not going to pursue the longer answer in this post, but give you some ideas for the shorter answer. It’s not an exhaustive list of ideas. Just some things I’ve done to keep my mind busy — pick and choose those that might work for you.

  1. Create a new challenge. I think this is by far the best thing on the list, but you may differ. Many times we’re bored because we don’t have a challenge — things are too easy or routine. So instead of waiting for someone to create a challenge for you, do it yourself. How can you challenge yourself? Set a new goal at work. Challenge yourself to produce more than ever. Explore new projects. Set personal goals and pursue them. Whatever excites you.
  2. Pursue your next job. If your job is so boring you don’t know what to do with yourself, you may need to move on. But instead of quitting right away, start lining up your next gig first. Look around for openings, call people, update your resume and submit it to a few places, pick up a few applications, send out some email feelers. Find something that will never get you bored, something you’ll be passionate about.
  3. List your life goals. What is it you want to accomplish in life? Not just with work, but personally? If you’ve listed them before, it’s always good to update them. Then choose one of those goals to achieve this year. Now think about what you can do today to move closer to that goal, even if it’s just a small thing. Get the ball rolling. Do this every day — move yourself closer to that goal.
  4. Read Zen Habits. Or whatever your favorite distraction is. If it’s something that will improve your life, even better. Just limit how long you read at one time, so you’re not reading through the Zen Habits archives in one sitting.
  5. Declutter your workspace. If I’ve got nothing better to do, I’ll clear off my desk (if there’s anything there), or start looking around critically at everything in view and asking myself, “Does that really need to be there? How can I simplify this?” Weird, I know, but I have an oddly uncluttered workspace. Right now my desk is a table, my iMac, an nothing else. No files, no papers, no office supplies, nothing. Everything is done on my computer, and I love it that way. Nothing on my walls. You may not need anything as spartan as that, but decluttering can be a lot of fun.
  6. Pursue a hobby. My hobby (until it became a profession) was blogging … I would do it at work in my spare time, or before or after work. Not everyone can pursue their hobby at work — the model airplane glue might bother your coworkers, for example — but sometimes you can just read about it while at work. I was upfront about my blogging and freelancing at work with my boss, btw, but many people get away with doing it on the sly. I won’t make a recommendation, but just don’t get fired.
  7. Make your work a game. You can make a game out of anything. See how many widgets you can crank in 10 minutes. Pretend that your coworkers are evil villains. Imagine that you are a CIA agent in disguise, and no one knows. Or a fairy princess. Whatever floats your boat. :)
  8. Educate yourself. On Guam, this is called “edumacation” — it’s not a real word, but we like to play with English. Whatever you call it, you can improve your knowledge online in any area — whether that be work-related or not. Be your own college instructor. Wikipedia is a great place to start, but if you’re going to have a specialized knowledge in anything, branch out from there.
  9. Improve your skills. Along the same lines: choose a skill that needs sharpening, and challenge yourself to get better at it. Whether that’s computer programming, writing, working with Adobe InDesign, or whatever. Perfect your skills — you can use it to further your career, get a new job, or become self-employed. Or just have the satisfaction of knowing you’re the best you can be at that skill.
  10. Play Sudoku. Perhaps not the most intellectual game of all time, or the most exciting … but I still find it a lot of fun. I only played it a little while and didn’t get addicted like other people I know, but I have to admit it’s a fun way to pass the time.
  11. Choose a soothing desktop picture. I like to do this when I’m procrastinating. I will go online, to flickr or some desktop wallpaper website and browse around until I find a very simple, soothing picture. I do this maybe every month or so. In fact, I’m going to go do that right now!
  12. Do some pushups and crunches. If you’re bored, you might as well start getting in shape. You can do pushups and crunches right there on the floor next to your desk (or go outside if you’re worried about your coworkers seeing you). Or walk up some steps, or do squats and lunges without weights, or dips in your chair, or butt squeezes (that means squeeze your own butt, not your coworkers’).
  13. Take a day or two off. Sometimes you just need to refresh yourself, recharge your batteries before starting again. Don’t do any work while you’re out. Veg out, or read, or sleep, or exercise, or whatever. Get your mind off work. Think about your priorities. Get out in nature. Reconnect with your life.
  14. Take a walk. Often this is all I need, especially if I’ve been sitting all day and my blood is pooling up in my butt and legs. I need to get that blood circulating! Go outside, walk around, look at people, look at nature, think about your day and your life and the people in it.
  15. Drink some water. Dehydration can make us tired and sluggish. Water can refresh us. Keep that water coming all day long — you may need to pee more though.
  16. Call a loved one. What better time to call someone to catch up, to tell them you love them, to just say hi … than when you’ve got nothing better to do. It’s a nice way to stay connected.
  17. Read. I like to carry a novel everywhere I go. Then I whip it out anytime I have spare time, waiting at the doctor’s office, in line at the post office, driving in the Indy 500 … you know. If not a novel, carry around a “to read” folder with stuff you want or need to read but don’t have time for right now … then whip it out at your desk when you’re bored. You could have a “to read” folder on your computer too.
  18. Start writing your novel. Many of us have a novel that’s tossing itself around in our heads and hearts, waiting to come out. Well, start getting it out, mister. Just start by writing some notes, thinking about characters and plot and what the hell this book is about anyway. It’s not going to come out by itself.
  19. Take a nap. If you don’t have a good place to do this, you can curl up under your desk with a sweater, or go to your car and sleep. I’ve learned how to fall asleep at my chair, but thank goodness I’m working at home and can go to the couch in a napping emergency.
  20. Create a new project or role. If things are stagnating at work, start something new. Create and innovate. What can you do that has a lasting impact for your company and for yourself, for your career? If you’re stuck in a dead-end role, create a new role for yourself. It doesn’t matter if it’s not in the job description. Find something that’s not being done by someone else, something that needs to be done or that hasn’t been thought of yet, but that would really benefit the company — and take it upon yourself to do it. You might need to talk to your boss, but sometimes you can just start doing something and inform the higher-ups later. If it’s good for the company, and if they’re smart, they’ll be happy.
  21. Write a love letter. If you have a significant other, write a letter telling them why you love them. They’ll love it. Email is fine, but pen and paper are even better.
  22. Do one small thing to make yourself wealthier. That might be creating a savings account if you don’t have one yet, or setting up an automatic transfer between checking and savings every payday, or researching a money market fund or index fund, or simply reading Get Rich Slowly or The Simple Dollar for personal finance basics.
  23. Write a blog post. This is something I love to do when things get slow. I’ll just call up a text file and start writing. I love lists, of course (you guys should know that by now), so often I’ll just start making a list, and writing down my thoughts. If things are really slow, I’ll do the whole blog post. I can always post it later if necessary. Make sure you love what you’re writing about.
  24. Do an errand. This can either be in the office (“Where’s that ink cartridge I’ve been needing all week?”) or outside the office (“I really should buy toilet paper today!”). It gets you moving, it gets you away from the scene of your boredom, and it accomplishes something useful.
  25. Update your personal finances. I used to track my finances through Microsoft Money, but I’ve since switched to using a Google spreadsheet, so that it’s online and accessible from anywhere. I considered other online solutions, but personally, I like to keep things as simple as possible. However you do it, it’s a good idea to update your financial tracking system once a week or so, so that you know where you stand and you don’t overspend. Got some spare time? Update.
  26. Meditate at your desk. Some people would say this is just a fancy term for taking a nap. But for me the key is not to fall asleep, but to close my eyes and focus on my breathing. Nothing new-agey about this — it brings your focus back to the present and calms you. Sometimes it’ll calm you so much you’ll fall asleep. I say, two birds, one stone.
  27. Organize your files. OK, this might seem boring to many people, but I like to organize things. I get a perverse satisfaction from purging useless stuff and having everything be smaller, neater, and in order. And it doesn’t take long.
  28. Clear out your inbox. I get joy out of an empty inbox, whether that’s my email inbox or physical one. Crank through it until it’s empty — you don’t have to do everything in the inbox, but just make a note of it on your to-do list if you plan to do it later (or delete, file, forward, or do it now). Got a thousand or two emails in your inbox? Put them in a temporary folder and do them later, starting with a fresh inbox. Chances are, you won’t need to do them at all. Now just keep your inbox empty from here on out.
  29. Crank up the tunes. Some funky or upbeat tunes might just do the trick. They can make any job much more fun. Either play it on your speakers if your coworkers don’t mind, or plug in the earbuds. Currently on my playlist: Radiohead, Clap Your Hands Say Yeah, the Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Jack Johnson, Snow Patrol … I could go on and on.
  30. Get wild! Sometimes we just need to let loose. Start singing at the top of your lungs, or dance around the office. Sure, people might stare or laugh, but a little fun in the office isn’t a bad thing. Or get out of the office and do something fun or crazy. One afternoon of wildity isn’t going to hurt you (well, stay away from things that are illegal or life-threatening, if possible).

The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity. - Dorothy Parker SOURCE=WWW.ZENHABITS.NET

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The Magical Power of Focus

“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.” - Qui-Gon to Anakin, Star Wars Episode I

The quote above, as cheesy as George Lucas’ writing often is, contains a nugget of Jedi wisdom that I’ve repeatedly found to be true. Your focus determines your reality. It’s something we don’t think about much of the time, but give it some consideration now:

  • If you wake up in the morning and think about the miserable things you need to do later in the day, you’ll have a miserable day. If you wake up and focus instead on what a wonderful gift your life is, you’ll have a great day.
  • If we let our attention jump from one thing to another, we will have a busy, fractured and probably unproductive day. If we focus entirely on one job, we may lose ourselves in that job, and it will not only be the most productive thing we do all day, but it’ll be very enjoyable.
  • If we focus on being tired and wanting to veg out in front of the TV, we will get a lot of television watching done. If, however, we focus on being healthy and fit, we will become healthy and fit through exercise and good eating.

This may seem simplistic, but it’s completely true. This is the magical power of focus. Let’s look at some of the ways you can use focus to improve different aspects of your life.

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” - Buddha

Focus on a Goal In my experience, focus is the most important determination of whether you’ll achieve a goal or stick to creating a new habit. Not self-discipline, not rewards, not sheer willpower, not even motivation (also an important ingredient, however). If you can maintain your focus on a goal or habit, you will more often than not achieve that goal or create that habit. If you can’t maintain your focus, you won’t achieve the goal, unless it’s such an easy goal that it would have happened anyway. It’s that simple. Why does focus matter so much? Let’s say you decide you want to declutter your house — that’s your goal for this month. So the first day, you’re completely focused on this goal, and you get boxes and trash bags and fill them up with junk. The second day, you’re still focused, and you fill up a bunch more boxes and you’ve cleared most of two rooms with progress on another. This goes on for a few more days, with your focus being on this goal, and lots of progress made. However, let’s say that a week into your decluttering, you decide you want to become a runner. You are now focused on running, and not only do you go out to jog for a few days, you buy running clothes and a Nike-equipped iPod and read running blogs and magazines. However, you’ve lost your focus on decluttering, and soon you aren’t doing much of it, because your focus is on running. In fact, you’ve added more clutter because you’ve bought all the running equipment and magazines and books. Meanwhile, I have maintained my focus on decluttering the entire month, and by the end of the month, I have a nice, simplified house. I did it through focus. This is why I am constantly advocating focusing on only one goal at a time. Having multiple goals spreads out your focus, and makes it less likely that you’ll complete any of the goals. It’s possible, but with a diffused focus, it’s much more difficult. Even with only one goal, maintaining focus can be difficult. You need to find ways to keep your focus on that goal. Some good examples that work for me:

  • Read about your goal as much as possible, on websites and blogs and in books and magazines.
  • Post up reminders on your wall, refrigerator, and computer desktop.
  • Send yourself reminders using an online calendar or reminder service.
  • Tell as many people as possible about it, and post your progress on your blog.
  • Have a time each day to work on the goal, with a reminder in your schedule each day.

Maintain your focus on your goal, and you’ve won half the battle in achieving it. Focus on Now I’ve written about this before, but focusing on the present can do a lot for you. It helps reduce stress, it helps you enjoy life to the fullest, and it can increase your effectiveness. Focusing on now, rather than the past (“I can’t believe she said that to me!”) or the future (“what am I going to say in the darn meeting today?”) isn’t easy, and takes a lot of practice. Focus on the Task at Hand Have you ever completely lost yourself in a task, so that the world around you disappears? You lose track of time and are completely caught up in what you’re doing. That’s the popular concept of Flow, and it’s an important ingredient to finding happiness. Having work and leisure that gets you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly lead to happiness. People find greatest enjoyment not when they’re passively mindless, but when they’re absorbed in a mindful challenge. How do you get into flow? Well, it takes a bit of practice, but the first step is to find work that you’re passionate about. Seriously — this is an extremely important step. Find hobbies that you’re passionate about. Turn off the TV — this is the opposite of flow — and get outside and do something that truly engages you. Next, you need to clear away distractions and focus completely on the task you set before yourself. This is the part that takes a lot of practice. I’ll write more about this later. Focus on the Positive One of the key skills I’ve learned is how to be aware of my negative thoughts, and to replace them with positive thoughts. I learned this through quitting smoking and running — there are many times when you feel like giving up, and if you don’t catch these negative thoughts in time, they’ll fester and grow until you actually do give up. Instead, learn to focus on the positive. Think about how great you feel. Think about how other people have done this, and so can you. Think about how good it will feel when you accomplish what you’re trying to do. Also learn to see the positive in just about any situation. This results in happiness, in my experience, as you don’t focus on the bad parts of your life, but on the good things. Be thankful for what you’ve been given. More here. What are your thoughts on focus? Share in the comments.

“We are what we think; as we desire so do we become! By our thoughts, desires, and habits, we either ascend to the full divine dignity of our nature, or we descend to suffer and learn.” – J. Todd Ferrier

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Here’s 7 powerful ways to make sure you’re going to get the most of out any situation in life:

  1. In every situation, ask yourself “What do I want to get out of this?”. You need to know what your aim is. Ever get into an argument where you forgot what you were arguing about, but you knew you had to be right? Know what you’re going to try and end up with in any given situation, and you’ll be able to achieve it far more easily, with far less stress and friction.
  2. Don’t assume the worst in people. There’s an old saying, “If a man thinks he’ll die tomorrow, he’ll probably find a way to make it happen.” If you look for faults in your partner, or expect them to cheat, you’ll push them away and only make it more likely. If you expect friends to fail you, you’ll set them up to do it. Try and look for the good in people, and treat them how you want to be treated yourself.
  3. Respect everyone. Not just the people you like, or the people you get along with, but everyone. Forgive the people who do you wrong. Take time to help those who wouldn’t help you. Reach out to people who would harm you. If you see someone sitting alone, take a walk across the room and say hi. Make time for people in your life. You’d be amazed at the difference it makes in your attitude to life.
  4. Walk away when you’re angry. If you’ve got a hot head, you’re not going to be thinking straight. Take some time to cool off, then come back and look at why you got upset, remember that the other person is probably upset too, and then try and see it from their point of view. Always remember, if you believed as they do, you’d probably argue just as hard. Respect their point of view, and let them voice their opinion. That way, they’ll be more likely to do the same for you.
  5. Slow down. We live in a world where we’re used to instant gratification of every desire. However, there’s something to be said for perseverance. Like Guinness say, it takes 119.5 seconds to pour the perfect pint. Some things take time, but that’s OK. Let it come when it’s ready. And while you’re waiting, you can look at whether what you’re waiting for is really what you want.
  6. Tell others what you’re aiming for. If other people know what you’re trying to do, what you’re focusing on, then firstly they might be able to help, and second they’ll be able to hold you accountable. Making excuses to yourself is pretty easy.
  7. Own your actions. If you screw up, admit it to yourself. Taking your eye off the ball is OK, as long as you re-focus, and get back on track. A boat is off course most of the time its en route to its destination. But it still gets there. How? Because the navigator makes tiny adjustments contently, to get it where it’s meant to go. Do the same with your life. It’s not about making one big leap to perfection, but tiny little changes every day, until you get there.

PETUA UNTUK BERJAYA

SUMBANGAN OLEH: KAMARUDDIN HASSAN

Apakah sifat-sifat istimewa yang dimiliki oleh orang-orang yang berjaya dan berhemah tinggi? Mengapakah mereka terus menempa kejayaan demi kejayaan sedangkan dalam masa yang sama orang lain terus dilanda masalah? Jawapannya ialah bagaimana mereka melihat setiap masalah yang dihadapi. Mereka mengendali setiap masalah secara betul dan praktikal. Mereka juga memahami enam prinsip yang berhubungkait dengan jenis masalah. Penulis yang menemui jawapan ini dalam buku “Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do” oleh Dr. Robert H. Schuller ingin berkongsi dengan semua pembaca  blog Master Arsyad untuk menuju kejayaan. 6 petua ini dipetik daripada buku tersebut. 1. SETIAP INSAN YANG HIDUP MEMPUNYAI  MASALAH Apakah masalah anda? Anda tidak mempunyai pekerjaan? Mungkin anda berfikir bahawa setelah mendapat pekerjaan semua masalah akan lenyap. Mereka yang mempunyai pekerjaan juga bermasalah. Mereka mengeluh kerana terpaksa bangun pagi untuk ke tempat kerja setiap hari kerja. Dan ratusan, mungkin ribuan pekerja mendapat kerja yang tidak mereka sukai. Sesetengah  orang pula beranggapan bahawa masalah mereka timbul kerana terpaksa melapor diri kepada seorang ketua. Tetapi ramai ketua yang menghadapai masalah, sama ada dari segi perhubungan atau pun pengurusan kakitangan. Jadi bagaimanakah keadaan dengan mereka yang berjaya? Adakah mereka terkecuali daripada menghadapi masalah? Sebenarnya setiap kejayaan tidak menghapuskan masalah, ia melahirkan masalah yang baru. Terimalah ini sebagai satu hakikat hidup seharian. 2. SETIAP MASALAH MEMPUNYAI JANGKA MASA YANG TERHAD Setiap masalah akan berakhir. Lambat laun ia akan pergi jua. Ketepatan kenyataan ini adalah jelas kalau kita menoleh kebelakang melihat sejarah manusia. Tamadun manusia menghadapi detik-detik kegemilangan dan juga kejatuhannya. Institusi kamanusiaan yang menghadapi suasana kemelesetan akan satu ketika nanti menuju kemercu kejayaan secara perlahan-lahan. 3. SETIAP MASALAH HARUS MEMPUNYAI PENGARUH POSITIF Setiap masalah mengandungi bahan atau ramuan rahsia potensi yang kreatif, sama ada untuk diri anda atau pun orang lain. Masalah yang dihadapi oleh seseorang boleh dijadikan modal perniagaan yang menguntungkan untuk orang lain. Contohnya, seseorang yang pernah diisytiharkan muflis oleh mahkamah boleh bertindak sebagai seorang panasihat kepada mereka yang akan diumumkan sebagai muflis. Masalah yang dihadapi oleh seseorang boleh memberi kesempatan atau peluang baik kepada orang lain. 4. SETIAP MASALAH BOLEH MENGUBAH SIKAP ANDA Sebagai contoh, kita kadang kala tersua dengan seorang jurujual yang berjaya. Tetapi bila diselidiki, ia berkelulusan dalam bidang sejarah dan pendidikan yang tidak ada kaitan dengan kerjayanya. Sebenar ia dahulunya bekerja sebagai guru. Tetapi sebagai seorang guru yang menjemukan, ia telah menimbulkan banyak masalah kepada majikannya hingga ia diberhentikan kerja. Kerana marah disebabkan pemberhentian kerjanya, ia berazam untuk menunjukkan kepada masyarakat bahawa ia juga boleh berjaya dalam hidup. Kini ia bersyukur kerana dibuang kerja kerana peristiwa itu membuat ia sangat marah hingga bertekad untuk terus berusaha hingga berjaya. 5.  ANDA BOLEH BUAT PILIHAN UNTUK MENGAWAL MASALAH Anda mungkin tidak dapat mengawal masalah. Tetapi anda boleh merancang tindakan balas terhadapnya. Sekiranya anda mengawal rancangan tindakan balas terhadap masalah hidup, bermakna anda telah dapat mengawal masalah yang melanda diri sendiri. Masalah boleh membuat anda lemah atau sebaliknya. Ia juga boleh membuat anda hidup dengan lebih baik ataupun menderita. Semuanya bergantung kepada diri anda. 6. SETIAP MASALAH MEMPUNYAI TINDAK BALAS YANG NEGATIF DAN POSITIF Akhir sekali, orang-orang yang cekal hati boleh terus hidup walaupun dalam keadaan yang menyulitkan. Kerana mereka memilih untuk bertindak balas secara positif dalam keadaan sulit atau berbahaya walaupun ia bukan satu perkara yang mudah. Misalnya, apakah tindak balas positif jika seseorang itu menghadapi masalah kewangan yang rumit? Dalam situasi ini apakah tindakan positif yang harus diambil? Larikan diri daripada penagih hutang? Mencari jalan keluar seperti minum hingga mabuk atau sebagainya? Tidak! Tindakan balas negatif itu hanyalah penyelesaian sementara yang boleh membuahkan lain-lain masalah baru. Tindakan positif terhadap masalah itu memerlukan semangat yang kuat untuk membuat langkah pertama. Ia memerlukan keberanian untuk bersemuka dengan penagih hutang dan berunding secara jujur dan terus terang. Jika mereka berkeras, maka jalan paling baik yang harus diambil secara undang-undang dan terhormat ialah menerima diisytiharkan sebagai muflis oleh mahkamah. Pendek kata “Sekiranya anda tidak dapat selesaikan masalah, maka anda harus mengendalikannya”

MOTIVASI UNTUK BERJAYA DARI AL QURAN

Setiap hari aku memerhatikan ayat-ayat itu…ayat-ayat memberiku semangat…Biarpun beratus-ratus buku motivasi ku baca, namun ayat-ayat itu lebih bersemangat dan mengajarku seribu erti…aku bukanlah seorang hafiz, hanya sebagai pemerhati semata…Pun begitu, inginku sampaikan dan berkongsi bersama kalian sebagai ingatan kita bersama… Sahabatku, Dalam kita melangkah pergi, terkadang kita diuji dengan seribu keperitan, terasa berat oleh kita untuk melangkah apatah lagi untuk berlari…namun itu semua hanyalah sementara, kerana selepas malam akan bergantinya siang yang indah…biarpun pelangi tidak akan selama-lamanya muncul tak kala malam menjelma, namun tak kala mentari terbit kemungkinan di situ akan muncul pelangi indah biarpun pelangi itu bukanlah suatu yang mudah untuk kelihatan hanya tak kala bumi ditimpa hujan… Sahabatku yang ku kenali, Ayat-ayat ini ku tuliskan untukmu sebagai ingatan kita bersama… Ayat-ayat yang penuh dengan peringatan dan hikmah… Ayat-ayat yang diturunan olehNya kepada junjungan besar untuk disampaikan… “Demikianlah Kami bacakan kepadamu (Muhammad) sebagai ayat-ayat dan peringatan yang penuh hikmah” – Ali Imran : 58. Sahabatku yang ku kasihi, Tiada motivasi yang sesungguhnya ku temui melainkan kekuatan dari ayat-ayat ini… Ayat-ayat yang inginku kongsikan bersamamu agar dikau menjadi seorang yang tabah… “Tidak ada sesuatu musibah yang menimpa (seseorang), kecuali dengan izin Allah; dan barang siapa beriman kepada Allah, nescaya Allah akan memberi petunjuk kepada hatinya. Dan Allah Maha Mengetahui segala sesuatu”. – at-Tagabun : 11 “(Yaitu) orang-orang yang apabila ditimpa musibah mereka berkata “Sesungguhnya kami milik Allah dan kepadaNyalah kami akan kembali”” – Innalillahi Wa inna Ilaihi Rajiun. –al-Baqarah : 156. Sahabatku yang ku rindui, Ketahuilah hakikat bahawa segalanya itu adalah ujian bagimu untuk menguji keimananmu… “Apakah manusia mengira bahawa mereka akan dibiarkan hanya dengan mengatakan, “kami telah beriman”, dan mereka tidak diuji?” – al-Ankabut :1 Sahabatku, Sesungguhnya ujian itu sebenarnya dan selayaknya buatmu, hanya dikau yang mampu untuk menempuhinya, walaupun terasa berat olehmu… “Allah tidak membebani seseorang melainkan sesuai dengan kesanggupannya” – al-Baqarah : 286. “Allah tidak membebani seseorang melainkan (sesuai) dengan apa yang diberikan Allah kepadanya”- at-Talak : 7 Sahabatku yang ku kasihi, Apalah ertinya jikalau kau sentiasa bersedih dengan apa yang berlaku terhadapmu… Bangunlah dikau dan terus berlari dan jangan biarkan dirimu terus lumpuh tak berdaya… Kau adalah orang yang terkuat dan gagah yang ku temui di dalam pengembaraan ini… “Dan janganlah kamu berasa lemah, dan jangan (pula) bersedih hati, sebab kamu paling tinggi (darjatnya), jika kamu orang yang beriman” – ali Imran : 139. Sahabatku, Jikalau kau berasa kau bersendirian, ketahuilah bahawa kau tidak bersendirian… Masih ada yang sentiasa mendengar keluh kesahmu… Janganlah dikau takut dan bersedih hati, kerana DIA sentiasa bersamamu… “Dan mohonlah pertolongan (kepada Allah) dengan sabar dan solat. Dan (solat) itu sungguh berat, kecuali bagi orang yang khusuk” – al-Baqarah : 45 Ayat-ayat ini yang selama ini menjadikan ku seorang yang kuat dalam melangkah, biarpun seringkali jua aku tersunggur…ingin ku sampaikan untuk dirimu agar mampu bersama-sama untuk melangkah pergi…terlalu banyak ayat-ayat yang memberi semangat, namun hanya sekadar ini sahaja yang mampu ku sampaikan sebagai tanda ingatanku untukmu…

KENAPA ANDA PERLU GAGAL SEBELEUM BERJAYA

Siapa pernah gagal?? Semua orang pernah gagal..Ada tak sesiapa yang tidak gagal?? Dalam dunia ini kena ada kegagalan dulu baru ada kejayaan.. Contohnya, semasa kecil, kali pertama kau mahu berdiri? Kau jatuh, kau bangun semula & kau jatuh lagi. Selepas itu kau bangun lagi kerana ketika itu kau memandang kegagalan sebagai satu perkara yang membawa kebaikan. Alangkah positif’nya hidup seorang kanak-kanak. Kenapa kita tidak bawa persepsi itu sehingga dewasa? Kenapa kita perlu takutkan risiko, kesilapan & kegagalan? Ini antara sebab kenapa kau perlu menghargai sebuah kegagalan lebih dari sebuah kejayaan.

  1. Kau belajar dari kesilapan. Semua orang tahu ini, Setiap kali kita buat kesilapan atas tindakan kita, kita akan belajar sesuatu yang baru & juga ia mengajar kita supaya tidak mengulanginya. Tetapi, masih ada antara kita yang terlalu fobia akan kesilapan. Perlu di’ingat, mereka yang tidak pernah gagal adalah mereka yang tidak berbuat apa-apa dalam hidup sebenarnya.
  2. Kegagalan adalah pembelajaran. Katakan anda kini dalam bidang perniagaan & anda mencuba satu teknik pemasaran yang memakan belanja RM3,000 — dan gagal. Di sini anda belajar bahawa teknik tersebut tidak berkesan dengan sistem perniagaan anda & anda tidak akan ulangi lagi. Pengalaman & pengetahuan yang anda dapat bernilai lebih dari RM3,000 tersebut. Jika anda tidak mencuba, anda tidak akan tahu, betul tak?
  3. Diri anda akan semakin kuat. Kegagalan seharusnya menjadikan manusia lebih kuat. Jika kegagalan membuatkan seorang manusia itu lemah & mahu mati, sebenarnya dia telah gagal sejak awal lagi. Kegagalan akan membuatkan lebih yakin untuk mengambil risiko & tegar akan kesilapan kecil.
  4. Kejayaan anda semakin hampir. Sama kes seperti kita mula-mula mencuba merangkak, setiap kegagalan adalah tanda kita semakin boleh berdiri. Jadi, jangan takut untuk gagal. Jika ada idea, lakukan sahaja. Gagal atau berjaya itu belakang kira — yang penting anda cuba.

Techniques to Build Self Motivation

Fear and reward are two most commonly used methods to build motivation in someone. But, these methods are temporary. The only lasting thing is self motivation. Motivation actually is the enthusiasm of doing something. It refers to inner feeling, strong desires, and expectation about something. You may sometimes loose the necessary level of the inner drive to get something done. Self motivation is what you need to boost the level of your inner drive to achieve your goals. Self motivation is a form of self encouragement. You will say to yourself that you have the capacity to do better and eventually get whatever you want in your life. This inner enthusiasm will push you forward until you achieve your set goals. You may not even be aware of any reward in the beginning but you keep working on it. You work on it because your inner strength says that you can attain your goals. This is your will power – the driving force behind your self motivation. Self motivation is a combination of will power, goals and ability to continue attaining the highest level of your success. You need self motivation to accomplish tasks you have now. Along the way, you may be facing with situations that are discouraging and can bring down your motivational level. You need to keep yourself really focused on your objectives to maintain the level of your self motivation. Here are techniques you can adopt to start acquiring higher motivational level and achieve greater success. Writing Your Plan Success does not come easy without any proper plan. Failing to plan is actually planning to fail. Therefore, you must give a greater emphasis on having well prepared plan to achieve your goals. You simply need to have your plan written on a piece of paper. Having your plan clearly written gives you more psychological inner drive to work toward achieving your goals. You create more enthusiasm and can see more clearly how you want to achieve your goals. Thus, your commitments will be much stronger. When writing down your goals, state very specific terms. For example, if you want to accumulate certain amount of money, state exactly how much you want. You must also set a specific date to fulfill your goals and specific rewards for achieving your goals. Writing is not enough if you do not follow up with some reading. You have to make a point to read your written plan at least twice a day. Once in the morning before you start your day; and one at night just before you go to bed. This simple routine will keep you stay motivated. Be realistic, things happen in life. Unforeseen circumstances may sometimes require you to make adjustments in your plan. Go ahead and make the necessary adjustments. But, try to maintain realistic limits. Do not make it too easy or too hard for you to achieve. Set it just right to maintain your motivation level. Visualizing Your Goals You need to simply make your goals as visual as possible to maintain your motivation at the highest level possible. If your goal is to own an apartment, find pictures of your desired apartment keep them in front of your eyes. Visualizing your goals creates a positive impact on your mind and keeps your motivation surging. When you feel very down, visuals will help you provide the necessary boost to surge your motivation level. Like the written plan, you have to make a point to see the visuals at least twice a day. The images you see of yourself achieving the goals you desire will instill strong impact in your mind, which will control your actions to maintain your level of motivation. Controlling Your Feeling This one is not quite straight forward action. It has to do with your feeling in your mind. You need to control what you feel. Your feeling will reflect your mental attitude and moods. If you feel upset and depressed, you will feel as if everything crashes on you. This feeling reflects on your physical self. You will lose concentration and everything you do will be full of mistakes. You have to learn to start controlling your feeling. The simplest way will be to start your day with a smile. No doubt this can be fake at times due to things that happen around you, but you have got to master this simple task to ensure that things around you will be pleasant and enjoyable for the rest of the day. You can feel the enthusiasm and energy level soaring. You will be able to stay motivated and spread positive energy around you. Your mental and physical attitudes work closely. Hence, to stay motivated, learn to develop cheerful and confident characters by simply walking with your face up and smile on it. You will realize that your confidence and self motivation developing. It is probably kind of hard to maintain the action, but with time, once it naturally becomes your way of life, you are able to motivate yourself even during difficult times. Giving Your Effort A Reward You need to give yourself a reward for what you have achieved. This one simply acts as an appreciation to yourself in achieving your goals. You have to credit yourself for what you have gone through, your determination and your hard work in ensuring your success. Earlier I said reward is a temporary method to motivate someone. In this case, a reward is not what keeps you motivated. It is just an element to add flavor to your self motivation exercise. You may want to think of a simple reward that sounds reasonable with what you have achieved. Do not get over excited about this. Meaning, the reward has to be at par with your level of achievement. Take this positively to further enhance your level of self motivation.

3 INGREDIENTS FOR SUCCESS

How do you set goals? Or more significantly how do you ensure that they are right for you? These are questions that are often asked and that you must be able to answer if you want to succeed. It’s easy to set goals about the house you want to live in, the car you want to drive, and the places you want to visit. But really they are just the material results of achieving your goals. There are other more basic things you should really be concentrating upon from which all other outcomes will be reached. But what are these key components of setting meaningful goals? Well they are threefold – your health, your wealth, and your relationships. Health When you are setting goals for your health you are setting the foundations for all the things you want to achieve in your life. Without good health anything else will be all the harder to attain and to enjoy. Health based goals are likely to include things like weight management, fitness, blood pressure, skin and hair condition, and issues like stress and depression. They are all important but you should also consider your emotional wellbeing. Being happy and fulfilled is vital to your overall health so be sure to set goals accordingly. Wealth So you want to be a millionaire and enjoy all the trappings that go with being rich. That’s fine but to be effective your financial goals must be far more specific. If you’re in debt, say, then the number one goal is to get out of debt. But if you simply say, “I want to be free of debt” there’s a good chance you’ll fail. Why? Well using the word “debt” immediately puts the focus upon the negative, whereas the best goals are set around positive actions. So instead you should frame your goal positively, such as, “On 31st December, 2011 I have “x” in the bank and earn “y” each month. That means I am financially independent and I can afford to do all the things I want.” Be specific about what you will have and what it means to you, and you are far more likely to get it. Relationships Have you ever heard the saying “No man is an island”? It’s true because even if you wish to stay single, you cannot live your life without having relationships with others. This may be your family, your friends, or simply the people you work or associate with each day. Whoever it may be you must know how you wish to treat them and interact with them. A good starting point is to consider how you wish to be treated by others and then ensure that you approach them the same way. Treat every stranger like a friend. If you set goals based around these three main components, and you will find they become interlinked, you will be far better placed to get what you really want in life. You can then start to look at specifics like work, education, leisure time, your location, and your habits and see what you need to do to get to the goals you have set. By all means have real concrete images of what achieving your goals will mean such as photos of the dream car or home, but be sure to focus upon what is really important -your health, wealth, and relationships.
Tony Hall is a marketer and business builder who works with others to help them to reach their full potential in business and in life. To learn more visit his website at http://www.ThisIsTonyHall.com

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5 TIPS TO GET WHAT U WANT IN LIFE

Many people practice it, shouldn’t you? Everyday living is crammed with options; you should get the most from yours and opt for the “glass is half full” options so that you will spend your time in a far more purposeful and rewarding way.

Listed below are 5 quotes. The first is in the most constructive publication ever published, the Scriptures. The others are from people who made a decision to change lives utilizing their life. You have decisions on a daily basis. What will you do with yours?

1. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs…” I Corinthians 13: 3 – 5)
The concept: Love Yourself and Others Unconditionally.

Have you ever exhibited love which simply flowed from you without the need of thought or condition? Many among us actually withhold love as a method of maintaining our surroundings along with circumstances. The idea leaves an individual incomplete in his own private existence and results in your cynicism. Others resent you and you have zero trust or esteem for others. To love devoid of condition suggests that there are no strings attached. You no longer expect to have anything in return for your expressions of love. There’s no judgement or repercussions regarding what the one who is the particular recipient of the love does with it. This is certainly highly liberating for you.

This doesn’t mean that you simply utilize the expression “love” loosely or flippantly. Most of us are doing this. No, love is in fact an action word. Therefore practice your daily life by loving others. Initially they won’t understand exactly what to do with this, nevertheless the eventual end result will be that it will change, not simply your life, and also the lives of individuals you affect. Find a method to convey unconditional love.

2. “The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”- Winston Churchill
The concept: Make the Impossible, Possible

Feel it can’t happen; then it will not. You possibly can make it through the hardship in life. Be taught by setbacks and take responsibility for your personal life. Paying attention to your own internal critic can destroy your goals. Stop the critic by simply reaffirming all the things you happen to be able to perform. Dream big and grow enthusiastic with regards to your future. Locate and unleash your untapped talents. Trust your abilities and understand what you may have to provide society. Think of all the stuff you simply can’t complete and attempt to complete them. Think back to a period of time, when something appeared to be tough but you made it possible to triumph over the obstacle. Continuing to live life inside of a risk-free compartment will not help you get anything in life. Undertake the vital actions to realize your desired goals. Stop presuming and begin achieving!

3. “There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin
The concept: Don’t be afraid to Take Risks

All things in life calls for a risk. Are you currently letting anxiety about being rejected and failure to shape your lifestyle? Fear halts accomplishment. Take risks and free yourself from restraining thinking. Taking risks allows you to ultimately take control of your life. Be curious about life; experiment and try new things. Create desired goals for yourself and take action. Step out of that which is risk-free, convenient and typical to you. Study just what sensations present themselves when you find yourself contemplating taking a chance. Ask, “What am I fearful of?” Disguising yourself within a risk-free package inhibits you from trying other opportunities. Grab hold of the mysterious and be expecting success. You will not fully understand the final result unless you accept the risk.

4. “Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.” -Henry James
The concept: When faced with possible setbacks, say “Yes” to life.

Yes is among the most powerful words in a person’s life. Any time you just say “Yes” to your opportunities in life, you open the threshold to success and future possibilities. Set your own standards and dare to live by them. Permit yourself to say yes when making choices without asking agreement or seeking the blessing of others. When confronted with a choice to participate in a relationship that will support and motivate you, say Yes. Say Yes to forgiveness. Work on your attitudes and outlook on a daily, no, make that a minute-by-minute basis. Say yes to a occupational change that promises the things you want in your life. Allow yourself to live a life centered on truth rather than the anxieties and stinking thinking that restricts and confines. Say Yes to life!

5. “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” – Annie Dillard
The concept: Leave a positive, lasting impression with your life.

Ask yourself this question, ” What exactly will I be remembered for when I am no longer here?” Or, more to the point, “What do I want to be remembered for?” The way you live your life basically becomes your legacy beforehand, and your judgements and choices determine how you live your life. Start out today by impacting those around you with your words and behaviour. Show gratitude to others and appreciation for their contributions. It is a personal God-given right to make a difference, whether it’s big, like in the case of Nelson Mandela, or even whether it only has an effect on your friends and relations. It’s your choice. It starts right this moment. No matter what your idea is, promote it with those that will pay attention. You never fully understand who is going to hear it. There will certainly never ever be another you. Give yourself and leave a long lasting legacy.

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